
Live by choice, not by chance. Make changes, not excuses. Be motivated, not manipulated. Work to excel, not compete. Listen to your own inner voice, not the jumbled opinions of everyone else…
This is the way to inspire people! This is how you can grow into the truest version of YOU.
And here are a few more tips to reinforce the idea of genuinely inspiring everyone around you:
1. Be authentic and true to yourself.
In this crazy world that’s trying to make you like everyone else, find the courage to keep being your awesome self. Embrace that individual inside you that has ideas, strengths and beauty like no one else. Be the person you know yourself to be — the best version of you — on your terms. Above all, be true to YOU, and if you cannot put your heart in it, take yourself out of it. No it won’t always be easy; because when it comes to living as a compassionate, non-judgmental human being, the only challenge greater than learning to walk a mile in someone else’s shoes, is learning to walk a lifetime comfortably in your own.
2. Take part in something you believe in.
Some people take an active role in their local city council, some find refuge in their faith, some join social clubs supporting causes they believe in, and others find passion in their work. In each case the psychological outcome is the same. They engage themselves in something they strongly believe in. This engagement brings happiness and meaning into their lives. It’s hard not to be inspired by someone who’s passionate about what they’re doing.
3. Express your enthusiasm.
Passion is something you must be willing to express if you want to inspire others. You can gain a lot of influence just by publicly expressing that you are excited and passionate about a topic. Expressive passion is contagious because of the curiosity it stirs in others. You’ll get people wondering why you love what you love so much. Naturally, some of them will take the time necessary to understand what it is about the topic that moves you. (Read “How To Win Friends and Influence People”.)
4. Excel at what you do.
People watch what you do more than they listen to what you say. Be someone worth emulating. Most people are inspired by truly great musicians, writers, painters, speakers, entrepreneurs, engineers, mothers, fathers, athletes, etc. There’s only one thing they all have in common: They excel at what they do. There’s no point in doing something if you aren’t going to do it right. Excel at your work and excel at your hobbies. Develop a reputation for yourself, a reputation for consistent excellence.
5. Focus on building your character.
Be more concerned with your character than your reputation. Your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others temporarily think you are. A genuinely good character always shines and inspires in the long run.
6. Care about people.
People don’t care about how much you know, until they know how much you care. Period.
7. Challenge people to do their best.
As Ralph Waldo Emerson once said, “Our chief want is someone who will inspire us to be what we know we could be.” If people know we expect great things from them, they will often go to great lengths to live up to our expectations.
8. Lead by example.
Practice what you preach or don’t preach at all. Walk the talk! Be the change you want to see in the world. If you really want to inspire others to do something, then this “something” should be a big part of your life. You don’t necessarily need to be an expert at it, but you do need to be passionately involved and give it your best.
9. Articulate what everyone else is thinking.
We are very connected to each other in various ways, the most important of which is our thoughts. Out of fear, or just shyness, lots of people hesitate to articulate their thoughts. If you take the risk and say the things others are holding back, you become the glue that brings people together.
10. Help people feel good about themselves.
People will rarely remember what you did, but they will always remember how you made them feel. Start noticing what you like about others and tell them. Go out of your way to personally acknowledge and complement the people who have gone out of their way to excel. As von Goethe once said, “Treat a man as he appears to be, and you make him worse. But treat a man as if he already were what he potentially could be, and you make him what he should be.”
11. Help people heal.
Instead of judging people by their past, stand by them and help repair their future. In life you mostly get what you put in. When you make a positive impact in someone else’s life, you also make a positive impact in your own life. So do something that’s greater than you — something that helps someone else to be happy or to suffer less. Everyone values the gift of unexpected assistance and those who supply it.
12. Share lessons from your successes and failures.
When you can, be a resource to those around you. If you have access to essential information, don’t hoard it, share it openly. You have more to share than you realize. Mine the rich experiences of your life and share your wisdom from your unique point of view. Be vulnerable. Be willing to share your failures as well as your successes. Others will relate to you. They’ll understand that they’re not the only ones with challenges. (Read “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People”.)
13. Keep your cool in tense situations.
What you do in a tense situation says a lot about your limits. People take note of how far the pressure or social discomfort around you goes until you lose control of yourself and the situation. So just remember, calmness is a human superpower. The ability to not overreact or take things personally keeps your mind clear and your heart at peace, which gives you the upper hand in most life situations. And this “superpower” trait is a quality most people are drawn to.
14. Focus on the positive.
Life is just too short to waste on senseless negativity. So whatever you do, don’t get stuck on the one little thing that ruins your day. Breathe and be grateful for what you have. Some of it is a blessing, and nothing lasts forever. And no matter how it turns out, it always ends up just the way it should. Either you succeed or you learn something. So stay positive, appreciate the pleasant outcomes, and learn from the rest. Your positivity will help encourage those around you too.
15. Keep your promises and tell the truth.
Inspire people with your dependability and commitment to the truth. If you say you’re going to do something, DO IT! If you say you’re going to be somewhere, BE THERE! If you say you feel something, MEAN IT! If you can’t, won’t, and don’t, then DON’T LIE. It’s always better to tell people the truth up front. (Read “The Four Agreements”.)
16. Listen intently to what others say.
Make people feel important, and inspire them by showing them that they are. Eyes focused, ears tuned, phone on silent. In a world that can’t move fast enough, someone who can find time to listen to others is always appreciated.
17. Communicate clearly.
Mystery does not inspire. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Share your vision and ideas often with those around you. And be sure to maintain eye contact when communicating — it’s one of the most alluring forms of personal communication. When executed properly, eye contact injects closeness into human interaction, which captivates attention.
18. Be faithful to your significant other.
There’s nothing more inspiring than the unwavering love and commitment between two individuals. Furthermore, your sustained fidelity in a long-term intimate relationship creates a healthy foundation for everything else you do in life.
Now it’s your turn…
In the end, almost everything you need to inspire everyone around you is contained within you. So get out there and start inspiring people with who you are and how you live your life…
I sincerely hope you will have an inspired rest of your day today, that you will dream boldly and dangerously, that you will make some progress that didn’t exist before you took action, that you will love and be loved in return, and that you will find the strength to accept and grow from the troubles you can’t change. And, most importantly (because Angel and I think there should be more kindness and wisdom in this world), that you will, when you must, be wise with your decisions, and that you will always be extra kind to yourself and others.
And before you go, please leave Angel and me a comment below and let us know what you think of this post. Your feedback is important to us. 🙂
(Finally, if you haven’t done so already, be sure to sign-up for our free newsletter to receive new articles like this in your inbox each week.)
Sangeeta says
Great post!
Our being and doing are more effective and influential than any concepts or philosophies we may preach. I fully believe we need to walk our talk.
“Our own actions and inaction are decisive contributors to the world we inhabit.”
Thanks.
Michael King says
Thanks for the inspiration this morning, it was really encouraging, have a blessed day. 🙂
Saurabh says
Thanks for your wisdom
eugeboy says
I rarely find ‘advice and opinion’ site compelling these days. I found my way here via a friends tiktok post and found myself devouring your blog – not because you have revealed secrets that were previously unknown to me, but because you have organized what I have already learned into easily usable ‘action’ statements and lists. Kudos and thank you both.
Nimco says
Great article! Thanks for shedding light on all the necessary components of transforming from a mere mortal to a more enlightened being. 🙂
vytiense says
I look forward to weekday mornings because I know that something good is coming from Marc and Angel. You all brighten my life!
Tyree42 says
Your blogs are essential to the mind numbing environment we live in these days. I’m sure a lot of us think of these tips, maybe not as much as we should, but it is so refreshing to have them brought to front of our minds. Thanks
Nea says
This is another great list, but there’s something about expressing enthusiasm that stands out to me as the best of the best.
Everything you mentioned here…doing what we love, communicating with people, keeping a positive attitude, helping others…it’s all magnified a million times when done with enthusiasm.
People feel inspired when they know that whatever action you’re taking, no matter how much or little it serves them, is done from an enthusiastically inspired place in your own heart.
Meghashyam Chirravoori says
I loved these starting lines “Live by choice, not by chance. Make changes, not excuses. Be motivated, not manipulated. Work to excel, not compete. Listen to your own inner voice, not the jumbled opinions of everyone else.”
What a superb message even before the article began….
Brian says
A great post and a great reminder that along the way we impact everyone around us with our actions. It’s all about building good character and setting an example of how that can bring us a great life.
Thanks M&A.
patricea says
Great reminders. So great to see I’m not alone in appreciating them too.
Thanks.
Sheila Cruz says
There is a reason why I found this website. I am absolutely grateful for this message. It’s conveyed in the way that I needed to hear today. Thank you so much. You have no idea the impact this will have on me and then on others as I share the inspiration and energy that poured into me from your message. Let’s keep spreading this love. I am. We are.
Ernie Barde says
Great article, I love it.. I’m so inspired!!! Thank you!
haily says
Another spot on post! Thank you for the inspiration.
David says
That’s really great counsel on interacting with, and influencing people. Loving interaction, requires a person to be genuine. When we’re free to be ourself around others, it creates a beautiful atmosphere of faith and trust and tends to bring others out and allows them to also be who they truly are. Love begets love, and there’s no two ways about that. Caring brings life into any and every situation. It’s what life is about.
Ramji Yadav says
Though all the points are good to appreciate and follow, yet point #5 & #13 resonate me most today. “Focus on building your character.
Be more concerned with your character than your reputation. Your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others temporarily think you are.” Of course, character building is a long and disciplined process but it is worth investing time and efforts in it, for it speaks louder and inspires automatically, for people get convinced what you speak to them. It’s the power of your character that persuade them. And the other point is: “Keep your cool in tense situations. What you do in a tense situation says a lot about your limits. People take note of how far the pressure or social discomfort around you goes until you lose control of yourself and the situation. So just remember, calmness is a human superpower. The ability to not overreact or take things personally keeps your mind clear and your heart at peace, which gives you the upper hand in most life situations. And this “superpower” trait is a quality most people are drawn to.” And in the end the following lines vibrated through the bottom of my heart: “most importantly (because Angel and I think there should be more kindness and wisdom in this world), that you will, when you must, be wise with your decisions, and that you will always be extra kind to yourself and others.” Thanks Mr. Marc for this marvelous blog.
ASAD ALI says
Your articles are always wonderful because I already know these teachings and understand easily but can’t express verbally.
Good job, Keep it up, I wish you all the best 🙂
salman says
Number 16, listening intently, resonates with me the most. I’ve noticed that simply giving someone my full attention — phone face-down, actually listening — often inspires more than any motivational speech. People open up and start solving their own problems when they feel truly heard. In my own work I’ve started transcribing some of my one-on-one conversations (with permission) just so I can be fully present instead of taking notes. It changed the dynamic completely.
Niranjan says
Thank you Mr. And Mrs for your valuable writing.
It inspires the lives around you…
Sundararaj Packiam says
Thank you very much, such a beautiful message.