Lumahai Beach along the Hawaiian island of Kauai’s north shore is regarded by many travel websites as one of the most beautiful beaches in the world. The beach is about 3/4’s of a mile long, a few hundred feet wide, and backed straight up against lush vegetated cliff sides. There is no protective reef in the water which creates frequent high surf and thus extremely dangerous water conditions. When bitter cold New Yorkers or Bostonians catch themselves daydreaming about a picture perfect tropical shoreline, Lumahai is surely the beach they envision. Angel and I stumbled across it during our 8 hour beach hopping adventure throughout Kauai last week. Among the photos we snapped, I also made a short video clip of the powerful surf. This clip really doesn’t do it much justice, but it’s still pretty neat. Enjoy.
With our “big day” just 72 hours away, the level of excitement and anticipation is rapidly building. Family, friends, colleagues, and acquaintances keep asking me how things are going, to which I reply… “Just a lot of “T” crossing and “I” dotting.” One nagging question that seems to be on the back of a few people’s minds is: Why didn’t we invite more guests to our wedding? I assume this question has arisen due to the fact that Angel and I capped off our wedding guest list at around 110 people and didn’t invite many of our current colleagues. So while our wedding party is rather large (20 people deep, including the bride, groom, parents, and grandma), our guest list is rather small. Why not invite more colleagues and acquaintances? I guess that’s a valid question.
Most people probably think the obvious; cost must have something to do with it, right? Sure, but while cost is always a factor, it’s not exactly a good reason to leave someone important off your wedding guest list. We intend to get married only once, so this certainly isn’t an affair we plan to be frugal with. Which brings me to the foundation of our reasoning: This is an intimate affair. The people who we invited are thought of as family, whether we are related by blood or not. These are the people we trust, respect, and love. These aren’t just the people that we hope would be there for us in our time of need, these are the people we will immediately rush to assist if they ever find themselves in a time of need. In other words, we assembled our wedding guest list based on invitations sent only to our best friends and family.
Short self-help articles discussing the motivational concept of seizing opportunity have become common filler on the face of news websites across the web. The fundamental lesson usually rests within the notion that one must absolutely capitalize on opportunity when it arises, for it may not come again. It seems like countless individuals, including myself, concentrate heavily on the hunt for opportunity. Most of us spend a great deal of time searching for a new job, analyzing the potential of an investment, brainstorming the million dollar idea, all while endlessly attempting to impress our superiors.
When will our big break transpire? When will the perceived outcome we so desperately seek move from our imagination into the physical space before us? These are questions pertaining to a point in time that will continue to remain unknown. We all have the ability to take steps in a positive direction, but the climatic moment that solidifies the success of all our efforts will come suddenly, in complete disregard of what we see coming over the horizon.
So how can we be certain that we will be ready to seize the opportunity in the wake of that unforeseen moment? I’m only beginning to apprehend a slight understanding of the essential elements. It has nothing to do with luck, and everything to do with confidence, awareness and education. We must always be prepared to act… and when the moment arises, we react.
“How could anyone ever be 100% sure that they are ready to get married?” That’s the question my younger cousin blurted out over the cell phone a few days ago. I was simultaneously fighting through an Orlando airport security checkpoint on my way out to the west coast, so initially I just brushed off the random inquiry. But for some reason the simplicity of the question and the youthful sincerity in her voice caught me off guard. Now, sitting here in my San Diego hotel room 2,500 miles away from Angel (my bride to be in one month), I finally have the chance to think about the question. I’m aware that every relationship is different, so I certainly can’t speak for others. But how do I know I’m ready for marriage? While it certainly stems out a little deeper than this, here are a few points that immediately come to my mind…
- Emotional attraction has risen well above the importance of physical attraction in a relationship where physical attraction held the premise for initial appeal.
- When 2,500 miles separate us, I don’t miss the habitual companionship. I miss my best friend.
- On a Friday night we enjoy hanging out with the same group of people… in other words, the majority of our best friends have become completely mutual.
- Understanding that the foundation for remaining faithful is not be based on a fear of hurting her, it’s based on the absolute fact that I want to be faithful because she is the one I want to be with.
- Appreciating that while no relationship is all smiles all of the time, no relationship could be better for me than the one we share together. The grass is certainly not greener…
- Starring at her while she sleeps still brings a smile to my face six and half years later.
- I haven’t just recognized her strong points over the years; her strengths have actually rubbed off on me, and proactively influenced my domestic routines. In other words, she makes me better at being “me”.
- Sometimes she frustrates me in the same way my mom frustrates me.
- When she speaks of her long term goals, I couldn’t agree more.
- Knowing fully well that either one of us could survive independently of the other, but choosing not to… and being content after sustaining that choice over the last several years.
- The topic of trust is mutually absolute.
- Accepting the fact that our marriage will not merge two separate lifestyles, it will solidify the lifestyle we have established together.
Maybe that list sounds little cheesy, or maybe not. Either way, it’s the way I feel and therefore it’s the best answer I can give… a somewhat complicated answer to a question that seems so darn simple.
This is hilarious! I figured maybe Angel and I could sucker our wedding party into performing the M.J. Thriller dance at our wedding reception. Who’s in?