The New Year means nothing if your mind is still boxed up in its comfort zone. You know this is true. Don’t live the same year 89 times and call it a life.
And don’t just think outside the box in 2018…
Think like there is no box.
Free your mind!
Start by asking yourself better questions.
Questions that break you away from all the comforting distractions in your life, so you can refocus your thoughts on what matters most:
A Slightly Deeper Dive into Self-Questioning
As I alluded to in the intro, the questions you ask yourself on a regular basis can determine the type of person you become. Self-questioning, when leveraged effectively and consistently, gradually frees your mind to focus on what matters most. This process is something Angel and I have successfully guided hundreds of our coaching clients and course students through over the past decade, to help them cope with the various debilitating sources of stress that were holding them back.
If you’d like to better cope with the stress in your own life in 2018, I’ll give you a few bonus questions to consider. Unlike the questions above, which focus on the big picture of what’s important to you, the following will support you when you’re derailed by the frustrations of life’s smaller everyday encounters. The key to using these questions is embracing the fact that most of the frustrations and stress in your daily life could be avoided if you would simply take the time to ask, “What else could this mean?”
So next time a random life situation starts to get the best of you, pause, take a deep breath, and then ask yourself:
- What is the story I’m telling myself about this situation?
- Can I be absolutely certain the story is true?
- How do I feel and behave when I tell myself the story?
- If I stopped telling myself the story once and for all, what else might I see, hear, or experience?
Give yourself the space to think it through carefully. Mull it over consciously. And see how doing so frees your mind to respond more peacefully and appropriately in the year ahead.
It’s your turn…
Above all, what you need to remember is that it’s not the answers you get from others, but the questions you ask yourself that will help you grow stronger.
So I challenge you to re-read and reference all the questions above throughout 2018. And keep in mind that they have no right or wrong answers. Because asking the right questions of yourself, regularly, is the answer.
Please, ask away…
And share your thoughts with us in the comments section below.
If you’re up to it, we’d love to read your response to the very first question: In one sentence, who are you?