Wedding Planning Tasks the Groom Will Actually Enjoy

I’m a recently married groom and I can confidently state that our wedding was absolutely remarkable. If I could, I’d do it all over again without changing a single component in the equation. All our family and friends collectively agree that it was a truly extraordinary party. And that’s what your wedding should be, an extraordinary party… a celebration that is talked about and referenced by your guests for years to come.

With that said, it’s important to mention that prior to our wedding some of my male acquaintances (whom were recently married) tried to paint a dark picture in my mind. They attempted to warn me of the following fallacies:

  • Stay out of the way when it comes to wedding planning. You won’t get what you want, and you’ll only end up annoying “her”.
  • Just agree with whatever “she” picks. She wants to handle everything anyway.
  • The wedding is a one time waste of money. Cut costs at all costs.

weddingAll three of these false statements were voiced by men who did it the wrong way. The bottom line is that a wedding belongs to both the bride and the groom. While it is true that the bride will fuss with every last detail based on some evolving dream that surfaced in her mind sometime shortly after she was born, the groom should definitely be involved. You should want to be involved. It’s only a waste of money if you miss the fundamental point: The goal is to throw the greatest party you have ever and will ever host. And if you think about it for a second, planning a badass party should be a lot of fun.

Forget about the decorations, stay far away from the cake, and let her handle the wedding theme and locale. Let’s face it, you can’t grasp a hold of all those artsy particulars anyway. You want to support her choices in that arena, but you need to personally fulfill duties that make sense to you.

I’m going to split this article into six different parts. I’ll let this post act as an introduction to the remaining five parts. My intention is to break down a few simple wedding planning tasks that I performed. I’ll explain what I did with each task and give you insight into why I recommend the same tasks to other “grooms to be”. The topics I intend to cover are as follows:

Next week I’ll tackle bullet #1: “Be a Heroic Groom by Handling the Wedding Ring Selection”

Our Justice System is An Illusion

Without descending into the depths of a lengthy narrative covering the vast insufficiencies of our social and legal justice systems, allow me to vent out some excess bitterness.

You are alone out there.  That’s the bottom line.  Nobody will be there to save you from your own stupidity.  Likewise, nobody will be there to save you from someone else’s inanity.  The mere act of traversing your daily routine places you evenly on a fine line between absolute triumph and utter defeat.  Freedom in life is a fragile privilege resting gently on the edge of muted detention.  Thus, our reasoning and rationale may fall on the deaf ears of those we employ to save us.  All the laws of society are only 50% assured at any given moment, so plan on uncertainty and injustice ahead.

Sorry about the negative rant.  My buddy was beaten in the face a couple days ago by some drunken college-age asshole.  He was attempting to break up a fight outside of a popular downtown watering hole.  The SOB left a large bloody gash across my buddy’s broken nose after he swiftly head-butted him for no reason other than for telling the drunk guy that fighting some other guy was foolish.  The cops detained the jerk for about 10 minutes, wiped their hands clean of the mess, and let the guy walk.  My buddy received a police department case number, followed up by a phone call the next day.  The policeman said that after a thorough investigation, there was no criminal fault made by the other party involved.  It was simply a quarrel between two parties that resulted in an injury.

Thorough investigation… my ass!  I guess the fact that my buddy never laid a finger on anyone is just an extraneous detail.  Oh, and assault and battery must be legal nowadays.  I witnessed this injustice firsthand… and it makes me sick to my stomach.

Lumahai Beach on Kauai’s North Shore

Lumahai Beach along the Hawaiian island of Kauai’s north shore is regarded by many travel websites as one of the most beautiful beaches in the world.  The beach is about 3/4’s of a mile long, a few hundred feet wide, and backed straight up against lush vegetated cliff sides.  There is no protective reef in the water which creates frequent high surf and thus extremely dangerous water conditions.  When bitter cold New Yorkers or Bostonians catch themselves daydreaming about a picture perfect tropical shoreline, Lumahai is surely the beach they envision.  Angel and I stumbled across it during our 8 hour beach hopping adventure throughout Kauai last week.  Among the photos we snapped here, here, here, and here… I also made a short video clip of the powerful surf.  This clip really doesn’t do it much justice, but it’s still pretty neat.  Enjoy.