10 Life Lessons People Learn Too Late

10 Life lessons People Learn Too Late

Before you know it you’ll be asking, “How did it get so late so soon?”  So take time to figure yourself out.  Take time to realize what you want and need.  Take time to take risks.  Take time to love, laugh, cry, learn, and forgive.  Life is shorter than it often seems.

Here are ten things you need to know, before it’s too late:

  1. This moment is your life. – Your life is not between the moments of your birth and death.  Your life is between now and your next breath.  The present – the here and now – is all the life you ever get.  So live each moment in full, in kindness and peace, without fear and regret.  And do the best you can with what you have in this moment; because that is all you can ever expect of anyone, including yourself.  Read The Power of Now.
  2. A lifetime isn’t very long. – This is your life, and you’ve got to fight for it.  Fight for what’s right.  Fight for what you believe in.  Fight for what’s important to you.  Fight for the people you love, and never forget to tell them how much they mean to you.  Realize that right now you’re lucky because you still have a chance.  So stop for a moment and think.  Whatever you still need to do, start doing it today.  There are only so many tomorrows.
  3. The sacrifices you make today will pay dividends in the future. – When it comes to working hard to achieve a dream – earning a degree, building a business, or any other personal achievement that takes time and commitment – one thing you have to ask yourself is:  “Am I willing to live a few years of my life like many people won’t, so I can spend the rest of my life like many people can’t?”
  4. When you procrastinate, you become a slave to yesterday. – But when you are proactive, it’s as if yesterday is a kind friend that helps take a load off your back.  So do something right now that your future self will thank you for.  Trust me, tomorrow you’ll be happy you started today.  Read The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.
  5. Failures are only lessons. – Good things come to those who still hope even though they’ve been disappointed, to those who still believe even though they’ve tasted failure, to those who still love even though they’ve been hurt.  So never regret anything that has happened in your life; it cannot be changed, undone or forgotten.  Take it all as lessons learned and move on with grace.
  6. You are your most important relationship. – Happiness is when you feel good about yourself without feeling the need for anyone else’s approval.  You must first have a healthy relationship with yourself before you can have a healthy relationship with others.  You have to feel worthwhile and acceptable in your own eyes, so that you’ll be able to look confidently into the eyes of the people around you and connect with them.
  7. A person’s actions speak the truth. – You’re going to come across people in your life who will say all the right words at all the right times; but in the end, it’s always their actions you should judge them by.  So pay attention to what people do.  Their actions will tell you everything you need to know.
  8. Small acts of kindness can make the world a better place. – Smile at people who look like they are having a rough day.  Be kind to them.  Kindness is the only investment that never fails.  And wherever there is a human being, there’s an opportunity for kindness.  Learn to give, even if it’s just a smile, not because you have too much, but because you understand there are so many others who feel like they have nothing at all.  Read Way of the Peaceful Warrior.
  9. Behind every beautiful life, there has been some kind of pain. – You trip and you fall, you make mistakes and you fail, but you stand strong through it all – you live and you learn.  You’re human, not perfect.  You been wounded, not defeated.  Think of what a priceless gift it is to grow through these experiences – to breathe, to think, to struggle, and to overcome challenges in the pursuit of the things you love.  Yes, sometimes you will encounter heartache along the way, but that’s a small price to pay for immeasurable moments of love and joy.  Which is why you must keep stepping forward even when it hurts, because you know the inner strength that has carried you this far can carry you the rest of the way.
  10. Time and experience heals pain. – Several years ago when I asked my grandmother about overcoming pain, this is how she explained it to me:  Look at the circles below.  The black circles represent our relative life experiences.  Mine is larger because I am older and have experienced more in my lifetime.  The smaller red circles represent a negative event in our lives.  Assume we both experienced the same exact event, whatever the nature.  Notice that the negative event circles are the same size for each of us; but also notice what percentage of the area they occupy in each of the black circles.  Your negative event seems much larger to you because it is a greater percentage of your total life experiences.  I am not diminishing the importance of this event; I simply have a different perspective on it.  What you need to understand is that an overwhelmingly painful event in your life right now will one day be part of your much larger past and not nearly as significant as it seems.

Negative Life Experiences
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Comments

  1. Kiara says

    Through perspectives and life lessons, what we will take to our grave is the everlasting happiness and the chuckles at our many mistakes and failures. What I don’t understand, is a quote you stated…. ” Live without regret and fears”. That makes us human, makes us real. Without the fear of fearing, accomplishments and little successes don’t seem as noteworthy.

    As a young teenager, I am thankful for my schooling, friends, family, and opportunities to show my numerous talents. I’ve made educational mistakes, mistakes according to my relationships, mentally and physically, athletically and artistically. But at the end of the day, I appreciate my past, embrace the present and hope for an even greater tomorrow. I’ve wanted to be a mother, a wife, a teacher, a pharmacist, a professional soccer player, professional dancer, actress, singer, musician. Realistically, I’m just hoping to be a great life liver. Dreams are similar to imagination, they might not come true, but are meant to help you live with a smile on your face.

  2. Herman says

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  3. says

    I really loved this post! I’m 24 this year and in the midst of figuring out what to do with my life. Things are kind of comfy right now but I definitely want more out of life. In that line of thought, I’ve decided to maybe make a huge move to somewhere new and start from scratch. Suffice to say, I’m feeling nervous and kind of stressed out.

    I somehow stumbled upon this article just as I was feeling a little down and restless. Definitely made my afternoon. Thanks! 😀

  4. Bruce Schroer says

    Happened upon this website and really liked what I saw! For nearly 27 years, I was blessed with a dream job and a means to enjoy a life of extensive world travel. That all changed three years ago by “office politics” and a “connected” colleague who made it her job to make others’ work lives miserable. Fortunately, her reign of terror recently came to an end, but my life has never been the same since signing on elsewhere as a “new” employee. I think living a simple life with few expenses in order to enjoy/experience the real pleasures of life is the way to go!

  5. Elvira says

    Thanks for such a wonderful blog. Every time, I feel overwhelmed I just read your blog and it refreshes me completely! Thanks for sharing this – it is simply amazing!

  6. Kristi says

    Number 6 is absolutely true. If we are not at peace with ourselves then we can’t be at peace and open to others. Thank you once again for your thought provoking article.

  7. somemandude22 says

    Thanks for all of this; I really needed to reorganize my priorities. Sometimes life goes too fast and we forget about our values and the important lessons we should be following.

  8. Romney says

    I’d better print this out, put it in front of my office desk and read this everyday! Some of the best advice I’ve read for the long time.

  9. Coco says

    Today Robin Williams died. It is also the 7 year anniversary of the death of a friend’s son who died at 18, in car wreck. Another friend of mine buried his son at 20, from cancer a few weeks ago. And yet another friend just decided to part with her sons ashes. Another mom I knew that I changed diapers with side by side with my babies passed at 50. All within about 3 weeks of each other. This moment IS your life! And a lifetime is not very long! And compassion always wins! We never know the struggle someone is dealing with. #1 & 2 ring out strong to me today. Live if you have life, enjoy each day, take one step closer to your goal, get back on track if you found yourself slightly – or even more off course, while you are here, it’s not too late, love those close to you and give grace whenever you can. This moment is your life right where you are now! I have a lot on my plate, I know some quite challenging struggles, but I cannot nor can anyone afford to wait to live, wait to enjoy life, wait to forgive someone, wait to show love & grace until we get it first, or “feel” like it.

    Indeed, this moment is your life and if you are reading this it’s never too late :) just one step forward.

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  1. This one is a must read! Just sent it to 5 of my friends on Facebook. Again, thank you for such a fantastic article that really makes me think hard. I love to print these and save them so I can reread them every day.

    Thanks so much! And I’m looking forward to your upcoming ebook too.

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