Too often we judge people too quickly, or too subjectively. We tell ourselves stories about them without thinking it through – our perceptions and biases get the best of us. I was reminded of this today when I received the following in an email from a new course student (I’m sharing this with permission):
“…I learned the hard way that a smile can hide so much – that when you look at a person you never know what their story is or what’s truly going on in their life. This harsh reality became evident to me this morning when I found out one of my top students – always straight A’s, a positive attitude, and a smile on her face – committed suicide last night. Why? Nobody seems to know. And it’s killing me inside.”
Talk about a reality check, right?
What we tell ourselves about others – what we think we know – is often far from the truth.
And with that in mind, I’m sitting here reflecting on all the little things we have to stop telling ourselves about other people, for their sake and ours…
- We have to stop telling ourselves that the happiest people are the ones who smile the most. – Behind the polite smiles and greetings people give you, some are hurting and lonely. Don’t just come and go. See them. Care. Share. Listen. Love. We can’t always see people’s pain, but they can always feel our kindness. So be way kinder than necessary. [Read more…]