Are there people who constantly discourage you, tell you that you’re not good enough, and generally make you feel terrible about yourself?
These are what I call difficult people. And we all have some of them in our lives.
I was reminded of this today when a new course student emailed me saying:
“I have difficult people in my family that I have to deal with every day, and doing so drives me mad! I often lose my temper in the process. What can I do when these difficult people try to start trouble? How do shield myself from their negative behavior? What if I can’t completely get away from them?”
I have to confess: there isn’t a one-size-fits-all solution for dealing with difficult people. However, I’ve successfully used a number of strategies in my own life, and over the past decade Angel and I have also helped hundreds of students deal with the difficult people in their lives. So I do have a pretty darn good idea of what works.
Today, I want to answer our student’s inquiry publicly, and review some practical, peaceful ways to deal with difficult people – ways that don’t involve yelling, temper tantrums, and unnecessary stress…
Focus on solutions, instead of a person’s problems and difficulties.
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