Never quit, always win, learn to fit in… Nonsense! Here are 7 pieces of unconventional wisdom that will hopefully assist you in leading a more productive and rewarding life.
- Go Ahead, Quit – Quitting is usually thought of as a negative conclusion. If someone quits it must be because they are weak or incapable, right? Wrong! Some of the most successful businesses were started by entrepreneurs who quit several times before they finally got it right. Quitting allowed these entrepreneurs to avoid wasting time when the realization or hunch of a dead end drive became clear in their minds. Their decision to quit the project that they felt wasn’t working gave them the groundwork to execute on the project that eventually led to success. There is a big difference between quitting and giving up. Every so often you should quit, but you should never give up.
- Be Lazy Sometimes – There are times when you should be productive and there are times that you should be lazy. In my relatively short existence on this planet I have noticed a subtle truth about productivity and laziness: There are thousands of people who seem highly productive and thousands who seem outright lazy, but I’ve only met a select few who successfully balance the two into a lifestyle that seems worthwhile. It’s important to be productive, but it’s equally important to kick back and relax. Happiness and success are found between the two extremes.
- Disagree and then Lose the Argument – Arguments start when people have opposing viewpoints. Rarely do people get involved in an augment that they do not intend to win. The one key point that we tend to overlook in the heat of a dispute is that agreeing to lose can actually lead to winning. If both people stick to their guns, neither will ever take a breath long enough to seriously consider the other person’s position. It is only when you agree to step down and except an initial loss that you will be fully capable of comprehending the opposing argument. Once you understand where the other side is coming from, you can speak their language. If you don’t understand the language, you can’t communicate effectively.
- Forget About the Future for a Second – I know, I know, it’s important to plan for the future. But you know what? You are alive right now and time is slowly expiring from your overall life expectancy. It’s okay to plan ahead, but not at the cost of continually ignoring the present moment. When I was a kid I was always in a hurry to be somewhere else. My father used to tell me to “be here now”. Over time I have come to appreciate the importance of his message. Pink Floyd once said, “The memories of a man in his old age are the deeds of a man in his prime”. Make sure you don’t get so consumed with planning for the future that you forget about the life you a living right now.
- Learn Less Right Now – Learning is important. It is the means by which we enrich out minds with an understanding of our surroundings. You should always be eager to learn, but you should also limit your intake of new information to allow your mind to fully digest one piece of information before feeding it the next. Too much at once only leads to indigestion and waste. In a world where multi-tasking is all the rage, information is coming at us faster than ever, creating armies of people who understand a little about a lot. Instead, take it slow and become an expert. Learn the material for real. My father once told me, “Marc, to eat an elephant, you only need to take one bite at a time.”
- Use Other People to Your Benefit – There is a big difference between using someone and abusing someone. The latter is always uncalled for, but the former allows you to work smarter instead of harder. By using other people as resources you get to sample multiple minds filled with different experiences, ideas, and points of view. Once you compile and properly analyze all the data you’ve gathered from the other people you will have a great pool of knowledge from which preliminary judgments and decisions can be derived. Add this pool of knowledge to your own personal intellectual capacity and you begin to experience the truth in the old saying, “two minds are better than one”. As long as your intentions are good and the other people are aware of it, you should never have to worry about crossing the line from using to abusing. Most people actually enjoy lending their expertise to a good cause.
- Be Weird – The smartest people I know are weird. Many of the most successful publicly known inventors and entrepreneurs seem kind of weird. The funniest comedians always seem to be really weird. My best friends are even a little weird… weird to me just as I am to them. Don’t limit yourself by trying to fill someone else’s shoes, instead experience life without unwarranted restriction. You will be most productive in life when you are comfortable in your skin. Be alive. Be yourself. Be free. Be weird.
This is unconventional wisdom, only if you look at it conventionally. Which clearly you have taken ideas that would normally be considered negative and turned them into a positive. Cool post 😀 I found your blog though blog rush. Blog Rush works! I like many of the articles you have written, and I would probably check back here often.
P.S. I brought a patch a few years ago that read “I am not Weird, I am just special”
Joseph Hsu says
Hey, great list.
I only wish I practiced these things in the past…
This is exactly what I needed to read today, Marc. Thank you. I love your mixture of Zen and western living. Bookmarking you and coming back!
@wasaski: Great point. The measure of conventionalism in any situation is usually just a matter of perception. Also, great to hear that BlogRush works!
@Joesph and Suzann: Thanks for the kind words. 😉
Uncle B says
If you don’t conform, the man will smack you down! If you go against the corporate will, you will starve in the dark and die in despair! Don’t think, just follow, with your hear down and your ideas suppressed; – and the price of gas will go up, and you will buy another SUV to be part of the crowd and the price of housing will go up, and you will go from 2000sqft to 4000sqft to look like everyone else. Bullshit ! Break the mold!
Great post idea!
ashley marie says
Ha I liked this article.
I guess I’m doing one thing right.
Being weird is me specialty but I like to call it “just being unique”. =]
axel g says
Hello Angel & Marc!
#4 Is profound and in tune with what Eckhart Tolle writes in The Power Of Now…
This is such a old post but I love it. I’m a supporter of #1.