Opportunities are like sunrises — if we wait too long, we miss them.
Too often we waste our time waiting for the ideal path to appear. But it never does of course. Because we forget that paths are made by walking, not waiting. Let this be your wake-up call today!
If we always sit around until we feel 100 percent ready for the journey, we will likely be sitting around for the rest of our lives. Most of the time we just have to get up and go for it. And no, we shouldn’t feel any more confident before we take the next step. Taking the next step is what gradually builds our confidence. Now is the time!
Yes, it’s finally time to admit that…
1. We often wait way too long to explore the things that call to us.
The world isn’t really as it is, but as we see it, and we all see it differently. So if you spend all your free time following trends and doing what everyone else is doing, you’re missing out. Try things out for yourself — try many things. Explore! See what calls to your soul, or what entices you to step forward, and then go for it. Find out everything you can about it. Find other people who love it too. Don’t waste precious time pretending to like things just because other people do — don’t end up with a bunch of mismatched circumstances in your life. Enjoy what you enjoy, listen to your intuition, and you will end up with more circumstances in your life that make you feel alive.
2. We often wait way too long to take meaningful action.
Some people wait all day for 5pm, all week for Friday, all year for the holidays, all their lives for happiness. Don’t be one of them! The world does not owe you a living; you owe the world a life. So stop daydreaming and start DOING things that matter. Take responsibility for your life today — take control! You are important and you are needed. It’s too late to sit around and wait for somebody to do something someday. Someday is now; the somebody the world needs is YOU.
3. We often wait way too long to trust ourselves with life’s challenges.
Just because you’re struggling doesn’t mean you’re failing. Every great success requires some type of worthy struggle to get there. So give yourself some extra credit along the way. Remind yourself that you’re doing the best you can, and that sometimes it takes an overwhelming series of little breakdowns to have an undeniable breakthrough. When in doubt just take the next small step. Sometimes the smallest step in the right direction ends up being the biggest step of your life. Truly, there’s a time and place for everything and every step is necessary. Just do your best right now, and don’t force what’s not yet supposed to fit into your life. It will happen, when it’s time.
4. We often wait way too long to appreciate what we have.
We often take for granted the very aspects of our lives that most deserve our presence and gratitude. How often do you pause to appreciate your health, your family, your home, or other seemingly stable fixtures in your life? Remember, nothing in life is fixed or guaranteed forever. Living in the present is a basic notion, but as with most simple things we often find a way to complicate it. So check yourself — there’s nothing complicated about learning to notice and appreciate your life as it’s happening.
5. We often wait way too long to be kind to others.
When you grow older and you look back on your life, you will inevitably forget a lot of the stuff that seemed so important when you were young. You probably won’t remember what your high school GPA was. You will look at your old classmates on Facebook or Instagram (or some other social network) and wonder why you ever had a crush on that person. And you will have the toughest time remembering why you let certain people from your past get the best of you. But you will never forget the people who were genuinely kind — those who helped when you were hurt, and who loved you even when you felt unlovable. Be that person to others as often as possible. (And as you know, what goes around eventually comes around.)
6. We often wait way too long to be kind to ourselves.
More likely than not, the first person who caught your eye wasn’t “the one.” And the second, third or fourth probably wasn’t either. You know why? It’s because YOU are the one! Seriously, in your own life it’s important to know how spectacular you are. You really have to look in the mirror and be kind, because what we see in the mirror is often what we see in the world. Our disappointment in others often reflects our disappointment in ourselves. Our acceptance of others often reflects our acceptance of ourselves. Our ability to see potential in others often reflects our ability to see potential in ourselves. Our patience with others often reflects our patience with ourselves. You get the idea — you’ve got to show yourself some love and kindness, first and foremost.
7. We often wait way too long to embrace the truth.
Too many of us prefer gentle lies to hard truths. But make no mistake, in the end it’s better to be hurt by the truth than comforted by a lie. And lying is a cumulative process, so be careful. What starts as a small, seemingly innocent lie (possibly even with the intention of not hurting anyone) quickly spirals into an mounting false reality. We lie to one another, but even more so we lie to ourselves most often to protect our “oh so fragile” egos. We may even be inclined to lie to ourselves while reading this, not wanting to admit how often we have eluded the truth. (Note: Angel and I discuss this in more detail in the Relationships chapter of “1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently”.)
8. We often wait way too long to create and maintain healthy boundaries.
Your mind is your private sanctuary; do not allow the negative beliefs of others to occupy it. Your skin is your barrier; do not allow others to get under it. Take good care of your personal boundaries and what you allow yourself to absorb from others. And if someone in your life is constantly being disrespectful‚ call them on it. If things don’t change, you need to limit the amount of time and influence they have in your life. We need people in our lives who challenge us respectfully, so we can see things from new perspectives, but we don’t need to be constantly torn down by those who don’t respect us. Bottom line: Distancing yourself from people who always give you negative vibes is self-care. Stepping back from situations where you feel unappreciated or disrespected is self-care. Choose to honor your feelings and boundaries, gracefully.
9. We often wait way too long to close old chapters in our lives.
You’re going to mingle with a lot of people in your lifetime. You’re going to have first kisses you feel all the way down to your toes and think “Oh my gosh, I love him,” but really… you loved the kiss. You’re going to meet a friend you think you will know forever, but then something will change and you two will go your separate ways. You’re going to explore different parts of your life with different people who aren’t in it for the long haul, and that isn’t a bad thing. Life is a series of stories, and the way our stories intersect is remarkable. Sometimes people are in our lives for the whole story. Sometimes they are in just a short chapter or two. It takes a brave person to know when that chapter is over, and then to turn the page. Be brave. And remember that almost every “goodbye” you receive in life sets you up for a new “hello.”
10. We often wait way too long to accept and flow with life.
Don’t stress over things you can’t change. Live simply. Love generously. Speak truthfully. Work diligently. And even if you fall short, keep going — keep growing. In the end, loving your life is about trusting your intuition, taking chances, losing and finding happiness, cherishing the memories, and learning through experience. It’s a long-term journey. You have to stop worrying, wondering, and doubting every step of the way. Laugh at the confusion, live consciously in the moment, and enjoy your life as it unfolds. You might not end up exactly where you intended to go, but I promise you will eventually arrive precisely where you need to be.
Now, it’s your turn…
Yes, it’s your turn to stop waiting and start paying attention to the beauty and practicality of living a more intentional life as you wrap up this year and head into the next. But before you go, please leave Angel and me a comment below and let us know what you think of this essay. Your feedback is important to us. 🙂
Which one of the points above resonated the most today?
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Ashna says
Points 1, 2 and 4 resonated with me. I read and re-read this essay multiple times just now. It’s so honest and practical and definitely motivating…gently pushing me to make the change necessary. Thank you!
Mary says
This resonated with me and I included it my daily journaling. I know what has been calling to me and I plan to pursue it. Also will be working on closing an old chapter.
Delores says
I am so blessed by your message. #2 & 3 resignate the most for where I am right now in taking steps forward in my purpose. As I am currently working on 2 major projects. Blessings!!!
Thomas LaRusso says
I took a few good personal development courses some 40 years ago. A lot of what I realized then is what I’m reminded of when I read your articles today. I will be reading and enjoying them the first thing in the morning along with my coffee. Thank you.
Janice says
“Life is a series of stories” I love this. I’m trying to be brave and change my life… again. Apparently it’s going to be a new story and I’m already living it. Closing the previous chapter has been a struggle but I am there. Whatever today brings I am here for it. Thank you for an inspirational message of hope.
Abigail says
Thank you much. All those points ring true for me from my life experience. I sometimes wish I had learnt this earlier in my life in my 20s and 30s. But now I can live out this message as an example to my adult children and the young children I teach. Be blessed.
Irene says
Yes let’s stop waiting! This post reminds me that it’s time to love myself… By loving myself and seeing my worth, it becomes easier to walk away from toxic relationships, respect myself, give love to others, prioritise the most important in life amidst all the distractions, accept what is there now, and forgive myself.
Janet Geida says
Love all of your posts. Many in this one resonated. I hope you having another in person conference soon. We attended one in Orlando a couple years back and learned so much! You two are the best!
Wakenia H. says
Thank you for this post, I have been following your blog essays since about 2011-2012 and each form of wisdom has been instrumental to my growth and development throughout the years. Reading your post today encourages me to look within my own life to make a personal decision to live purposefully and intentionally to prevent a future of guilt that could lead to heartache. My mission and desire are to move forward toward a present and future filled with love, peace, and less lingering regrets.
Fay says
M&A, reading your emails, books, and blog has become a weekly habit that has made a difference in my life. Spending my time intentionally has become the best process i have undergone in my transformation, by acknowledging the hurt and the possibilities that comes with it, i have managed to transcend. I find myself in the present, and my senses reawaken. I can feel again, i can taste again, i can hear again, I can see again… Thank you.
Richard Fallegger says
Dear Marc and Angel,
thank you very much for these insights… #9 hit me most… “It takes a brave person to know when that chapter is over, and then to turn the page. Be brave. And remember that almost every “goodbye” you receive in life sets you up for a new “hello.””
I have turned the page a lot too late and had many hurting moments, but in the end the good vibes and feelings of the “hello” were so good and helpful… thank you again… and many greetings from Switzerland… Take care, Richard
Emily says
You say that loving yourself is ultimately the most important thing to do in order to love and care for others. I have struggled with this all my life, but the way you put it is so wonderful and makes all the sense in the world to me. How can you care for somebody and respect them if you do not do the same for yourself. I am a single mama with a 3-year-old daughter who means the world to me, and I have been struggling a lot lately in thinking I’m failing her all the time, but reading this article has helped me understand that I need to fix myself internally and have the confidence in myself and in my parenting, And by changing the way I view myself will change my thoughts and I’m sure will change her actions and behaviors because she feeds off of what I am feeling. Thank you so much for allowing me to see this in me.