I’m a recently married groom and I can confidently state that our wedding was absolutely remarkable. If I could, I’d do it all over again without changing a single component in the equation. All our family and friends collectively agree that it was a truly extraordinary party. And that’s what your wedding should be, an extraordinary party… a celebration that is talked about and referenced by your guests for years to come.
With that said, it’s important to mention that prior to our wedding some of my male acquaintances (whom were recently married) tried to paint a dark picture in my mind. They attempted to warn me of the following fallacies:
- Stay out of the way when it comes to wedding planning. You won’t get what you want, and you’ll only end up annoying “her”.
- Just agree with whatever “she” picks. She wants to handle everything anyway.
- The wedding is a one time waste of money. Cut costs at all costs.
All three of these false statements were voiced by men who did it the wrong way. The bottom line is that a wedding belongs to both the bride and the groom. While it is true that the bride will fuss with every last detail based on some evolving dream that surfaced in her mind sometime shortly after she was born, the groom should definitely be involved. You should want to be involved. It’s only a waste of money if you miss the fundamental point: The goal is to throw the greatest party you have ever and will ever host. And if you think about it for a second, planning a badass party should be a lot of fun.
Forget about the decorations, stay far away from the cake, and let her handle the wedding theme and locale. Let’s face it, you can’t grasp a hold of all those artsy particulars anyway. You want to support her choices in that arena, but you need to personally fulfill duties that make sense to you.
I’m going to split this article into six different parts. I’ll let this post act as an introduction to the remaining five parts. My intention is to break down a few simple wedding planning tasks that I performed. I’ll explain what I did with each task and give you insight into why I recommend the same tasks to other “grooms to be”. The topics I intend to cover are as follows:
- Be a Heroic Groom by Handling the Wedding Ring Selection
- Turn The Wedding Rehearsal Dinner into a Party
- Handle The Wedding D.J. and Reception Host
- Photography is Simple, yet Extremely Important
- The Booze, The Guest List, and The Officiant
Next week I’ll tackle bullet #1: “Be a Heroic Groom by Handling the Wedding Ring Selection”