The truth does not cease to exist when it is forgotten.
You know how you can read or hear something dozens of times in dozens of different ways before it finally sinks in? The little truths listed below fall firmly into that category — timeless life lessons that many of us likely learned years ago, and have been reminded of ever since, yet for whatever reason we tend to forget in the heat of the moment.
This, my friends, is my attempt at helping all of us, myself included, “get it” and “remember it” once and for all, especially as we collectively cope with all the evolving chaos in our world today…
1. Life is short and nothing is guaranteed.
We know deep down that life is short, and that death will happen to all of us eventually, and yet we are infinitely surprised when it happens to someone we know. It’s like walking up a flight of stairs with a distracted mind, and misjudging the final step. You expected there to be one more stair than there is, and so you find yourself off balance for a moment, before your mind shifts back to the present moment and how the world really is.
So let that reminder be a wake-up call to LIVE your life TODAY! Don’t ignore death, but don’t be afraid of life either. Be afraid of a life you never lived because you were too afraid to take positive action today. Death is not the greatest loss in life, neither is injury. The greatest loss is what dies inside you while you’re still alive and capable.
So even when life gets messy, be bold, be courageous, be a scared to death, and then take the next step anyway. Invest your heart and soul into whatever you have right in front of you. Bring passion into otherwise ordinary moments… Love what you do, until you can do what you love. Love where you are, until you can be where you love. Love the people you’re with, until you can be with the people you love most. This is the way we find more happiness, opportunity, and peace on the average day.
2. Everything will change again soon.
Embrace change and realize that, although messy, in many ways it’s necessary. It won’t always be obvious at first, but in the end most forms of change are worthwhile because they force us to grow. So keep yourself in check right now…
What you have today may become what you had by tomorrow. You never know. Things change, often spontaneously. People and circumstances come and go. Life doesn’t stop for anybody. It moves rapidly and rushes from calm to chaos in a matter of seconds, and happens like this to people every day. It’s likely happening to someone nearby right now.
Sometimes the shortest split second in time changes the direction of our lives. A seemingly innocuous decision rattles our whole world like a meteorite striking Earth. Entire lives have been swiveled and flipped upside down, for better or worse, on the strength of an unpredictable event. And these events are always happening — like all the senseless violence and drama we see in our world today.
So just remember, however good or bad a situation is now, it will change. That’s the one thing you can count on. Accept it. Breathe. Be where you are. You’re where you need to be right now. There’s a time and place for everything, and every hard step is necessary. Just keep doing your best, and don’t force what’s not yet supposed to fit into your life. When it’s meant to be, it will be.
3. Changing your response is what puts you back in control.
Have patience with everything that remains imperfect or unfinished in your head and heart. And realize that patience is not about waiting, but the ability to keep a good attitude while working hard to stay true to your intuition and values. This is your life, and it is governed by your choices. May your actions speak louder than your words. May your daily choices preach louder than your lips. May your inner sense of satisfaction be your noise in the end.
And if your present life only teaches you one thing, let it be that taking a passionate leap is always worth it. Even if you have no idea where you’re going to land — even when there are so many unknowns — be brave enough to stand up and listen to your heart. Remember that the most powerful moments in life happen when you find the courage to let go of what can’t be changed. Because as Viktor Frankl said, when you are no longer able to change a situation, you are challenged to change yourself — to grow beyond the unchangeable. And that changes everything! (Note: Marc and I discuss this in more detail in the “Passion and Growth” chapter of 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.)
4. Life’s storms can be a great source of strength.
Hard times are like strong storms that blow against you. And it’s not just that these storms hold you back from places you are trying to go. They also tear away from you all but the essential parts of your ego that cannot be torn, so that you are left only with the foundation of who you really are.
Ultimately you realize you are here to endure these storms, to sacrifice your time and risk your heart. You are here to be bruised by life. And when it happens that you are hurt, or betrayed, or rejected, let yourself sit quietly with your eyes closed and remember all the good times you had, and all the sweetness you tasted, and everything you learned. Tell yourself how amazing it was to live, and then open your eyes and live some more.
Because to never struggle would be to never grow. You must let go of who you were so you can become who you are. Again, it is within the depths of the strongest and darkest storms that you often discover within you an inextinguishable light, and it is this light that illuminates the path forward.
5. You don’t need all the answers right now.
Accept the feeling of not knowing exactly where you are going, and train yourself to love and appreciate this sensation of freedom. Because it is only when you are suspended in the air, with no destination in sight, that you force your wings to open fully so you can fly. And as you soar around you still may not know where you’re traveling to. But that’s not what’s important. What’s important is the opening of your wings. You may not know where you’re going, but you know that so long as your wings are spread, the winds will carry you forward.
Truth be told, some of the greatest outcomes that transpire in your life will be the ones you never even knew you wanted. As long as you keep your mind open to new perspectives and yourself moving forward, there really are no totally wrong turns in life, only paths you didn’t know you were meant to travel. And you never can be certain what’s around the corner. It could be everything, or it could be nothing. You keep gliding steadily forward, and then one day you realize you’ve come a long way from where you started.
All details aside, someday all the pieces will come together. Unimaginably good outcomes will likely transpire in your life, even if everything doesn’t turn out exactly the way you had anticipated. And you will look back at the messy times that have passed, smile, and ask yourself…
“How in the world did I get through all of that?”
Now, it’s your turn…
Yes, it’s your turn to forgive yourself for the bad decisions you made, for the times you lacked understanding, for the choices that innocently hurt others and yourself along the way. Forgive yourself for being young and reckless. These are all vital lessons. And what matters most right now is your willingness to get back out there today and grow from them.
But before you go, please leave Marc and me a comment below and let us know what you think of this essay. Your feedback is important to us. 🙂
Which one of the points above resonated the most today?
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Bonnie Staughton says
Loved it. What resonated to me the most was the last paragraph of #5–“someday all the pieces will come together”. Thanks so much for this. I intend to read it several more times to get the true meaning–slowly.
Oh, and I’m loving your 1,000 Little Things book too as a for daily self reflection. Thanks for what you two constantly do, Angel and Marc.
Susan Gauthier says
Me too I have taken a big leap love wise. Trying to live in the moment and not ruminate about what might be ahead. It’s hard but is anything forever?
Maja says
Last one is the one. Highly resonating with me. Thank you for sharing, appreciating your care.
Randa says
Wow that was really good enjoyed the article!!!
Robin Owens says
Thank you so much for this essay, this essay explains perfectly imperfect the roller coaster of my life so far.
Carole Jacobson says
FOR MARC & ANGEL
It is so exceptional that you make these VERY helpful missives and that you make them relevant to today. You are providing critical anchors for all of us to stand firm,
have affinity for others, and be open to the wisdom ,so valuable, which you share. I am doing better because of your relevant reminders, so astutely worded. Thank you so much and may you both FEEL the collective appreciation from all of us, who do not want “sugar coated, out of date, adages.”
Carole J.
Nancy Nielsen says
“When you are no longer able to change a situation, you are challenged to change yourself!” This is a great quote and reminder and it has a lot of meaning to many of us today. Thanks for sharing it here.
H Fraser says
I liked that one too
Frances says
Your words of encouragement, wisdom and compassion have made a difference in my life, over the years of being a part of yours. I have been writing essays on many ways to survive, and what I am doing to be grateful for all in the past, and the hope of a good life in the future. Thank You for all your kind and wise thoughts over the past years.
I have shared your “Getting Back to Happy” book with family and friends over these past years too.
Sending love and strength to you two, and all those in your life.
Frances J.
Debra Cahalan says
You truly are EARTH ANGELS
I THANK MY GOD FOR YOUR ABILITY TO SHARE YOUR CARING THOUGHTS & WORDS OF ADVICE,
MAY THE GOOD LORD BLESS
YOU & YOURS…
Lorraine says
I really like the reminder that when we’re going through hard times, being grateful may be more difficult, but it’s still a helpful practice in small doses.
Tere Saad says
All your writings are excellent, this one is one of your best recently. Thank you for taking the time to encourage others. I would only add the mention of God to this piece, since He is the one that can transform our lives….turning even bad situations into a blessing somehow. I understand that not everyone believes in a creator but pretty much you stated what the Bible says….have courage, don’t be afraid, live today without worrying about tomorrow, I will be with you, the pieces will come together. It shows Marc and Angel that you have love for others, that you don’t judge and that you have a deep desire to see others happy and free…..may blessings fill your lives and may you always be able to carry on with your beautiful work.
Diane Gray says
So true. I think the same things when reading this piece. God has forgiven us for not knowing better or making wrong choices in men to marry or whatever. The important thing is he puts our feet on solid ground by reading his word and knowing that he has given us all we need to make better choices that will not hurt ourselves or others. But all those hurts led us to who we are today. Had I not been abused I would not be able to sympathize with domestic violence survivors. I have been there in their shoes and know it was never my fault. I am now loving myself instead of trying to constantly do the right thing so someone would love me. I am worthy of love and next time I will pick better. God will give me another chance and this time I must be wise like a fox but gentle as a dove. Angel reminds us that it was all for a purpose and all the pieces fit together in this thing we call the puzzle of life. It has made us stronger and more able to help others see the light.
Teresa says
I liked what you wrote that patience is having a positive attitude about the situation. Due to illness, I have been staying at home alone for the past two weeks and it is very difficult. But, a better attitude will see me through these troubling times. Thank you for all of your encouragement.
Lisa says
Thank you, as always, for your encouragement and words of wisdom over the years Angel & Marc. (I own two of your books and refer to them often, I’ve also recommended them to many people.)
hope, faith, peace
Arpana says
Thank you for this article. It was timely and helpful.
Nora Kelly Quinn says
“…however good or bad a situation is now, it will change. That’s the one thing you can count on. Accept it. Breathe. Be where you are. You’re where you need to be right now. There’s a time and place for everything, and every hard step is necessary.”
That resonated. Thank you both
Audra T. Russell says
Number one for me is so loud. I almost lost my mom very suddenly became doctors sent her home when they should have admitted her. She ended up with sepsis and we were told there was nothing more that could be done except let the medicine work. Thankfully, she made it through and was just discharged from the hospital two days ago after a month-long stay in the hospital. She’s not completely better yet but she’s making steady progress. But I was reminded very harshly that tomorrow is not promised.
Joab says
Thank you Marc and Angel, for this thought provoking and life altering article.
mbugua muuru says
I love this one of taking off…being blown by the wind. What matters is that you open your wings…and you will be blown to situations you never imagined..being positive in life however hard it gets..finally it will change..the storms carry you to new destinations, new beginning
Stan says
I cared for my mother as she declined in her final years and it took a lot out of me. I thought I’d never be able to do that again until a very good friend had health issues for a year before he passed. Somehow I did it again, but I admit it took it’s toll on me. I guess when you love someone you find the strength to do whatever you need to. The positive side is that when I look back, I know I did what I could, and had a great relationship with them when they passed. I sure hope when my time comes I go quickly. It is hard on those who watch you decline and can’t do anything about it.
Kevin Mutua Nzuki says
Wow! You guys really uplift my mood with these beautiful motivations, and the last part about forgive myself – I really did need that because I was really so naive in the past and people just walked over me and treated me like an afterthought and then just one day like you said I just sat alone with myself and really thought hard; do i really need this negativity in my life just in order to feel secure of having friends and family members who treat me like trash. And from that moment i decided to rise from the ashes like a phoenix and take no more bullshit from anybody and take people for exactly what they show me and treat me. Thanks again Marc and Angel.
Ken says
#5 is a difficult one because we are drilled, conditioned and brainwashed to plan ahead and stay focused. I have learnt to let go and just open my wings ( as you advise) and go with the flow. Sometimes things change for the better by not holding on too tight, take a breath, yes, and just feel the freedom for a while. Just don’t float around too long, you may just like it too much and struggle to get back on track! Its like after you have stuck to a rigid exercise routine and stop for a while, its hard to get back. But get back you must otherwise all you have done in the past comes to zero and time was wasted.
Amy says
Thank you so much for this wonderful piece. It is always a pleasure and heartwarming to read your write – ups.
Keep up the good work!
Diane Gray says
“How in the world did I get through all of that?” I loved that statement as I just said it to myself one day when I was reflecting on my life since 1972. I am lucky to be alive. I made it and you all can too.
Liza says
Love this piece!!! I especially loved “Forgive yourself” which is the way to move on!!!
Sarah says
Thank you Marc and Angel!
I absolutely love this powerful essay!
I will certainly remember 1 and 3. I appreciate you both for encouraging us! Thank you! Thank you!
Sarah Smith
Betty Johnson says
Excellent message. All resonated with me. I enjoy reading what you share.
MADOLYN Hayne says
No.4 is true for me, especially, after my spouses sudden death was hard, but, man, did I find a new strength in myself!
Gloria J Speller says
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. For your reminders and your wisdom. God bless.
Glenn says
“Everything Will Change Again Soon”, was the message that I needed to hear today!! I am entering a tough period now with my business, but I have overcome tougher challenges in the past. I appreciate the reminder. I am already equipped for this storm!!! Thanks So Much!!!
Arun Dongrey says
Angel,
Thanks for sharing important ideas.
‘Life is short and nothing is guaranteed’.
This statement appealed me the most…
Lou says
Love it yes the storms in Life make you strong been there adversity 15 plus yrs 2parents buried them both together would change it for nothing other a lot of strength and Godly wisdom Love your articles I feel like a student again thank you
John says
Well stated insights to the “ups, & downs” in the journey of life we all experience, and the insights on how to mentally navigate through them, ,
Glenn H. says
I have been reading your content for years. I respect and enjoy your voice. Today, I was inspired to respond. Thank you for improving lives. The point that touched me most: “Again, it is within the depths of the strongest and darkest storms that you often discover within you an inextinguishable light, and it is this light that illuminates the path forward.”
Dr NIDHI JAIN says
I resonate with
Life’s storms can be a great source of strength.
thank you to both of you from the bottom of heart for this kind and self gesture of helping understand bitter truth with ease and calm.
thank you again
Desalegn says
Incredibly all the points are touching and amazing! Thanks for your efforts to help, remind, initiate, and rejuvenate the hopes of people around the world. If we followed all the points, we would have realized our position to take action spontaneously.
Joseph K says
My wife of 40+ years died unexpectedly 60 days ago. I’m in a lot of pain and reading your articles help a lot. The 3 morning things to do will help. I’m abusing myself in many ways as it’s the only thing that feels good right now. I know it’ll get better and reading your daily letters and your readers really helps a lot. Thank you.