post written by: Marc Chernoff
How To Make Good Things Happen
This guest post was written by Diggy, author of Upgrade Reality.
When wild animals are first captured and put into zoo cages they try everything to get out of that cage. They bite it, run into it with their full weight, and claw at the cage. They persist for weeks and months and they take any chance they can to free themselves.
But after a few years of captivity these wild animals lose their fierce desire to be free. You could leave the cage door unlocked so the animals could escape if they wanted to, but they won’t. They won’t even try, because they’ve become comfortable and given up the instinct that they could ever be free again.
Are you like these wild animals in a cage? Have you lost your initiative to succeed and make good things happen in your life?
You may think your past is indicative of your future, and that you’ve been cast in an imprisoning mold. You may believe that just because you haven’t yet been successful in X, Y or Z that you will never be successful in that venture and you may as well accept your fate.
The mindset of your past being indicative of your future is a trap – an extremely easy and unnecessary trap.
Your Wake-Up Call
“Everything you can imagine is real.” -Pablo Picasso
Your reality can be whatever you want it to be. The limits to what you can achieve are an illusion. These achievement limits are mostly not set by others, but by you yourself.
Often things are not as difficult as they seem:
For years athletes couldn’t run one mile in under four minutes. Once Roger Bannister ran a mile under four minutes, proving that the human heart could hold up when running that fast, others quickly followed. And once Olympic champion, Vasily Alexeev broke the weight lifting barrier of 500 pounds, other weight-lifters broke his record knowing it was possible. Yet before he could do it himself, Alexeev’s trainers changed his limiting belief by rigging 501.5 pounds of weights to look like 499.
This is also true for how you have lived your life from the day you were born until this very moment. You wake up each morning and do as you have been doing for years. You’ve got a belief system setting limits for yourself as to what you can and deserve to achieve.
People will jump at the chance to tell you what you can and cannot do. Most people love to break down your dreams and get you to do what they think is best for you. Sometimes your closest friends and family will crush your dreams without even realizing it.
But remember that your dreams are yours. They are what your heart knows and feels, and it doesn’t matter what others think of them. (Read The Alchemist.)
Take a close look at the following quotes and see how some of the most influential and talented people made incredibly strong statements that turned out to be totally false:
- “Everything that can be invented has already been invented.”
- Director of the U.S. Patent Office, 1899
- “A rocket will never be able to leave the earth’s atmosphere.”
- The New York Times, 1936
- “I think there is a world market for maybe five computers.”
- IBM Chairman 1943
- “Who the hell wants to hear actors talk?”
- H.M. Warner, Warner Brothers, 1927”
Upgrade Your Reality
Again, as Pablo Picasso once said, “Everything you can imagine is real.”
Therefore, you can upgrade your current reality to a vision of what you want. The way you perceive your reality to be is the way that your reality becomes. Let me explain:
You don’t need to be unhappy about the condition of your social life, your finances, your fitness or anything else that you’ve accepted as your reality just because ‘it’s always been like that.’
There are countless examples of people who have come from nothing and built up some of the biggest companies in the world. (Warren Buffet, Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, Oprah).
I know many of you reading this article will agree with me that change is possible and have areas in your life that you want to change. But I also know that many of you who conceptually agree with this will not take action and persist long enough to see the change you want.
Hard Work + Persistence = Guaranteed Success
You should not accept a frustrating, unhappy lifestyle. As long as there is the slightest possibility of improvement through hard work and taking action, that’s exactly what you should do.
With smart work, faith, commitment and persistence, you will become successful! Whether it takes you a month or ten years, as long as you never give up and execute a strategy, you will succeed.
Don’t expect a quick fix though. Don’t expect to put in a little bit of effort for a small period of time and see your dreams come true.
Transformation can take years. Many successful people have failed multiple times before they get the big results. But even though your situation won’t change drastically overnight it can change noticeably in a short time frame. You can see a gradual improvement within days or weeks if you were to start today.
The biggest obstacle to overcome in seeking improvement is the problem of, “Where do I start?”
Even if you are motivated enough to research a solution or method for changing your situation, you’ll likely find many conflicting opinions and advice from all sorts of sources and gurus.
The most sure-fire way of finding your strategy to success is to use a proven method.
Find someone (or multiple people) who have already accomplished goals aligned with yours, and research their methods. Don’t try to re-invent the wheel. Just copy the masters and tweak their methods for you own circumstances. This eliminates the guess-work and trial and error that you would encounter if you were to blaze your own trail. (Read The Success Principles.)
You Must Believe You Deserve It
Achieving success is only one part of the equation. Keeping the success you achieved is an entirely different thing.
You need to feel and believe that you are deserving of the success achieved. Otherwise your subconscious will sabotage your process and put you back in a lesser situation that you feel you deserve.
It may sound crazy, but it’s a fact of life. Take the following quote as an example:
“A shockingly large number of lottery winners end up in financial ruined. National statistics show that about one-third of lottery winners ultimately file for bankruptcy.” -Milwaukee Magazine
“The reality is nearly 70 percent of all lottery winners will squander away their winnings in a few years,” the Connecticut financial advisers said in a news release. “In the process, they will see family and friendships destroyed and the financial security they hoped for disappear.”
Even though people who win the lottery have suddenly received more money than they ever dreamed of, most of them will feel like it’s too good to be true. Their mindset limits a financial transformation. In their hearts they are still the same low-wage earning workers that they were before winning, which is why they end up losing all their money. They feel stuck in their old situation, because that is what they feel they deserve.
You may think the lottery example does not apply to you. Just wait until I win the lottery! The main point is that if you spend months or years working towards a final goal and achieve success, you need to feel like you deserve it completely.
Be The Change you Want To See
You deserve to wake up in the morning and be happy. You should feel good about yourself and excited about the life you’re living. You should do work you love, be in the relationship that you’ve always wanted to be in and be healthy enough to enjoy it all.
- Start today.
- Be the change that you want to see.
- Make sure you feel it in every fiber of your being.
- Work hard, follow a proven strategy for success and never give up.
- Don’t just think about goals, take action and make good things happen!
Diggy writes about personal development and has created a 122-page ebook under the same name at his blog: Upgrade Reality. You can subscribe to his blog via email to receive weekly articles just like this one.
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