When you don’t ask sincere questions and talk it out, there’s a lot of important stuff that ends up never getting said.
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6 Questions (video transcript):
“Hey, what’s going on?” Marc asked.
“Not much,” I said. “And how was your day?”
“It was OK,” Marc said…
And just like that our conversation would be over. For the longest time, this is exactly how Marc and I initiated conversations with each other at the end of long workdays.
Sure, we greeted each other and asked a couple questions, but they weren’t the right questions. They were meaningless inquires that were stale and thoughtless. And, not surprisingly, our conversations went nowhere. Which, in time, ended up hurting our relationship.
Thankfully, before it was too late, we learned to communicate more effectively. We learned that if we really wanted to deepen our relationship – if we really cared to know what’s going on in each other’s heads and hearts – we needed to ask better questions, and then really listen to each other’s answers.
Specifically, we learned that we needed to ask questions that carry this fundamental message: “I’m not just checking the box here. I’m asking you because I really care how you feel and what you have to say. I really want to know YOU.”
So today, we want to help you ask questions that will save your relationships [Read more…]