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3 Fundamental Mistakes that Often Drain 90 Percent of Our Potential in Life

09.27.2023 by Marc Chernoff // 32 Comments

A mistake is a lesson, not a loss. It’s a temporary, necessary detour, not a dead end, as long as we learn from it.

As human beings we often make the same fundamental mistakes over and over again. For example, deep down we know it’s smart to take it one step at a time, to maintain good daily habits, and to seek out healthy, supportive environments. Yet we often do the exact opposite when times get stressful and we’re under pressure.

Yes, we do the wrong things even though we know better because the human mind has weaknesses. It becomes forgetful and insensible sometimes. And the only way to conquer these weaknesses is to practice conquering them. So today, let’s practice strengthening our minds by discussing three super-common mistakes Angel and I have seen plaguing dozens of our coaching clients, course students, and conference attendees over the past 15 years — some things many of us do daily that drain nearly all of our potential… [Read more…]

9 Popular Social Habits that Drain the Life Out of Our Relationships

08.02.2023 by Angel Chernoff // 22 Comments

There’s something to be said for slow and steady progress. But there’s also something to be said for decisive and sweeping action. When it comes to negative social habits, there’s no time like today to quit cold turkey. Of course that’s a lot easier said than done, but with practice we can do better almost immediately.

Lately I’ve been making it a point to bring more awareness to the specific negative social habits our coaching clients have been either complaining about or engaging in. And perhaps more importantly than that, I’ve also been noticing many of the same behaviors in both myself and my close friends and family members. In fact let’s be honest, we’ve all acted in negative, damaging ways to the people around us at one time or another. None of us are immune to occasional negative mood swings. But that doesn’t excuse what we do to each other habitually.

Over the years, through our coaching practice and live events, Marc and I have literally worked with hundreds of individuals looking to fix or strengthen their relationships, and we’ve learned a lot about what it takes to make this happen. One of the most significant realizations, [Read more…]

One Simple Perspective Shift that Will Change the Way You See the World

04.03.2023 by Marc Chernoff // 15 Comments

As human beings, we subconsciously tell ourselves stories pretty much every waking minute of our lives. And these stories we tell ourselves don’t just change how we feel, they actually change what we see, what we experience, and what we know to be true. This is one of the primary reasons multiple people can go through the same experience, but interpret it differently. Each of us may enter a shared experience with a different story echoing through our mind, and our unique story — our inner dialog — alters the way we feel. So each of us exits this shared experience with a different perspective on what just happened. And sometimes these differences literally make [Read more…]

14 Rules for Being YOU Today

04.02.2023 by Angel Chernoff // 23 Comments

Be yourself. Trying to be anyone else is a waste of the person you are. Embrace that individual inside you that has ideas, strengths, and beauty like no one else. Be the person you know yourself to be — the best version of you — on your terms. And above all, be true to YOU — if you cannot put your heart in it, take yourself out of it.

Starting today…

1. Get your priorities straight.

Twenty years from now it won’t really matter what shoes you wore today, how your hair looked, or what brand of jeans you bought. What will matter is [Read more…]

11 Easy Ways to Uncomplicate Your Life

02.02.2021 by Angel Chernoff // 57 Comments

“Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.”
— Clare Boothe Luce

Let’s start off here with a simple question:

What does your perfect day look and feel like?

Visualizing your perfect day is important not necessarily because it will be a recurring reality, but because it’s crucial to understand what a simple life — or an “uncomplicated life” — really means to you. And it’s different for everyone — for me, it means practicing my morning gratitude meditation, quiet writing and reading time, a few fours of focused time with our coaching clients, and doing something memorable with Marc and our son, Mac. For others, it’s a long morning walk, afternoon yoga, a productive day in the home office, and a hot bath before bed. And for others, it’s simply lots of time to focus on an important life goal, while still leaving enough time to get a good night’s rest.

Take a few moments now to visualize what a “perfect day” means to you.

Then shift your focus and consider all the miscellaneous, needless nonsense you get involved in on a daily basis, both mentally and physically, that goes against your “perfect day” philosophy.

Again, we can all agree that life is NOT perfect, and surely there are very necessary, hard things that must be handled every day. But there’s still a lot of mental and physical energy spent on matters that don’t deserve our time and attention.

Truth be told, the average day is actually pretty simple, but we insist on making it complicated. Let’s break the cycle! Here are a few easy ways to gradually uncomplicate your life — and yes, it’s a GRADUAL process, because it’s easy to change your life one tiny step at a time: [Read more…]