Over the past decade, between the two of us, Angel and I have read hundreds of books on relationships, coached hundreds of students who were struggling to find happiness in their relationships, and interacted with over 100,000 blog subscribers (subscribe here) who continue to ask us questions and tell us stories on a daily basis about their relationships.
All of this has given us keen insight into the behaviors and habits that make relationships work well in the long run. In our course and coaching, and at our live events, Angel and I often refer to these as the “qualities of conscious, loving relationships.”
So what exactly is a conscious, loving relationship?
It’s a relationship, intimate or platonic, in which…
1. Both people are emotionally self-reliant.
If your happiness is dependent on the constant validation and approval you receive from someone else, then you are giving away far too much of your power. It’s human nature to want to be liked and admired, to want to be included, but it’s damaging to your self-esteem and emotional strength if it’s something you have to constantly fight for.
The key is to [Read more…]