It is ultimately only our own thoughts that help us or hurt us. Once our mindset changes, everything on the outside gradually changes along with it.
“There’s a brilliant, beautiful, priceless piece of art in front of you! It’s elaborate and detailed – a painstaking labor of love and devotion! The colors and textures are like no other – they soar and dip, they shine and leap right off the canvas! And yet you choose to fixate your eyes on the tiny, black housefly that has landed on it. Why would you do such a thing?”
She cracked a half smile and stared at me in silence.
“Look,” I said, “the point is there’s no way to be 100% sure about anything or anyone in this world. Life, like art, is intricate and unpredictable. So you’re left with a choice: either appreciate it and look for the best, or focus on and expect the worst.”
If you expect the worst, you’re never disappointed,” she pointed out.
“Yeah, but who lives like that?” I replied. “No one. People die slowly every day like that, without every truly living.”
That’s the gist of a Skype conversation I had this morning with a new course/coaching student (I’m sharing this with her permission). She literally started the conversation by telling me that expecting negative things to happen is her way of coping with life. If you can relate in any way at all, it’s time to rethink things.
And make no mistake about it, the battle you are going through isn’t fueled by the words or actions of others; it isn’t fueled by what did or didn’t happen in the past; it’s fueled by your mind that gives negativity importance.
Believing in negative thoughts is the single greatest obstruction to happiness and success. Your perspective on life comes from the inner emotional cage you’ve been holding yourself captive in.
Here are some clear signs it’s time to change your mindset:
1. You see nothing but negatives.
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