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10 Choices You Won’t Regret in 10 Years

10 Choices You Won’t Regret in 10 Years

I don’t regret the things I’ve done.
I regret the things I didn’t do when I had the chance.

In the end, more than anything else, we regret the chances we didn’t take, the relationships we were too afraid to have, and the decisions we waited too long to make.

Think about it…

The big opportunity you procrastinated on.  That friend you never called.  Those important words you left unspoken.

You know what I’m talking about.

Every one of us has experienced feelings of regret.  But it’s not too late to set things straight.  We’re still here breathing.  Today we have an opportunity to change tomorrow.  Right now we can choose to erase regret from our later years.

It’s time to make the best of each and every day.  Here are some ideas to get you started – ten things you can start doing now that you won’t regret 10 years down the road:

  1. Explore what YOU love, and own it. – If you spend your life trying to define yourself by what someone else loves, you’re going to be miserable.  Try things – try everything.  Explore.  See what makes you hear music inside and what makes your heart swell, and then go do it.  Find out everything you can about it.  Find other people who love it too.  If you waste time pretending to like something just because other people you think are “cool” like it, you’re going to end up with the wrong people and circumstances in your life.  Love what you love and be yourself, and you will end up with a lifestyle and relationships that make you truly happy.
  2. Live YOUR idea of your life, every day. – As you’re working on point #1, you will inevitably meet people who want to steer you in a different direction – their direction.  Just remember, what’s right for them may be wrong for you, and vice versa.  The truth is that the world isn’t really as it is, but as we see it.  And we all see it differently.  If you end up living a boring, miserable life because you completely ignored yourself and instead listened to a parent, a peer, or some gal on TV telling you how to live your life, then you have no one but yourself to blame.  Honestly, the smartest and most courageous act is simply to think for yourself and listen to you own intuition.  It’s better to die your way, than live someone else’s idea of your life.  (Read Choose Yourself!)
  3. Wake up every morning and get the RIGHT things done. – The world does not owe you a living.  You owe the world a life.  So stop daydreaming and start DOING.  Develop a backbone, not a wishbone.  Take full responsibility for your life – take control.  You are important and you are needed.  It’s too late to sit around and wait for somebody to do something someday.  Someday is now; the somebody the world needs is YOU.  Focus on being productive, not being busy.  Don’t just get things done; get the right things done (and this includes things in your personal life too).
  4. Put down your smartphone and be more present. – Is there anything worse than getting somewhere and not realizing how you got there?  Even worse is only realizing how great something is after it’s gone.  Living in the present is a basic notion, but as with most simple things, we often find a way to complicate it.  But there’s nothing complicated about learning to appreciate and notice life as it’s happening.  There’s nothing complicated about being present.  You won’t remember the cool Instagram photo you saw on your feed anyway.  You will, however, want to remember the conversations you had and the stories you lived through.  So put down the darn phone.
  5. Practice relentless kindness. – Kindness is always the best response to any situation.  When you grow older and you look back on your life, you will inevitably forget a lot of the stuff that seemed so important when you were young.  You probably won’t remember what your high school or college GPA was.  You will look at your old classmates on Facebook (or some other online social network) and wonder why you ever had a crush on that girl/guy.  And you will have the toughest time remembering why you let certain people from your past get the best of you.  But you will never forget the people who were genuinely kind – those who helped when you were hurt, and who loved you even when you felt unlovable.  Be that person to others as often as possible.  (And, as you know, what goes around comes around.)
  6. Love yourself, too. – More likely than not, the first person who caught your eye wasn’t “The One.”  And the second, third or fourth probably wasn’t either.  You know why?  It’s because YOU are the one.  Love isn’t something out there somewhere that someone else can give to you.  It’s already inside you.  It’s that sacred part of each of us that makes us human.  And some of the best moments in life are when you truly connect with someone else and share the love you already have inside with them.  But don’t ever forget to love yourself, first.  When you start by loving and respecting yourself, it makes giving that love to other people infinitely better.  You’re going to meet so many amazing people in your life, and I hope you do fall in love with someone else.  Just remember to fall in love with your own life too, because no one else can do that for you.
  7. Work a little less and spend a little more time smiling with people you love. – You’ve heard the saying, “The best things in life are free.”  Well spending quality time with family and friends, enjoying the antics of a pet, seeing your son smile, experiencing intimate and heart-felt moments with your significant other – these times are precious and priceless.  Don’t get so caught up in the rat race, working 60+ hours a week, to the point where you are too stressed and exhausted to enjoy your closest relationships.  By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to live on less, and thus work fewer hours and enjoy more of what truly matters.  (Read The Joy of Less.)
  8. Say what you need to say. – Speak up.  Don’t hide your thoughts and feelings, especially when you can make a difference.  Be brave.  Say what needs to be said.  Many people suppress their feelings in order to keep peace with others, or to shield themselves from potential rejection.  As a result, they settle for a mediocre existence and never become who they are capable of becoming.  Even worse, many of these people develop illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carry as a result.  Don’t be one of them.  Hearts are often broken by words left unspoken, and this includes your own heart.
  9. Leave toxic relationships behind. – You deserve respect.  You deserve it from your family, your friends, your coworkers – from everyone in your life.  The best way to receive respect from others is to begin by respecting yourself.  Speak clearly and keep your head up.  Stand up for what you believe.  Make choices that you feel good about.  And if someone in your life is being disrespectful‚ call them on it.  If things don’t change, you need to limit the amount of time and influence they have in your life.  We need people in our lives who challenge us and disagree with us, so we can see things from new perspectives.  We don’t need to be constantly torn down by toxic people who don’t respect us though.  It can be difficult to leave a long-term relationship, even when our inner-wisdom tells us it’s time to let go.  But make no mistake, all failed relationships hurt, but letting go of a toxic relationship is a gain, not a loss.
  10. Let go of those who are already gone. – You’re going to mingle with a lot of people in your lifetime.  You’re going to have first kisses you feel all the way down to your toes and think “Oh my gosh, I love him,” but really… you loved the kiss.  You’re going to meet a friend you think you will know forever, but then something will change and you two will go your separate ways.  You’re going to explore different parts of your life with different people who aren’t in it for the long haul, and that isn’t a bad thing.  Life is a series of stories, and the way our stories intersect is remarkable.  Sometimes people are in our lives for the whole story.  Sometimes they are just a short chapter or two.  It takes a brave person to know when that chapter is over, and then to turn the page.  Be brave.  Embrace your goodbyes, because every “goodbye” you receive in life sets you up for an even better “hello.”


If you’re struggling with any of these points, know that you are not alone.  Many of us are right there with you, working hard to feel better, think more clearly, and live a life free of regrets.  This is precisely why Angel and I wrote our book, 1,000 Little Things Happy Successful People Do Differently”.  It’s filled with short, concise tips on how to do just that.  And believe it or not, Angel and I review a lot of our own material on a regular basis too, just to center our minds on these positive principles.

The bottom line is that it’s never too late to take a step in the right direction.  It’s never too late to become the person you are capable of being.  Things can change if you want them to, at any age.  Right now you have an opportunity to write yourself a future full of peace and free of regret.

Your turn…

What would you add to the list?

What have you done lately that you know you will NOT regret in 10 years?

Leave a comment below and share your thoughts and insights.

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  • I will not regret going back to school and becoming a nurse. I struggle with it sometimes because it is a stressful, demanding job, but at the end of the day I know I have helped people. I have saved lives, comforted the dying, made children smile, and chatted with the lonely. My life is ultimately fuller because of those I have cared for.

  • I have never regretted saying “no” when involved in an unsuitable relationship, at the appropriate time before it gets too late. And I know I never will regret it.

  • I think I’ve mentioned this before, but after reading parts of your book on regret earlier this year I called a friend of mine who was batting cancer and dying. I hadn’t phoned her for a while because she was having continuous cancer treatments, which made casual conversation a struggle for us because we knew she has little time. But I also knew I would regret not talking to her, and after I broke the ice, I took it a step further and went to see her every afternoon until she passed away last week. Thank you for motivating me to do so. It’s a choice I will never regret.

    And thank you for the continued motivation in all walks of life. Here’s a quote on regret from your book that has helped me keep things in perspective:

    “Before you know it you’ll be asking, ‘How did it get so late so soon?’ Take time to figure yourself out. Take time to realize what it is you want. Take time to take risks. Take time to love, laugh, cry, and forgive. Life is shorter than it often seems. Look straight ahead and say ‘YES’ to the opportunities coming your way. Happiness and success never come to look for you while you wait around. You’ve got to get out there, take chances, and work at it to make your time memorable.”

  • Leaving toxic relationships is very important - something you will never regret.

  • Christopher York
    August 14th, 2014 at 4:48 am

    I have to say that you guys rock! I occasionally sign up for a motivational blog’s email newsletters - being a self-help aficionado - but most of them are inbox/delete. I only signed up about a month ago to your newsletter, but the three or four newsletters I have received were so good that I passed them on to friends and family. Now, as you probably know, most things you
    forward you never get a response for unless its like some big media tragedy. Stuff like this article - rarely. One of them I sent out almost every person (just 4) wrote back with some comment like “Wow” or “God did I really need that.”

    You guys have a real gift here. Many blessings.

  • I would add as #11 - “Own and share your Elephant Story.” - I will never regret sharing my “Elephant Story” - it has empowered me and freed me from the prison of shame and fear. Giving myself permission to cultivate shame resilience is one of the most amazing gifts I have given to myself. It allowed me to fully love who I am and now I am living my life filled with passion and purpose. Thank you Marc and Angel for the excellent post! And to anyone reading this - make today as beautiful as you are! :)

  • Thank you Marc and Angel, I’m second year student doing one of those courses in university that I really hate, because my mom is not at all fond with the career path that I’m really into which is film. And now every day I think about my passion (Film) I literally feel my heart burning (I think it’s desire) to force me to go and change this university course and apply for Film but my mother… she’s so difficult! Should I change it? I really hate it! I’m just there to pass and nothing else… I don’t even see myself working in that field! I’m really just doing it for my mom, but I don’t want to regret it in 10+ years.

  • Thanks Marc. Really needed this post TODAY.

  • As always, a fantastic post.

    I especially liked #10. This one is so hard for so many of us to grasp, yet is immensely important for recognizing and being open to new opportunities in life.

    Thanks. =)

  • @Sara: It’s crazy, I feel completely different about nursing. I find it unfulfilling. There are many thankless emotional vampires that enjoy being sick, at least that’s what I’ve come across in my career. After 30 years of it, there is more bad than good. The career has not evolved for the better. People still see nursing as a secondary career. Also it was not my decision to become a nurse. I was bullied into it. Get a good reliable job I was told when what I wanted to do was design and create clothes for the human body. This because I listened to my family and not my heart. In the end I walked away from my toxic family, still a nurse, but looking at what I can do to change that. And it is never too late. Retirement is not the end of working but an opportunity to change to what you love.

  • I love when you accentuate the positive (+) — 10 Choices You Won’t Regret in 10 Years vs. the negative (-) of 10 Choices You Will Regret in 10 Years.

    I’ve been reading your messages for years and always look forward to your sentiments in my in box!

    Keep up the fabulous work!

  • Great post! Regrets are the worst. I try to not call things regrets, because I find that doing so only makes me feel bad. It’s hard not to feel like you missed out on something, though. I really like #2. It’s so important to live YOUR life each day. I think that’s one of the biggest ways to not feel like you have regrets. If you know, at the end of the day, that you were true to yourself then that’s really all that matters sometimes.

  • I tend to think in terms of self-improvement, because ultimately I can only control myself.

    Trust your instincts. I get burned all the time when I don’t listen to the voice inside my head. But when I act on instrinct, even without knowing why, I rarely get burned. If something does not feel right, step back and begin asking “How come?”

    Take a stand. My stand is for quality of communication. In today’s world people are getting more aggressive as electronic communication overtakes face to face conversation. I deal with it all day long. I have no problem telling ANYONE to pick up the phone and call me.

    Create your own reputation. For 20 years management and leadership wanted me to specialize, and I never did. I wanted to be well-rounded, and a go-to guy when things got rough or when they needed a fire put out. And that is who I am now within the project teams. When something goes wrong in the field, I take the call and jump on a plane. For friends and family, I call and leave messages, text and email. I reach out first. It does not always work, but I’d rather be that person than the one who only went silent over the course of time and distance.

  • After 32 Years of being in a toxic friendship, last year i said ” enough of this crap” and I stopped being friends with this person. Today I am happier and feeling so much more peaceful, and I know I made the right decision. No regrets here.

    Thank you for your wonderful book and great emails!

  • Thank you always for your insightful articles. They always seem to come at just the right time.

  • @Dev: Dev, what you did is so noble, brave, kind and … Right. Right for yourself first and of course for your friend.

    And thank you for sharing.

  • Getting off the phone is so key. You are right that you won’t remember a lot of the stuff you intake and it is important to your happiness to be in the moment, foster your relationships, and experience life.

    I also understand that most people our just parts of your life and some will be in it forever and others will not. Some our merely a fill in day player and other are major characters.

    Living with resentment or the what ifs suck. Say what you need to say!

  • ‘You deserve respect. You deserve it from your family, your friends, your coworkers – from everyone in your life’ - Thanks this one statement really hit home for me - in particular the word ‘family.’ It’s one thing not getting the respect from friends, coworkers, spouses, but not getting it from family is a whole other entity in itself it seems…

  • I really cherish this page b/c it helps me keep things in perspective. I have lived for myself for so long and I have been giving everything I got. Yes I have loved, and had love, I know how beautiful it is to give all of me unconditionally. I think it may all be better to have bred and given offspring, but I do not know.

    Life is hard, probably not any harder for me than anybody else, luckily I have moments of pure joy.

    PS. I sincerely do not regret anything but given the choice a second time I might choose differently with what I know now. However I am not truly sure because we are who we are always.

  • Eighteen months ago I reunited with a man I knew at age 19. He went to Vietnam and we lost track of each other. My sister convinced me to look him up on Facebook. We connected after 44 years and decided to move to S.America and live our lives in this amazing place of beauty and culture. Our time and story he told to everyone we met. It was a magical 10 months… sadly it ended too soon. But I will never regret going, reconnecting, or throwing caution to the wind and exploring another life… will always remember that time and place. Never let an opportunity to expand your life go by.

  • Thank you for these wise words. I am going through a break up with a very immature man and he is doing everything to hurt me. It is relentless the abuse he is putting on me. All I want to do is walk away from a very toxic person/relationship so I in turn can learn to love myself and to love again with out fear.

    Your tips are so helpful to me in this time of life and I thank you for them

  • As always your articles seem to come to me when I need them most. This one has given me the motivation to carry on, head high and “Let go of those who are already gone”. Sometimes you just need a little inspiration to keep going in the direction you know you need to go. So thanks to you both for being there when we need you.

  • Practice relentless kindness, this phrase speaks to me. I have been working towards being kinder and I will continue to do so until I can claim to practice relentless kindness.

  • Marc and Angel…

    Thank you for the wealth of articles, comments, suggestions, and practical advice.

    #4 - reminded me of this life lesson…

    In our digital and virtual world, living “in the moment” and listening - without distraction - is a rare experience for many.

    Several years ago, someone shared a practical and life-altering perspective on listening…simple - but profound! It centers on the word listen.

    Start with the word LISTEN, and shuffle the exact same letters, and what does it spell?

    L I S T E N

    S I L E N T

    A practical reminder for everyone - in all relationships.

    Thank you for sharing, caring, and LISTENING.

  • I will never regret having signed up for your articles, Marc and Angel… you are changing my life little bits at a time and slowly, but surely. You are a blessing in my life and thank you for all the inspiring words. God bless you always.

  • In the wake of Robin Williams’ passing, this is astonishing. We need to hold on to the reminder of being kind and aware of others’ feelings. Thanks.

  • OMG! I feel so connected to some of the responses the readers have left.

    @Sibusio: You can get a job with any degree so do what you love, because you will pay the consequences of misery later for your mom’s well-meaning pushiness. She’s not got to do that hard work you do. How long can you last in a job you hate while trying to pay bills with it? Recipe for distress. Do what you love.
    Sara, bless you for tolerating nursing and making a difference in such a hard field.

    @Theresa: Remember, you can still go to school and study fashion, get a job as a fashion coordinator and design clothes. It’s never too late, love, that’s the point here! Good luck. Nursing SUCKS and so do toxic families who bully their sweet young women into it, even 30 years ago or today.

  • If you’re not happy in your Career Choice, stop. Get Away from Mom for awhile until you know what you want to do. I have done things for others for a roof over my head, but don’t have to anymore. My plan is to follow Gods plan.

  • Another great post. The amazing thing is that each new one comes at the right time. I am working on baby steps, but am making progress.

    I have to remember #6 all the time, to love myself. After being alone 3 years now, I am actually striking up conversations with men. Am trying out a dating site, but prefer the old fashioned way of meeting people, face to face.

    I will be 62 next month, and “dating” today is a whole different experience. I don’t own a smartphone, have no use for one. I still write letters and buy stamps. Old fashioned, yes, but I love to write, and think getting a real letter in the mail is such a treasure.

    Dev and David Rapp, I follow both of your comments and enjoy everything you both have to say.

    I am so glad to be a part of this blog community, and thank you Marc and Angel so much. I also thank all the other people that each adds a new comment. This is just wonderful. Marc, I have taken your advice, and I am a work in progress.

  • Another spot-on post. Number 8 hit home for me. Suppressing my feelings to keep peace or fearing rejection. It’s only recently that I’ve realized how much I needed to say, not just go along or be a good listener. Mediocrity isn’t the kind of life for which I’m willing to settle.

  • Oh my God! this is right on the button. All 10 reasons are actually you will never regret not only in 10 years but in a lifetime..

  • Thanks. This gives me lots of encouragement to follow my guts. Besides, your viewpoints of relationships pushed me to think a lot about people around me.

  • @Theresa - I feel you. Today I decided that last night was my last shift. 30 years is enough. Lucky there are people like Sara to carry the flame. Move on. See No. 6 and No. 9.

  • I have regrets when it comes to my mistakes and wrong decisions. The opportunities that I didn’t pursue because I don’t believe in myself enough. It can lead to being so hard on myself. It’s not healthy to hold on to it. But one thing that I didn’t regret lately is when I decided to let go of it and forgive myself. To set my priorities right even when it’s a lot of pressure because my family expect a lot from me. What I also didn’t regret lately is spending quality time and experiencing priceless moments with my little nieces. I’ve been busy with so many things and it can make them feel like I’m neglecting them. It’s important for me to make time for them and give them my full attention.

  • Somehow God always brings me back to you when I stray off the path. I soooo needed this post, and was feeling, before I read it, so many regrets. I need to focus on today and what I am doing “right” (for me) now and right now. Made a decision to go back to school and some say…”At your age?” Age is just a number and I am planning on being here for many years to come. Even now, I have stepped up following your advice (#8) and saying what I need to say. ;) I sure hope my thoughts encourage someone out there!

  • What I will not regret is spending almost every day for the past 2 years with my elderly Mom. Two years ago I decided to live with her again so she could stay in her beloved home and tend her garden. It was too much for her to handle being on her own and mental illness along with physical ailments were setting in. It was tough for me to adjust to the drastic change this has made to my lifestyle - but I don’t regret it. One day when she’s gone I’ll be very glad that I was here in her life each day to help make it easier and less lonely. Even if you cannot see your elderly parent(s) each day - it would make a huge difference if you called them very regularly. You’ll be especially glad you did when they are gone.

  • Photos of friends and family. You never regret a good photo taken. (later)

  • I liked your article and I agree with you in most recommendations with the exception of number 8. It’s important to say what you need to say, but this depends on many factors. I know people who were relegated just for saying what they believed it was true. Sometimes it’s better the silence.

  • God always brings me to you too when I need to pay attention to specific aspects of my life. Today number 7 stands out and I understand why. I already ordered the book :” The Joy of Less”. I read the introduction and first few pages and I realized that I need to read this book. Your book is helping me enormously in addition to your e mails. However, I would like to thank you , for also suggesting such good reading material when you deem it suitable. Thank you!

  • Abdallah salum massoud
    August 16th, 2014 at 6:34 am

    Hi, this is the greatest post!!! Very helpful. Thanks.

  • When you make the best effort in relationships and life then you should have no regrets. Remember you are in charge of you and your actions and words and have no control over people’s actions or what they have to say or do when you make your best effort! Like you say, love yourself first and when it’s time to move on then do it for yourself also! :)

  • Having a photo taken of me doing what I love, one of those real defining photos - makes me smile every time I see it and reminds me who I am and why I do what I do - clearly.
    (I know it sounds vain, but it really isn’t, it’s more about being able to visualise where I am in my life).

  • Thanks a lot. We should own what we love and de-intoxicate toxic relationships.

  • @Dev: A choice you will never regret… along with moments that meant the world to your friend.

    @Christopher York: Thank you for spreading the inspiration! :)

    @Karlyn: Great addition. There’s no need to fight your battles alone. Oftentimes speaking about them aloud is healing in itself, let alone reminding yourself you are not alone.

    @Sibusiso: I think you answered your own question. Ask yourself, “In five years will I regret not taking a film course to follow my true passion?”

    @Dan: That’s exactly what we were going after. So glad to hear you enjoyed the positive twist.

    @Stephanie: Anybody who is capable of living and loving is bound to get hurt at some point, but that’s a risk that’s well worth the reward. The result is a life filled with honesty and love. Thank you for sharing your story.

    @Captain Kirk: I love it!

    @Betsy: The comments and community are what bring this all together, thank you for participating.

    @Apple: Way to take action towards positive change. It’s never too late.

    @Narayani: I couldn’t agree more!

    @All: It’s never too late to live a life that makes you proud. We get one shot at this. There’s no age limit on changing your course, and to settle in and be stuck in a life that isn’t authentic is a tragic waste. Honestly, it’s never too late or too early to be who you are capable of being. There’s no time limit – you can simply start and stop whenever you want. You can change or stay the same. You can make the best or the worst of it. It’s up to you, so make the best of it. Thank you for the positivity and inspiration!

  • I love your articles and find them extremely helpful and uplifting.

    This may seem controversial, but I’ve noticed that whenever you post an article, they are 99% of the time accompaigned by the image of a caucasian person or couple.

    I think your readership is far more diverse than the range images you associate with your wonderful articles. It would be great to see this diversity reflected back to us as a sign of acknowledgement, and most importantly, a clear message that your words are meant for all backgrounds, cultures, and walks of life.

    Thank you,

    Chi Chi

  • I want to remember everything this list states… to keep me strong to never fall back into a weak state of mind.

  • Thanks Marc and Angel…you have led to to take the biggest step i have in recent times…your point 10 - letting go of what is already gone - helped a lot. I was in a state of denial..but i now know..

  • #9 was an eye opener. For the longest time I’d been dwelling on the failed relationship i’ve had with a guy a dated for about four years. It was a relationship that never respected my worth as a person. As hard break ups are, just know that not everyone we lose, is a loss. Somehow there is still sadness when I realize how things turned out, but deep inside I know I am truly happy. And as usual, this is another impressive article!

  • THANK YOU so much for this supportive post.

  • Thank you for a great article. What stood out for me was letting go of toxic people.

    I am struggling with this one as I have people in my life who latch onto me because I am able to make decisions and do interesting things, but the constant nagging and worrying about hurting their feelings if I don’t include them in everything breaks me down. This is just as bad as people not respecting you because you are allowing it to happen to yourself.

    The more you try to do your own thing the more they feel like you exclude you and try guilt trip you to include them. I don’t actually know how to approach the subject without breaking the other person down and if I mention anything it will probably ruin whatever friendship is left. Oh well, will have to see what happens.

  • Very solid article Marc! Your article was shared to me by a friend, and I just wanted to tell you that it’s very well written and powerful!

    Cheers ans keep up the good work

  • You’ve given us yet another great post, and I thank you for that. I believe that you touched on many of the things that people struggle with. Number 10, for example, is a though one due to social media, and having to see these people, that left your life, everyday.

    There are ways to change that. Do whatever it takes to feel better and to give more attention to the people that ARE in your life right now.



  • I re-read this post again because it has a lot of significance in my heart and mind today. Last night, I visited my ailing grandmother in the hospital. She was recently diagnosed with dimentia and was told yesterday she would not be returning home, rather she would be going to a special care home. When I approached her as I was leaving, she grabbed my hand and squeezed it tightly. She cried, and said many sad things about what she is going to miss. Then, she looked at me and said, “Don’t work too hard. Look where it got me. This is how I’m ending my days, without all the things I worked hard in life to get.” That stuck with me, and upon reading this post of yours, some things are so much more clear for me. Thank you, as always, for such insightful words.

  • It’s a great post! I loved that you acknowledge that it is a struggle for everyone, that’s encouraging! All my life I had to simplify things because of my cerebral palsy but one thing that has always been difficult to let go is proving myself to others and to me. I’m learning more and more to be self-compassionate and that it does not have to mean selfish.

    Thanks for the encouragement.


  • Reading your blog has become a habit, to the extent that my reactions and thoughts have become instinctive driven by an intution that has gradualy been built in my thought process. Letting go has become the best process i have undergone in my transformation, by acknowledging the hurt and the possibilites that comes with it, i have managed to transcend. I find myself in the present, and my senses reawaken. I can feel again, i can taste again, i can hear again, I can see again… Thank you

  • Be gracious, kind and practice gratitude daily: If you live in a life of gratitude, no matter how bad your day is - you will never regret it. It changes your mind and your heart. It makes you, even forces you to look at the good and steer clear of the negatives of life. We see so much bad on TV but how ofter do we take the time to be truly grateful? I recently found out that I’m loosing my job but got 2 1/2 months notice. Yes the first week stunk but every day I’ve been forcing myself to find things to be thankful for. On top of my list is the fact I got 2 1/2 months notice. Seems hard at first, but believe me - it has made a huge difference in the way i feel and think.

  • I never regret forgiving.

  • Boundaries. Boundaries. Boundaries - please take care of yourself. You will not regret that, ever, by your last breath here on Earth. Self preservation is not a selfish act.

  • I regret going back to school and becoming a nurse. I let someone “talk me into it” because he thought it would be a more realistic way to make a living. I work in surgery, which, at first, I loved - because it is “so” interesting. But I’ve learned, that everyone working there, surgeon, surgical technicians and other nurses are only looking out for themselves. When push comes to shove, they will throw the nearest person under the bus to take the blame for their own inadequacy. I see self proclaimed expert techs scrubbing out when there is a patient to care for to check their text messages & show the surgeons the latest Facebook video - just to be “liked”. I see surgeons being rude & make condescending comments to staff who have busted their butts to try to get everything right. Never a simple “thank you” I’m tired of trying to be empathetic to new nurses who ignore tasks that need to be done to flirt with Dr.’s, fix their makeup, send text messages & yet demand help with their inadequate skills, and moreover, to criticize what you are trying to do to help them!!!! To Sara, the first post, think twice about going into nursing. It is a dog eat dog world in the health care industry & stay on your toes! I think I would like to be a Forest Ranger in my next life. May not make as much money, but would be a lot happier

  • great post. I am just from a toxic relationship recently and I don’t regret anything… in fact I wonder why I never left earlier.

  • I will never regret two things. The first one is….forgiving someone with an open heart….this is a healthy closure as it serves no good purpose to carry those pains around with you for the rest of your life….we are all human & make bad decisions from time to time.

    The second is….being brave and living my life fully and not letting fear cage me….I never want to look back on life in later years with the “I wish I should’ve or could’ve”….I believe in stepping out of my comfort zone which expands my mind and life.

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