
by Joshua Becker
“The ability to simplify means to eliminate the unnecessary so that the necessary may speak.”
—Hans Hofmann
Have incredible stories to tell, not incredible clutter stuffed in your closets. I sincerely wish this for my family, and yours. So let me start off here by asking you…
- Does your home serve you, or do you serve your home?
- Will your home afford you the necessary space to create happy, healthy memories and stories in the days and weeks ahead?
These are not questions most of us ask ourselves, but we should. After all, our homes are meant to serve a distinct purpose in our lives — to be both the space we come back to, and the space we go out from each day. Our homes are, in essence, the foundation of our daily lives. And as we enter the fall season, it’s a great time to check in with yourself…
If your home is serving you well, it is a safe harbor from the storms of life — a space to relax, rest, and connect in meaningful ways with loved ones and friends. And it’s a secure port of departure when you’re ready to brave the choppy seas of life again. A home serves you best when it provides both of these benefits.
A home doesn’t serve you when it complicates your life and takes more than it gives. When possessing your home (and maintaining the possessions within it) becomes your focus, you end up spending your limited and valuable resources (time, energy, money) taking care of it. That’s when you know you’re serving your home. You’re spending less time living the life you want, because you’re spending more time cleaning, maintaining, and repairing — and perhaps also paying a hefty mortgage or rent for the privilege.
The good news is it doesn’t have to be that way. It’s possible to live more by owning less. And that’s the premise of my writing in “The Minimalist Home”. It’s a purpose-based guide to a simpler, decluttered, refocused life — one that makes sure your home is serving you, and not the other way around. It recognizes that each of us can love the house — the home — we live in.
Here are 20 changes I offer in the book to help create a home that better serves you:
- Get your head straight about what matters, and what in your home is distracting you from what matters. For most of us, our excessive physical possessions are not making us happy. Even worse, they are taking us away from the things that do. Once we let go of the things that don’t matter, we are free to pursue all the things that really do matter. And sometimes, minimizing physical possessions means an old dream must die. But this is not always a bad thing. Because sometimes it takes (mentally and emotionally) giving up the person we wanted to be, in order to fully appreciate the person we can actually become.
- Remove decorations that no longer inspire you. Just because something made you happy in the past doesn’t mean you have to keep it forever. Your life has moved on — maybe it’s time for the decoration to do the same. Remove the knickknacks and pictures that no longer inspire you. Or the decoration you bought that one time because it was on clearance. Keeping just the items that mean the most to you will help them to shine.
- Reject the convenience fallacy. There are certain places in our homes we tend to leave items out for convenience — a stack of favorite books in the corner, appliances on the counters in the kitchen, toiletries beside the bathroom sink. By leaving these things out, we think we’re saving time and simplifying our lives. That’s the convenience fallacy. Sure, we might save a couple of seconds when we’re reaching for them, but the other 99.9 percent of the time those items just sit there creating a visual distraction. If you’re not using your convenience items at least 50 percent of the time they’re out, keep them in a cabinet or drawer and out of sight.
- Distinguish between simplifying (or minimizing) and tidying up. Just because a room is tidy doesn’t necessarily mean it’s uncluttered or serves its purpose. Well-organized clutter is still clutter. Never organize what you don’t even use and can easily donate to someone who will.
- Count the “clutter cost.” It can be hard to get rid of things you spent a lot of money on. But keeping things you no longer wear, use, or love also has a cost — every object carries a burden as well as a benefit. The burden or “clutter cost” is the money, time, energy, and space an object demands of you. If you’re having trouble letting go of a pricey item you don’t use — or any item for that matter — remember to consider the benefit-to-burden ratio before you decide to keep it.
- Free up closet space. One of the biggest complaints people have about their homes is that the closets are too small. If you’ve been thinking that you need bigger closets, maybe all you need to do is right-size your wardrobe — and your closet will feel bigger overnight.
- Donate clothes you don’t love. After decluttering your closet, you’ll find more space and peace each morning when you get ready, rather than facing stress and indecision. Plus, donating unused clothing to a local charity is a simple but meaningful way to help others.
- Declutter duplicates. I call this a minimizing accelerator because it’s one of the easiest things you can do to make quick progress. Open your linen closet, for example. How many extra pillows, sheets, and towels do you really need? Other good candidates for eliminating duplicates include cleaning supplies, gardening tools, fashion accessories, home office supplies, toys, books, and kitchen items. Keep your favorite in each category — the ones you actually use — and get rid of the rest.
- Clear your dining room table. Is your dining room table a depository for mail, backpacks, keys, and other things that are in the process of going from one place to another? If so, chances are that using it for a meal may seem like more work than it’s worth. Put the items away where they belong. Make your tabletop a clean, open and inviting space.
- Invite the right people to gather at your dining room table, often. These are the people you enjoy, who love and appreciate you, and who encourage you to improve in healthy and exciting ways. They are the ones who make you feel more alive, and not only embrace who you are now, but also embrace and embody who you want to be. The bottom line is that your decluttering efforts have given you more space to share stories, experiences, hugs and laughs with family, good friends, and close neighbors. Don’t forget to make it count.
- Practice gratitude, in your home, daily. At least once a day, it’s good to pause in your pursuit of a simpler and more organized life, look around, and simply appreciate the life you’re presently living. As Marc and Angel have shared in their inspiring bestseller, “1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently”: “Look around, and be thankful right now. For your health, your family, your friends, and your home. Nothing lasts forever.”
- Take down signs that don’t sincerely vibe with your present values. I know a woman with a sign in her laundry room that says, “It’s tough living in the fast lane when you’re married to a speed bump.” I get the humor, but I wonder how reading that sign every day might affect her approach to her marriage, even in small ways. If you’re going to put words up on your walls, don’t you want them to inspire you and call you higher instead?
- Calm a space for reading and being at peace. Even if you aren’t up for decluttering an entire room, you can “calm” a space. You calm a space when you minimize distractions. Choose a favorite chair and declutter everything around it. Remove anything from the floor that isn’t furniture. Clear the surface of side tables or a coffee table by removing or storing remotes, pet toys, kid toys, hobby items, old magazines, mail, books, etc.
- Clean out your entertainment center. These large pieces of furniture often harbor lots of small items we no longer need. Take out old electronic components, cords you don’t need, and discs and games nobody uses. Get rid of them by recycling responsibly, arrange the devices you do use in an eye-pleasing display, and hide their cords as much as possible.
- Pare down your beauty and grooming supplies. I don’t know how big your bathroom is, but get rid of the clutter and I guarantee it will seem more spacious and peaceful to be in. Empty out the cabinets and drawers. Separate beauty tools (hair dryer, styling iron, shavers, etc.) from beauty supplies (make-up, lotion, aftershave, etc.). Eliminate duplicates, throw out anything that’s broken or old, and get rid of items you no longer use. Then wash your storage containers and organize what you’re going to keep.
- Tackle a junk drawer. Most of us have one. It’s the default resting place for small items that have no better place to be. Or for things we think might have some use but we can no longer remember what it is. Chances are good you can toss out most of what’s in there and never miss it.
- Clear space for your car in the garage. A garage is not serving you well if it’s not serving its purpose, which is to house your car. That’s not to say that there’s anything wrong with using a garage for storage, but it’s possible to go too far with it — and a lot of us do. Get rid of all the obvious candidates for decluttering — odds and ends and leftovers, kids’ unused playthings and sporting equipment, duplicate tools, spare parts, etc.
- Set physical boundaries for your kids. Give your kids a certain amount of space and allow them to manage it how they want. For example, in our garage, my wife and I keep one shelving unit and one plastic bin. The kids store their outdoor toys on the shelves and keep balls in the bin. When things begin to overflow, we ask them to make decisions about what to keep and what to get rid of. The same principle applies to a bedroom or a toy basket.
- Leave space between everything you do in your home, too. Clear a little extra space between your personal tasks and obligations. Take a break to stretch, take a short walk outside, drink a glass of water, perhaps do some simple deep breathing exercises. Enjoy the (emotional and physical) space you’ve created for yourself in your home, and breathe. Remember, your overarching goal is living a life uncluttered by most of the things people fill their lives with, leaving you with space for what truly matters. A life that isn’t constant busyness, rushing and stress, but instead deliberate contemplation, creation and connection with people and activities you love.
- Let go of mental clutter too. Life is just too darn short. Do your best to let go of all the purposeless drama, aimless time-wasters and mental clutter that keeps getting in your way. Again, it’s time to focus more on what matters, and let go of what does NOT.
Obviously, you may not be able to tackle all 20, but how about two or three before the end of the year? A home that serves you well is a beautiful thing. It’s less distracting and more calming, which makes it both a joy to come back to and an inspiring place to go out from. Don’t wait any longer to have a home that gives more than it takes.
Now it’s your turn…
I would love to hear from YOU in the comments section.
What part of your home needs a little simplifying?
Anything else to share?
Please leave a comment below.
Author Bio: Joshua Becker is the founder and editor of Becoming Minimalist, a website that reaches more than 1 million readers each month inspiring people to live more by owning less. He is a New York Times bestselling author and his book, “The Minimalist Home: A Room-By-Room Guide to a Decluttered, Refocused Life”, is a great resource that dives deeper into the topics covered in this article.
Carla Benson says
I found this article to be quite insightful and a great reminder overall. It reminds me immediately of two quotes I have stored on my phone:
“Too many people spend money they haven’t earned, to buy things they don’t want, to impress people they don’t like.”
“Have nothing in your homes that you do not know to be useful or believe to be beautiful.”
Anyway, thank you for sharing. I just purchased your book (actually two your books) and look forward to reading more.
Linda says
I loved reading this article. I found myself smiling through it, knowing how good these acts of decluttering can really change how a space and home feels. Thank you for the reminder. I will be tackling the top shelf of my wardrobe which has becoming a dumping ground for odd un-needed old items.
Kamal says
My wife and I have been gradually simplifying our lives for the past couple years (because let’s be honest, it’s not something most of us can do overnight). Although we have a ways to go yet to meet our personal goals with this endeavor, we’re already seeing a noticeable difference. Less stuff, fewer distractions, more time, more happiness. I’ll check out the The Minimalist Home along with M&A’s 1000 Little Things book too…perhaps two new reads to close of this year well. 🙂
Dawn says
It’s been a journey, a long one for me. I had a 3 bedroom house with a basement stuffed full and reduced down to 16 boxes, moved overseas to Oz. My husband and I have lived in a tiny 2 bed apartment and now in a 4 bdrm house but with no additional furniture. We just have beautiful space without a lot ( me with a sewing room), him with a geek/photography room. This place was cheaper than the 2 bedroom! I still have books… they need a good home, but I’m happy that we are both conscious of our stuff and still want to reduce. Thanks always for your interesting take, it can be very mindful.
Beth says
Excellent post! Thank you for emailing it to me today.
I think some of us just don’t realize how much is sacrificed when we live in a home space that’s over complicated and filled with needless clutter (both physical and mental). Taking time to simplify things can save so much time; and some sanity as well.
One of my most “liked” quotes…..
“Organization isn’t about perfection; it’s about efficiency, reducing stress and clutter, saving time and money and improving your overall quality of life.” – Christina Scalise
Cheers to simplifying even more!
Pamela says
I have read many articles on how to de clutter but this one is great. Some people think de cluttering means getting rid of mostly everything you own but that myth is dispelled here. Having more than you use or need just contributes to extra work, unwanted stress and uses up space. I read someplace that your house is a living space not a storage space and this article reaffirms that.
Thanks Marc and Angel and Joshua for sharing and lighting the way again.
RA says
Great post. I think my challenge is in tackling the junk drawer. Except it’s not a drawer really, more like a junk rack. I cringe going near it but also shudder at the thought of cleaning it. Perhaps finish the year strong like someone else suggested. Thanks for the tips! Cheers.
DDC says
I cleaned the junk drawer one afternoon last summer. Very satisfying to have fewer items and organized. The best was when my husband first opened the drawer – he put his sun glasses on! 🙂
Angela Carberry says
I moved from 3000 sq. Feet to 900 two years ago. In that time it’s been an endless process of dealing with what I no longer need or use. I’m 74 and keep thinking if I dropped dead tomorrow what’s going to happen to my stuff? Most likely it’ll all end up disposed of. Therefore anything I no longer need that I’m having trouble dealing with I pass on to friends or family I know would love it like I did. I keep thinking about all that I spent acquiring all those impulse things I just had to have and I cringe!
Mary says
I feel your pain!
Ruthie Sanchez says
Coming from a spacious home in Miami to a shoebox apartment in NYC, I have had to learn how to minimize, right-size, de-clutter and simplify. And what a difference it makes. I’m all about small space living now. I absolutely love my tiny apartment because it has all the essentials and none of the clutter. I do stand in the middle of my small one room kitchen, living room, dining room and appreciate my home because to me it’s beautiful and just right. Decluttering is a stress reliever, I didn’t realize how weighed down I was with things that were simply collecting dust and taking up space.
Great article!
Some of these steps are simple steps to a healthier life. It really does make all the difference. And just like the article says, even if you can’t do all any change towards decluttering is progress.
Christie Ervin says
I recently moved to a 450 square foot apartment in order to live close to my kids and new grandson. I spent the 6 months prior donating and pitching, and actually have enough room for everything now (even clothes!). My biggest issue is my kitchen, very little counter space or storage and I tend to leave things out. My goal is to develop the habit of putting things away that I don’t use every single day. I’ll get there!
Lynna says
The kitchen is hard! I get often critiqued for not having many kitchen “tools.” But I like it simple.
Elle says
My husband and I made the decision about 10 years ago, to re-carpet the entire house at once. So, we met with the installers and told them to divide the house in 2 parts. We would empty half into the garage, they could carpet, then we needed another weekend to empty the other half.
So during that hiatus we: touched every item in the garage before bringing it into the house. Do we use it? Will I reread this book? YES items came in and immediately put in their forever home, NO items went into our car trunks. When the trunks were full, we drove the load to the nearest thrift store.
It was absolutely a remarkable experience and we have maintained empty closet and cupboard space since then. Our 1850sf home is more than enough. (and now it’s mortgage free as a bonus!)
I strongly suggest not taking it too slow. Commit to clearing anything you pick up that you don’t immediately say YES to. And immediately put the YES item in it’s forever home.
Isabelle Perier says
This is unbelievable how this post came at the right time ! Since the last Spring I have been uncluttering before some installation works in my home ! I was smiling in reading it as I had the feeling to relive what I actually did these last few months. And I know I still need to make more, but at least it was a good cleaning!
Thank you for having shared this article.
Lisa says
I have been badly wanting to declutter our home. I am a very sentimental person. It would be so much easier if I weren’t and could just throw everything away easily! But with 3 kids, our home has become way too cluttered with toys, books and school/art work and something HAS to be done…starting today. I have come across your article at just the right time because this was already my plan to get started on this. Thank you!
Maz says
It is like conscience speaking to me. I started simplifying my closet . My workspace at the office too. I also subscribed to the digital newspaper to lessen the newspapers stack (I’m old school). I clear my handbags after every enormous day out.
I simplify my thots and let go off negativity. I stopped explaining to people who do not want to listen, anyway. I have learnt that time reveals everything and fights tire me. I also keep work in the day and leave the night for my own recovery. The clear distinction simplifies my sense of the and obligations.
I simplify my eating habits to more fruits and vegetable. But I do take supplements.
Before I sit down in a place, I make sure I clear the space. Doing this regularly means less work each time instead of a massive overhaul. I intend to make every space in my flat ‘active’ including the storage space.
I have always led a simple life but we get carried away with married life and then work.
I have seen quite a bit of life. Indulgences bring temporary pleasure and the meaningfulness of our actions -they are seeds that you sow to make a garden a sweet and memorable one. I thank for this community because it is always inspiring. Let’s do more with less.
Renee says
I needed to be reminded of this as I started decluttering but stopped. My goal is to accomplish at least 2 out of the 20 before the end of year holidays. Thank you. Profound, simple yet true.
Susan Kelemen says
My biggest challenge will be my kitchen. I cook a lot, so I use many tools to make meals happen. They’re chock-full of nutrition, so I am reluctant to change a process I cherish. I need more than one serving spoon, so I can’t simplify that. I don’t have enough counter space for the appliances I have in a very small kitchen. 🙁 The glasses I no longer use may free up some space. My storage space in the basement for little-used kitchen things could be donated. That way, I could clear off some of my counter. It’s very hard to do. Reading this made me want to try.
David Cleroux says
Just between you me and the fencepost, I don’t have a home… BUT, if I did, I would definitely take all your advice as I always try to do, because you’re always so helpful. Who knows, I might need your advice here in the future. Ha. Hugs