post written by: Marc Chernoff

30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself

30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself

When you stop chasing the wrong things you give
the right things a chance to catch you.

As Maria Robinson once said, “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”  Nothing could be closer to the truth.  But before you can begin this process of transformation you have to stop doing the things that have been holding you back.

Here are some ideas to get you started:

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  1. Stop spending time with the wrong people. – Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you.  If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you.  You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot.  Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth.  And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends.
  2. Stop running from your problems. – Face them head on.  No, it won’t be easy.  There is no person in the world capable of flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them.  We aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve problems.  That’s not how we’re made.  In fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall.  Because that’s the whole purpose of living – to face problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time.  This is what ultimately molds us into the person we become.
  3. Stop lying to yourself. – You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself.  Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves.  (Read The Road Less Traveled.)
  4. Stop putting your own needs on the back burner. – The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.  Yes, help others; but help yourself too.  If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.
  5. Stop trying to be someone you’re not. – One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you like everyone else.  Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you.  Don’t change so people will like you.  Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.
  6. Stop trying to hold onto the past. – You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.
  7. Stop being scared to make a mistake. – Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing.  Every success has a trail of failures behind it, and every failure is leading towards success.  You end up regretting the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did.
  8. Stop berating yourself for old mistakes. – We may love the wrong person and cry about the wrong things, but no matter how things go wrong, one thing is for sure, mistakes help us find the person and things that are right for us.  We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past.  But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future.  Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.
  9. Stop trying to buy happiness. – Many of the things we desire are expensive.  But the truth is, the things that really satisfy us are totally free – love, laughter and working on our passions.
  10. Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness. – If you’re not happy with who you are on the inside, you won’t be happy in a long-term relationship with anyone else either.  You have to create stability in your own life first before you can share it with someone else.  (Read Stumbling on Happiness.)
  11. Stop being idle. – Don’t think too much or you’ll create a problem that wasn’t even there in the first place.  Evaluate situations and take decisive action.  You cannot change what you refuse to confront.  Making progress involves risk.  Period!  You can’t make it to second base with your foot on first.
  12. Stop thinking you’re not ready. – Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises.  Because most great opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones, which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.
  13. Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons. – Relationships must be chosen wisely.  It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company.  There’s no need to rush.  If something is meant to be, it will happen – in the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.  (Angel and I discuss this in detail in the “Relationships” chapter of 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.)
  14. Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn’t work. – In life you’ll realize that there is a purpose for everyone you meet.  Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you.  But most importantly, some will bring out the best in you.
  15. Stop trying to compete against everyone else. – Don’t worry about what others are doing better than you.  Concentrate on beating your own records every day.  Success is a battle between YOU and YOURSELF only.
  16. Stop being jealous of others. – Jealousy is the art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own.  Ask yourself this:  “What’s something I have that everyone wants?”
  17. Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself. – Life’s curveballs are thrown for a reason – to shift your path in a direction that is meant for you.  You may not see or understand everything the moment it happens, and it may be tough.  But reflect back on those negative curveballs thrown at you in the past.  You’ll often see that eventually they led you to a better place, person, state of mind, or situation.  So smile!  Let everyone know that today you are a lot stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be.
  18. Stop holding grudges. – Don’t live your life with hate in your heart.  You will end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate.  Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.”  It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.”  Forgiveness is the answer… let go, find peace, liberate yourself!  And remember, forgiveness is not just for other people, it’s for you too.  If you must, forgive yourself, move on and try to do better next time.
  19. Stop letting others bring you down to their level. – Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.
  20. Stop wasting time explaining yourself to others. – Your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe it anyway.  Just do what you know in your heart is right.
  21. Stop doing the same things over and over without taking a break. – The time to take a deep breath is when you don’t have time for it.  If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting.  Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.
  22. Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments. – Enjoy the little things, because one day you may look back and discover they were the big things.  The best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.
  23. Stop trying to make things perfect. – The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists, it rewards people who get things done.  (Read Getting Things Done.)
  24. Stop following the path of least resistance. – Life is not easy, especially when you plan on achieving something worthwhile.  Don’t take the easy way out.  Do something extraordinary.
  25. Stop acting like everything is fine if it isn’t. – It’s okay to fall apart for a little while.  You don’t always have to pretend to be strong, and there is no need to constantly prove that everything is going well.  You shouldn’t be concerned with what other people are thinking either – cry if you need to – it’s healthy to shed your tears.  The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile again.
  26. Stop blaming others for your troubles. – The extent to which you can achieve your dreams depends on the extent to which you take responsibility for your life.  When you blame others for what you’re going through, you deny responsibility – you give others power over that part of your life.
  27. Stop trying to be everything to everyone. – Doing so is impossible, and trying will only burn you out.  But making one person smile CAN change the world.  Maybe not the whole world, but their world.  So narrow your focus.
  28. Stop worrying so much. – Worry will not strip tomorrow of its burdens, it will strip today of its joy.  One way to check if something is worth mulling over is to ask yourself this question: “Will this matter in one year’s time?  Three years?  Five years?”  If not, then it’s not worth worrying about.
  29. Stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen. – Focus on what you do want to happen.  Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story.  If you awake every morning with the thought that something wonderful will happen in your life today, and you pay close attention, you’ll often find that you’re right.
  30. Stop being ungrateful. – No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life.  Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs.  Instead of thinking about what you’re missing, try thinking about what you have that everyone else is missing.

Update:  Read our follow-up to this post:  30 Things to Start Doing for Yourself

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  • Thanks for yet another practical and thought invoking post. I like your style, helpful and selfless. I’ll tell my friends to check you out. Great stuff!

  • I see myself all over in this list. Thanks for the excellent reminders and advice. You’ve given me a lot to think about.

  • I normally don’t put a lot of stock in self help stuff, but this list came along at the right time. Thank you.

  • This couldn’t have come in better time for me - exactly what I needed today! Thank you so much for these inspirational suggestions :)

  • Agreed with the other commenters. Your lists always provoke some internal dialogue on how I can be a better person. Thanks.

  • Rog in Miami Gardens
    December 11th, 2011 at 11:21 pm

    This comes just in time for New Years Resolutions season. Thanks!

  • Great advice, Marc! One of my favorite articles so far.

    I love your points on the beauty of small, simple moments. We only have to be present and look at them to create bursts of happiness in our lives.

  • At first, thirty points seems like a lot to work on all at once, but you certainly packed a lot of practical, useful advice into this one article. I can relate to much of what you discuss here.

  • Great thoughts! I really admire your suggestions, especially going into this holiday season and new year when I will have more time to reflect on my life and where I’m heading next. Thanks.

  • Such a practical read. Your post really made my day, thank you 30 times!

  • Thanks for another extraordinary post! I always get excited when my inbox has a new message from Marc and Angel!!!

  • I agree with Marc, this is one of my favourite lists. I sometimes find it hard to believe how self-destructive we can be. This is a great reminder as to what we should let go of in 2012. I especially like no. 10 - I have done this time and time again and always ended up very disappointed.

  • Perfect timing on this one! I had been thinking on some of these things earlier today - small changes I need to make. Looking forward to conquering these changes in the new year!

  • Wonderfully said! Thanks for sharing!

  • Definitely put things into perspective and made me realize some important things I need to work on. Thanks.

  • I think number 1 is so key. Since I tend to absorb other people’s feeling and moods it works for me to surround myself with happy positive people–it’s a lot a double shot energy!

  • Thank you so much for this post. There is so much wisdom in it, I am absolutely blown away by how insightful and helpful it is. I’ve shared this link with all of my coworkers, close friends and family. Hope you have a wonderful winter holiday! :)

  • Absolutely amazing advice! Your blog never disappoints.

  • Loved this article. I struggle with trying to live all your points. I know if I don’t keep on trying then the result will always be the same. My wonderful husband is going through changes in his life and many of these points will help him also. I think I will print and have at the ready whenever needed. Thanks!

  • Thanks for putting these thoughts all together - I will share this with friends and colleagues - we can always use a reminder - we just never know when someone will read an idea and their perspective on everything in their life will change. Change is what it is really all about. Hari Om

  • Beautiful article. Thanks for the reminders and advice. And thanks for continuing to write useful content. Can’t wait for more…

  • Great Post Marc…

    I coach people in growing their small businesses through engaging their talents and passions, but many of the things you’ve listed here steal their dreams or hold them back.

    Thanks for sharing this and making it concrete enough that people can use this post as a tool for growth. Nice work!

  • Thanks - at a time of year when so many things are happening and the pressure’s the highest, these reminders were much needed. Truly well written and definitely useful. I’ve bookmarked your site and will come back to read the rest of it in my in-between moments.

  • Great thoughts here. It’s so easy to let our minds and Egos run-away with us; to start thinking we are at the whim of circumstance. Your post is a reminder that we have a choice in how we will create our lives. Taking on even one of the points you mentioned will make a difference in how we experience each moment.

  • Every one of these 30 points is excellent. One needs to read and ponder over them almost daily. This article has helped me reaffirm my direction for the upcoming year.

  • There are so many good points in this post that’s really difficult to say which is my favorite. One thing is for sure though, we should check and deal with each point, one at a time, over an extended period. Great post.

  • Thank you for this post!!! I am definitely going to share this with friends. This couldn’t have come at a more perfect time :)

  • One word:


    OK - and a few more:

    Thank you very much for writing this. :-)

  • Great things to keep in mind. We need to keep vigilant and continue cleaning out the junk so that we can focus on the really great stuff.

  • These points are all so true, and if we could pay intention to them every day we all would be happier and more productive. Thanks for the food for thought.

  • Great reminders, true guidance for life! 30 Commandments to be followed sincerely.

  • I really enjoyed this article. There are many lists like this on the Internet, but yours is informative, fun, true, and a step above the competition.

  • It feels as if these were written just for me. I will read, study, take each one to heart. Thank you.

  • Love it! Inspiring and practical at the same time.

  • Excellent article! Such sage words. Thank you! I am sharing this…

  • Amazing! How do you manage to get such motivating thoughts together consistently, week after week? This is really one of the blogs where I keep waiting for a new post. Sometimes it seems like you are my primary source of motivation. You should try to write even more frequently so that the number of motivated people increases day by day by reading yours articles. Oh, and I think its almost time for you to publish a book.

  • Thank you for this, I’m going to print it out and reflect on it often :-)

  • Thank you. I needed this, a heck of a lot more than you can possibly imagine.

  • Awesome article with some great one-liners I will commit to memory, cheers!

  • This is a great post. Makes you a much more productive person living like this.

  • Awesome article! One suggestion though for all the readers out there. I learned a very valuable lesson, that what we resist persists. I also learned that framing declarations in the present-tense works wonders. So consider reframing these as such. For instance, in #1, instead of saying to yourself, “Stop spending time with the wrong people,” instead, say, “I am spending time with the right people.” Remove the negative from your frame of mind and only focus on the positive in the “now.” It’s a subtle difference in semantics, but it can be powerful!

  • Haha thanks a lot, this is a very thoughtful article that probably helped/will continue to help those in need of some inspiration. I love it! :) Everyone stay happy and healthy.

  • The main thing I don’t like about this article is that I didn’t write it. Good work, Marc and Angel!

  • Stop everything else and read this post - a stunner! You really know people inside out Marc and what I love about this post is it takes people on in the most positive manner. No criticism or complaint or attack, merely a strong call to action and to self-awareness and self-actualisation. To stop is to start!

  • Thanks for this post! I needed this today, and for the year ahead.

  • I hope you know how much of an impact you have on all of the people who read these… It’s always intriguing, thought provoking, stimulating and beautiful. Such a fresh breath of air… My favorite website, absolutely… Keep doing what you’re doing!!! :) And thank you for your effort.

  • I love this list! Simply one of the best you’ve ever written.

  • Wonderfully well written! Puts things in perspective for me. Thanks.

  • Wow! Marc, I appreciate all 30 tips. This is an excellent way to make improvements in all areas of my life.

    Keep up the wonderful work and thank you for being an inspiration to me.

    Many Blessings,

    Stacie Walker
    Woman in Leadership - Essential Knowledge for Business Success

  • Awesome words to live by. I so needed this today! Sharing with EVERYONE!!

  • Thank you so much for creating this. I’m inspired and rejuvenated. Bookmarked for future reference!

  • I’ve shared this on my blog today, directing them to your site because this is a wonderful list of life lessons we can all learn at any age.

  • Great post! I will be sharing w/many who could use some encouragement & maybe a little criticism at this time of year. Thanks & Merry Christmas!

  • Love self-help tips. Been trying to put these into practice for years. It’s turned out for the better. But it’s always great to hear more and see reminders. This list is particularly good.

  • Wow! this is a great list to personalize and work with yourself in areas you want to improve. I am so guilty of over explaining myself [#20] when I really don’t have to or do it to people that don’t deserve my attention that much.
    I’m definitely sharing this, thanks!

  • This is exactly what I needed to read today.

  • Awesome. Keep reminding. There is a way to feel good every single day.

    I practice focusing on what I do indeed want all the time. I practice having the best day ever all the time.

    Living with less is a much more abundant place!

    Aloha wags!

  • Ditto to Leland’s comment. This is incredible. I’m currently guilty of almost every one of these, and as I am at present struggling to make some changes within myself, the timing of this couldn’t be better. This will help tremendously. Thank you.

  • Well said! I’m sure many will find inspiration through this article! Thanks, Ryan Dockman

  • Thank you, Thank you, Thank you, Thank you so much! I am feeling like I got lots of answers out of this article and I have a new way to overcome some of the habits that have been hurting me.

  • Thank you so much for this. I will keep these in mind and will probably print it out.

  • Wow beautifully written and so straightforward. So much of this resonates for me, and I am sure so many others, but this has been so positive to read and remember all of these things I should know, but needed to be reminded of! Thank you for this!

  • Brilliant post! Thank you for another great blog post. I check your site weekly and it has improved my life.

  • Wow. Wow. Just wow.

    “You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.”

    That’s my favorite line, but there are so many favorites. You seem like someone who lives life fearlessly–or at least tries to. I love this and it really struck a chord with. Very few blogs impress me these days, but yours really did. Thank you. Thank you.

  • My good friend sent me this link and let me tell you these are awesome words. This article came at the exact right point in my career in a very awesome way. Thanks again for posting positive and meaningful things on the internet where other places it’s loaded with crud.

  • Thank you for this very timely post! Just the right mix of hug and kick in the pants for me. I’ve posted a link on my blog and shared on Facebook as well–I think everyone can benefit in some way from this list.

  • What a fabulous post. I’m going to recap this on my blog. :) I especially love the GTD reference. I’m a huge fan of David Allen and his GTD process.

  • You guys are amazing! Thanks for the thoughtful words. Great wisdom on here, keep on doing what you’re doing.

  • This is absolutely wonderful! I am going to mark it on my calendar to reread this once a month in the upcoming year. Thank you!

  • Great read, but you missed one:

    Stop doing the impractical things marketers on the internet/tv/radio, etc. tell you to do.

  • I’ve been working on increasing my sense of positivity for a while now. (It had been so lacking for many, many years.) This is a really insightful list actually. Thanks for putting these outlooks out there.

  • Great Stuff. Very thorough list. I have tweeted to all my followers @mydailysuccess

    Charles Warner

  • Speechless. I love every word, and every one of the 30 things… here’s to 2012!

  • Just found your website, I am in heaven. Great job…thank you! ~Dawn

  • A friend shared this on FB, glad I clicked over to read your list. Feeling very emotional as I connected each ‘don’t’ to something I’m doing in my life. I posted this story to FB as well, and I hope everyone I care about reads it. Thank you for sharing this!!!!

  • I love this post.. I especially think #25 is important… I think sometimes we forget that asking for help does not mean you’re broken.. it means you want to mend.

  • This is simply the best thing I have read all day. I am a worry wort.

    I am going to somehow print this and fit it on my daily board. Or inspiration board to some.

    Peace and thank you.

  • Good reminders, all. Bookmarked this page, and will be sure to revisit when I need a [gentle] kick in the butt.
    Thanks for the post.

  • Very nice list…I would contend that maybe #30 should be #1…

  • Thanks for this entry. I really enjoyed it and I hold a lot of these values near and dear to my heart. Though sometimes I forget to STOP doing these things, it is great to be reminded.

    - Liza Mae
    t. @lizamae

  • Liking the book links! Perhaps #4 could mention codependency explicitly? Learning about it through reading and therapy was one of the most useful tools in improving my life, and it never ceases to amaze me how so many of us have been or are currently guilty of enabling our unhealthy relationships with others!

  • # 6 is by far my favorite. I have never been one for living in the past, and I strongly encourage everyone else to not live in the past. Nothing good or productive can ever come from living in the past. Always live in the present, because that is where you are now.

  • I absolutely loved this! Thank you :)

  • Thank you very much for this list…and great book recommendations, especially Stumbling on Happiness. I hope you don’t mind my riff on your article at my blog. Re-interpretation is a form of flattery in this instance!

  • We are often so busy trying to make our lives better or just get through the current situation that we forget life is what happens in between. It is the silly face your kid makes, the story you tell over and over - all that filler stuff is what life really is - not the job title, salary, or similar. Nice article, thanks for sharing this inspiring advice.

  • Working on this just may be the answer I’ve been hoping for! Well done, it about covers it!

  • Thank you for the reminder about facing your problems. Amen.

  • I love to read your blog in the morning. You’ve made my day. Thanks so much.

  • Every now I then I read something that really makes me stop and think with a totally different perspective, and this is one of them. I remember reading a similar piece years ago called ‘the Awakening’ that was similar (author unknown) but I printed it and read it over and over again. These ‘30 things to stop doing to yourself” are so inspiring in a similar way. Brilliant!

  • A great list to work out with ourselves to reach all terms of happiness & satisfaction .. Thanks .

  • I stumbled across this list from someone’s site on Facebook — and it has come at possibly the most vital time in my life. Thank you SO MUCH - you have given me food for action!! :-D

  • THANK YOU for sharing this. I have been blessed to have surrounded myself by superior individuals of a variety of ages and life experiences and they have shaped me and helped me learn these lesson. No matter where we are in our journey, we could always use reminders, guidelines and THIS amazing wisdom you shared. Godspeed!

  • Absolutely Beautiful!!!! I’ll definitely share it with everyone I know!

  • This was right on time for me….I need to print this out and keep a copy with me-and a few posted around the house!!!

    Words of wisdom && encouragement <3

  • GREAT food for thought and some things to live by. I’d be interested to see some of it phrased differently without the word “stop”… Part 2: 30 Things you need to DO now! ;)

  • Fabulous list! Many of these are things I work with my clients on. Thank you for putting it more concisely than I ever could.

    ~ Amethyst Mahoney, author of “Awaken Your Divine Power,” and “Tarot Through Your Life”

  • I feel like you are writing this directly to me! This is perfect, thank you for writing this!! What a wonderful list!

  • BRAVO!! Oh man, this is AWESOME!!! This should be REQUIRED reading for teenagers and EVERYONE! Thanx for this!!!! EXCELLENT!! :)

  • Hi there! I’d been racking my brains trying to get over a love affair that intuitively I knew wasn’t ‘right’. Now I have something that can help me. THANK YOU

  • If only everyone followed these principles, the world would be a happier and more productive place. Thanks for writing :)

  • I agree with all the others - great post. I can’t wait to share it with my friends… we only have one shot at this life, and you did a nice job of pointing out ways to make us happy… by the choices we make.

  • Very inspiring. I personally like all of them, I’ll do my best to always thinks of these 30 thoughts to power-up my day. Thanks for the post.

  • When I first saw the link for this on a friend’s FaceBook Wall, I assumed it would be one more of those lame obvious collections of 5 or so sentences stretched into a blog. This was a delight. Even if many of the things are “obvious” but, when seen as a whole, it is scary to see how many of the 30 all of us are guilty of. Thank you.

    Imran Anwar

  • This is exactly what I needed to read at this very moment. A very powerful read and certainly one that I will keep in hand to remind myself to trust that fate is guiding me in the right direction. Thank you :)

  • Word to live by! Thank you very much for this!

  • I started reading this and dropped what I was doing and completely was amazed at how perfect this was. Thank you so much. Incredible words.

  • If you get to see this, look up Roger Crouch on Friends of Dominic Crouch against Bullying on fb for one place, or just Google his story. Our son died 18 months ago bullied because of his perceived sexuality. We have been running a very successful campaign in the 18 months since. Roger won “Hero of the Year” from Stonewall just about a month ago and the campaign received national recognition. On 28 November he died of a broken heart. I have come across your blog here and find a lot of the points so helpful. I hope you don’t mind if I pick them out and share them with my friends, I always put where they have come from. Thank you for helping me to remember things that I already knew but had forgotten. XX

  • Wow! What a fantastic post and a real eye opener as everyone is spot on for me.

    Blessings to you and yours for Christmas and the New year.

  • Great advice, especially the last one. Finding different things to be thankful for each day before Christmas is a great way to get into the spirit of the holidays, and will like carry us past into the next year.

  • This smacked me right in the face. Thank you? Thank you. :-)

  • Thanks for these. You have really hit the nail on the head. These are all so obvious, but we just keep forgetting them.
    Even if I can stop doing 50% of these, things will be so much better!

  • This is fantastic! I am printing this out and highlighting items and taping it to my bathroom mirror.

    I went through the list, of course, and found the ones that apply to me.

    Then as a confidence booster, I went through the list and found the ones I’ve moved past.

    Thanks for sharing these thoughts.

  • Glenn E. Wierzbicki
    December 16th, 2011 at 12:18 pm

    This is great stuff. I am going to put this on my desktop along with Hazeldon and Max Lucado. After 23 years of marriage, my happily ever after took a detour last year. I have been busy trying to put the wheels back on the bus. This is everything that a therapist would tell you at $cha ching an hour. Thanks for sharing. wiz

  • Really appreciated this - gave me the push I needed to focus on what I want to do without worrying that I’ll fail. Thanks!

  • I like this, confronting your problems is possibly the most effective thing you can do for your mental and physical health.

    Recently read Feel the fear and do it anyway, and some of the ideas on this post seem similar.

  • A very powerful post. Great reminders of how we often live as we think we should rather than how we really wish to live our lives. It can take courage to take those first steps but when we do, life is suddenly filled with freedom and choices. Great post.

  • Long reads are something of a challenge but writing them must be more than just a simple effort. Many thanks to all those people who take their time to put their thoughts in words.

  • Probably the best advice that has ever been given to me. You have given me much to think about. I’m not going to lie, i swear i thought you were writing about my life, screaming at me through the monitor telling me to wake up! I almost felt like crying, it was exactly what i needed to hear. So thank you wise soul. I feel ten pounds lighter all ready from worry! :)

  • Amazing, amazing, amazing. This is such a great post. There’s alot to think about and paths to consider here. All of it is good food for thought. Thanks for putting this up. Every single one would make a great bumpersticker!

  • Wow what an amazing post!

    If people stopped doing all 30 things, just think of al the free time they’d have on there hands to do AMAZING THINGS!!!

    Keep up the great work.


  • i think that there is something here for everyone…(including me)…as i read each one it became abundantly clear to me that we all make simple mistakes in life that compound; and when we do nothing to turn around our situation we all spiral into a quagmire of loneliness, self doubt, and total loss of self esteem….the time to change is now !! thank you :)

  • I work with women in recovery and I think this is an excellent reading for them to start the new year off with. Thank you.

  • Simply awesome! Need to post this on my mirror so I can read it every morning.

  • Im printing this out and keeping it in my notebook. I lost my mom this year and have been trying to stay motivated and just build positivity around myself, taking risks, and achieving what I’ve wanted to achieve. It’s been an uphill battle and I believe and try to live these 30 points. But sometimes, I lose my way and hopefully this will help me find my way back during those times. Love + light to you!

  • Amazing read. Everything I want to share with the world everyday is all put together in one read. So real and inspiring. Everyone should read this. Not just read this, but READ this.

  • Talk about timing…

    For a week or two I have been living at least 20-odd of these examples…and misery followed.

    Today, instead, I went for an early walk (very cold here) and logged on to reconnect with real friends, saw the link…you get the idea.

    Goals are just dreams without a plan. Thanks for the nudge…I’ll take it from here.

  • Thank you. I lost my father this year, and I’m the pers. rep for the estate. I cannot believe the extent people will go to make things so very difficult. The lies and greed and evil mindedness amaze me daily. I’ve printed out this list, and hope that I can make it through this horrible nightmare I have with it’s help.
    Thank you, Merry Christmas.

  • Wow…wow. So true, so true. Every statement needs to be pinned to my wall…and my mind’s wall (and will be). Thank you for posting this!!!

  • i have stumbled on this article at my friend’s wall in fb. i love it. and i love every article in your site. i can’t keep myself from reading article after article.

    thank you for this wonderful blog. please keep them coming. obviously, a lot of people have been inspired by this. keep sharing your talent.

    thank you for waking up my inner me…the piece of me that has been sleeping for some years now. thank you very much coming along. can’t wait to start my life all over again. :)

  • Wow! Incredible article.
    One of my favorites by far, every statement you mention needs to be pinned on my mind’s wall for ever. We should all read this and take it into account to improve our lives.
    Thank you!

  • I saw this as a link from a friend on Facebook. I have literally printed it out and promised myself I will read it everyday. I absolutely love it. I have re-posted it on Facebook and everyone loves it just as much as I do. Looking forward to reading more articles on your site!

  • Powerful words… I am going to tackle them, item by item, on my blog, as I work towards my own healthier life.

  • Love this post. I cannot add anything but my thanks.

  • So, after I read the “start to do” list, I read the “stop doing” one. Would have loved to read this first, but hey, beggars can’t be choosers, it was my bad for not being able to come sooner…But, really appreciate both lists, Marc. You come up with such good insights that are in line with what I am going for nowadays, which is taking care of my soul.

    Thanks again and have a blast over the holidays! :)

  • I needed to read something like this today and I’m sure I’m going to read it over and over again. Thank you for the beautiful and insightful article.

  • What a wonderful list. In everyone’s journey, it’s important to listen to our inner voice, which can be difficult with all the noise from the voices of other people we allow to take over.

    I think this list is especially helpful for cancer survivors - because part of survival truly means you have to reframe your life - let go of the things that are draining you of your energy - rebuild a life that has meaning. It is not just a physical battle, it’s an incredibly emotional battle - a battle to find what isn’t working in your life - what led to the cancer - and change it!! But change isn’t easy - especially when you are sick.

    This list is such a practical list, it cuts through all of the emotional stuff, making the leap to begin the transition so much easier.

    Thank YOU!!!

  • Hello!
    So glad I stumbled on you somehow!! I like this post very much and it resonates deeply with me, both in how I try to live my life and what I teach my own clients (I am a psychotherapist in private practice in So. Cal). What a great list!! What a different place it would be if we all tried to adhere to the lists’ suggestions. They all lead back to the fact that we are all connected and therefore should treat ourselves and others with patience, kindness, forgiveness and grace.

    I put this on my fb fan page and it got all very positive reviews and comments!

    Thank you again!!

    Fondly & warmly,

  • Seriously. I couldn’t have asked for a better birthday present.

    Today I turn 40.

    #17. I have to let go.

    I’m normally a really happy person, and I’m letting one person suck the amazing life out of me.

    Happy birthday to me!

    Thank you for writing this down. I’ve thought these things before… but never seen it written in a way that i could associate with. But you nailed it!


    I’m printing it out. and getting it laminated.

  • Thank you. I was referred here by my sweetheart girlfriend, she’s been trying to tell me this stuff for a few years now, but seeing it laid out here like this has made me stop and think.
    Definitely a share!
    Much Peace!

  • Great advice written as if you lived it.

  • Great list!

    I have found that stop behaviors are difficult to follow. Its better to create new behaviors.

    What are 30 things we can start doing?

  • I’m a person who’s always trying to be strong. I don’t cry. I don’t tell my problems. I had these burdens hidden for quite a long time.

    And now I’m really thankful for this post. I’ve just realized now why I can’t even tell myself that I am happy.

    This definitely brightened my day. Thank you :-)

  • This is one of the most useful and thoughtful pages I have read in the last five years. My only complaint is that you haven’t published it earlier.
    I’m 64 years old; I feel you should have put this up on the Web 40 years ago… I could have got even more out of life by now! :)

    Thank you!

  • I just want to thank you for this post. I’ve been having a hard time, at a really low point in my life right now. And you post is just so very insightful and is affirming everything I already know deep in my heart.

    So, thank you for taking time to write this amazing post. It really touches people’s lives and is so encouraging.


  • I saw this as a link from a friend on Facebook. I have printed it out and will read it everyday.

    It could not have come at a better time in my life. When I read this I thought you were writing about my life, shaking me through the all the fog in my heart, telling me to wake up! It brought tears to my eyes, it was exactly what I needed. Thank you for this amazing and insightful article. Everyone should read this and LIVE this.

    I am going to work on this, one by one as I push towards improving my own healthier life and mind set.

    You have given me so much to think about. So thank you for your powerful and amazing words.


  • Wow! The most honest, blunt advice and it’s brilliant. THANK YOU! I know many people, including myself, that needed to hear this advice.

  • I really needed this. My husband just filed for divorce, forced me to leave our house a week ago and two days later had his new girlfriend (13 years younger than me) in the house with her toddler daughters. Not thinking in the most positive light lately and reading something like this is a great reminder.

  • Thank you so much for posting this :)
    It was inspiring and motivational. Going through it and reading each made for a wonderful personal checklist towards catching myself in my often made blunders. #27 Totally hit me hard, reading it instantly gave me the feeling of, “Alright, you caught me guilty as can be and you’re so totally right!”

    Wonderful post! :)

  • Wow! So much to love about this article…I love the quote, the advice, the manner in which it is delivered..all of it! I think to sum it up: stop stalling and start living:)

  • LOVE this. Such a great reminder and kick in the butt about what matters. Thanks so much. I need to print and post this somewhere.

    I especially love these quotes:

    Success is a battle between YOU and YOURSELF only

    When you stop chasing the wrong things you give
    the right things a chance to catch you.

    Thank you!

  • What timing to find this today. I sit here with my in-laws waiting to confront my husband on suspected drug use. So many of these things hit home. No wit or sarcasm from the Queen of it.

  • After over 50 years of living life, I can say these things are spot on… wish I would’ve known sooner, but better late than never !

  • As an author, certain seasons I don’t do much but write…thanks for the thought provoking content about how I can try to spend more time living for the right things.

  • Wonderful post. Just gave me a boost on being positive. Thanks

  • Marc, I loved this. So many good reminders! I took special attention to #25. Thank you for inspiring this post!

  • I think #25 applies in a way that isn’t what most people would think. I don’t put on a happy face if things aren’t good and I silently worry about people who deny reality for the sake of “being positive”. Grasp reality but don’t form a mindset around negativity. That’s what I’ve learned for myself.

  • Super Inspiring! Super NICE! Perfect!

  • This list would work well with Benjamin Franklin’s method of self-improvement (found in his Autobiography). Pick 13 of the above list. Each week, focus on only one of them. You can then rotate through the list 4 times during the year. Focusing on only one thing at a time gives you more power than trying to do 30.

  • #1 is so important. sounds easy yet is very difficult! Above all else, be true to thyself!

  • Thank you so much for posting this. It turns out I’m already working on a few of these thanks to a few special people, but these other things I had not known about. I know two people who would benefit from this as well, maybe even more so. Bookmarked.

  • This acticle makes a lot of sense and is very encouraging and inspiring to me. I pray that in the years to come that I always remember those wonderful words.

  • Great read thank you Marc. All are right on with things to try and avoid to make your life more enjoyable.

  • Every word of this post is perfect and on the money. Thank you for so concisely putting down what we need to be reminded of.

  • Hi,

    Thanks for such a wonderful and to the point post. It covers most of of the points I face and strive to correct.


  • so true - every word - this was forwarded to me. a perfect time of year to read this message when everyone is thinking about a new start. please pass this along!!!!

  • Inspiring! Just what I need right now…I’m ready to start a new chapter in my life by not re-reading the last chapter anymore :)
    Thank you for this article!

  • This was an amazing read and so true. I will be re-posting for others to read - spreading your inspiring advice.

  • Great great! It’s so timely! Thanks for this! It reminds me everything I need to do.. Thanks so much! Thankful for finding this.. Keep it up! =)

  • Thank you for inspiring me in 2012. My goal is to stop worrying so much but your list has given me so much more to strive for. Happiest of New Years to you and yours.

  • Really special, this has the power to help many people…thanks for sharing your eloquence!

  • All I can say is WOW!

    Everyone should read this everyday. It doesn’t matter if you are in the online marketing game or working for someone this information should and will change your life.

    Read it, learn it and live it to prosper!

  • Great thought provoker. In many ways you are stating the obvious but sometimes that is what we need. I will share this with others. Thank you

  • Loved this article. Great insight and much needed advice. You are dead-on with so many points.

  • Wooooow! This is just about everything I needed! I hope to heed to the ones that affect me most, especially the point that talks about “loving someone at the expense of oneself“. Thanks a zillion!

  • Thanks for a very worthwhile article that came at a good time for me. I’ve been struggling with a few things. Happy New Year!

  • Loved it so much I emailed out to around 2k of my subscribers :)

  • I love your article! We all tend to be much harder on ourselves than other people are.

  • This has just given me all my New Year’s resolutions. Resolutions for every year. If everyone lived these simple rules, we would all be at peace and happy. Please let’s try to do this! Love, Cathy

  • Thank you so much for this article…it’s a great reminder for me to continue to work into my life….printing a copy for the frig and a go print for my purse. :-)

  • I read your list through pretty slowly while trying to marinade on each listing. Of course a few of them hit home and has got me thinking and rethinking, “which cap fits me, and what will I do about it.”

    This is a relevant post and I will definitely be linking to it, as a way of getting the word out. Thanks for sharing :)

  • This really puts it into perspective. I really enjoyed reading and have added it to my journal for 2012..Thanks so much !! I think everyone can get something outta this. It has helped me already.

  • Thanks for sharing this great list with advice that really spoke to me. Shared it with many as the wisdom could really make a difference in our lives. Timely as we head into a new year. Welcome new challenges!

  • So glad someone sent me a link to this and introduced me to your wonderful blog! I’ve been telling everyone about your post since I read it.

    This article is honest, savvy, well-written and just plain fabulous. I have no doubt your insightful words and observations will help many.

    May all the good you’ve done with this post come back to you many times multiplied in 2012!

  • Thank you from the bottom of my heart for writing these priceless notes of wisdom. I need that more than you will ever know especially today…and with 2012 just hours away…I need to start, and I mean REALLY start taking care of myself and to stop caring so much about others that could care less about me. I have a couple of adult sons who have just kicked me to the curb. My thanks from them for always being there for them. I need never to do it again.

  • A perfect note to read as the minutes of 2011 tick away. Thank you for the inspiration and good advice for the new year. Many happy returns.

  • Great inspirational suggestions to keep ourselves in check…no better time than now for 2012.

    I shall post them as reminders!

  • Amen to all of this! Simply a fantastic read! One of the best blog posts I’ve ever read.

  • Thank You so much for such wonderful and inspirational words!! Each and every sentence is magical!

  • Very timely and well written — thank you, Phillis Benson

  • Very nice indeed! A very inspiring blog to read as I a new year of challenges. It will really help me to straighten myself up and become a better person. I will refer back to this often. :) THANK YOU!!!

  • Thanks for everything written here. l don’t know if a thank you is enough and l hope you know how special this article is. And the follow-up article you wrote on 30 things to start doing to yourself makes it an irresistible story!

  • Your blog is wonderful and this post in particular resonates strongly. Thanks so much for such terrific words of wisdom.

  • Some of the best advice I’ve ever read. This article perfect summarizes all the good self-improvement advice out there.

  • I read this blog all the way from Jordan! Thanks so much for the inspirational words!

  • Thanks for the words of wisdom. Great advice to reflect on at the beginning of a New Year. I especially liked #7 “stop being scared to make a mistake”. I believe that far too often the fear of making a mistake cripples us from taking any action at all which ends up being the main stumbling block to achieving success. Anyone who every achieved any measure of success made many mistakes along the way which ultimately led to their success.

    Thanks again,

  • I love that this is a list of things NOT to do. Great advice! Thanks for sharing. Very inspiring!!

  • I found this blog to be very inspirational! I have been battling with taking steps forward and then taking steps back. I would have to say the whole blog relates to me..
    This is something I can share with a few of my friends that are going through the same thing.
    Thank You,
    Northern California

  • A gift to receive and also one to share. Thanks for summarizing, well, nearly everything! It felt great to skip through some and acknowledge I’d worked through them, giving me resolve on those that yet need addressed.

  • On new years eve a sad friend asked me: how do you do that? - what? - that you are always so strong and happy? I said: I don’t really know, I guess I just learned how to deal with stuff and don’t worry to much about it. Today I found your amazing list of smart advice and that was just the perfect answer to her question. I sent it to her and she loved it. Thank you so much! :)

  • What a great way to start the year. Thank you for your positive reinforcement. :) I wish you all the best for the coming months, may you succeed beyond your goals.

  • I am so inspired. Thank you so much for your motivational words. I will definately try my best to incorporate all of this in my life.

  • Splendid thoughts and even better composed. Really helped me get a lot of direction in life.

    Keep up the good work!

  • Food for thought indeed. Thanks for writing this. It’s an eye opener for me.

  • 100% on point. I needed this. Thank you!

  • […] “30 Things To Stop Doing To Yourself”: by Marc and Angel Hack Life […]

  • My sister posted this list, shared it with my group at work they absolutely loved it. Thanks

  • Beautiful, inspiring post! With the constant struggles in life, these are definitely some things we need to remind ourselves of. Thank you so much!!! ♥

  • I’m glad I found this article and blog. A lot of the “resolutions” are great reminders and Biblically based: Don’t covet. Don’t be jealous. Don’t judge. Don’t keep bad company. Don’t worry. Count your blessings. Be thankful. It sounds like a good recipe for 2012 to me!

  • Just so timely for the new year. I’ll be sharing this to some friends. Thank you!

  • This list was made FOR ME. Thanks for this. Seriously.

  • I really love this post. If are you an entrepreneur, you will benefit if you follow these excellent points.

  • This list of 30 is a great map to guide people in a happy, productive direction. Readers need to pick out the individual numbers that pertaines to them and make an honest effort to better their lives.It works wonders!! Being happy inside your own skin will bring the most joy you’ll ever know.

  • Great inspirational article, a great guide for life, greatly practical and relevant to day to day life, all 30 points make you think a lot deeper

  • Your blog is terrific; I just subscribed to it! I love this article and have shared it many times. I just started a blog and would love to have you as one of my followers!



  • Like one of the other followers said, I plan to print it off and reflect on it regularly. You have covered a lot of ground in this post that is for sure…but it is beautifully succinct. I just might try to find a way to adapt the word choice and share the ideas with the students in my grade 6 class. I look forward to visiting again.

  • This is a great way to begin the new year. Thanks for posting. I will implement all these in my life and am sure happiness will follow.

  • This was worth reading, no doubt… And there’s so much more on this site to read as well, like ‘30 things to start doing for yourself,’ which is next on my list to read. Thank you!

  • Love this! It’s something I really needed to hear from someone else =) Great work!!

  • Number one hit me perfectly at the right time. Thanks a lot for the list.

    When you said, “Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth.” this was the perfect advice for me. I DO HAVE a lot to offer and if people chose to downplay that, I don’t need them in my life.

  • This speaks Volumes!!! Confirms what I’ve believed in for a while!! Thanks for sharing!!

  • Excellent read, if we all adopted this advice into our lives we would be so much more at peace.


  • Great insight for another year ahead. Great reminders… thanks.

  • Great article, I love #1 and #25.

  • Wow. I wish this were required reading in school. How much better would we all be if we were taught this at a young age. Thank you!

  • Awesome list Marc. The last one especially resonates with me. We all have something to be grateful for, especially the ones reading this as they likely have food, shelter and the basic necessities of life met. These are gifts that so many take for granted. Because of our context we, we often forget how lucky we are as we constantly measure ourselves and success based on those around us. Just when I was talking to my wife and kids about how it is bad to waste food since so many die of starvation every day, a story on the news reported that children in a war-torn country had been killed that day by a land mine they stumbled upon while searching for food in a garbage dump. Talk about great reinforcement of a point being made! Thanks for sharing.

  • Loved this!
    Shared this!
    Printed this!

  • Thank you so much for an amazing blog. Everything you post and talk about is everything that I have been going through. It is so wonderful and inspirational to know I am not alone. Thank you so much.

  • Excellent Article! :-)

  • Thank you. I needed to read this.

  • A truly inspirational article Marc ~ congratulations

  • What an incredible list and with wise advice! Thank you.

  • Freakin’ awesome… and bookmarked!

  • Really inspiring… It’s a blessing that I found this page.

  • Great article very inspirational!

  • Thanks for this wonderful post. I really needed this as I’m going through a rough spot.

  • Love it. It’s to the point and relevant. Words to live by. It is printed and posted on my wall as a daily reminder. I’ve shared it with my clients too.

  • So true!! Thanks for sharing this. I found out the hard way for several of these things but it brought me where I am now: happy :)
    Have bookmarked your site and will come back to read more!

  • This is so brutally real!! Thank you guys! I now have to take these challenges and get my life on track. It is amazing how a little reality check can get things moving in the right direction.

  • Thank you so much. I always have to remind myself to enjoy everyday and not worry about stuff so much. This just reinforces that. Thanks again for this wonderful post.

  • OMG… I love this! A forum member posted the URL to this. I’ve read it several times already.

  • What a great article! There are so many pointers here that can help people out. Anybody who is struggling with self-worth can implement just a few of these and make a remarkable difference in their life in just a short period of time.

    Thanks for sharing this great advice!

  • I forgot how I found this, but I wanted to read it when I was pulled away by some negativity. After crying and tearing myself apart for all the wrong reasons, and almost falling into a bottle of vodka after I recently hopped on the wagon, I sat down and read your “30 things” article. It changed my spirit and gave me strength to continue my resolution for life. Thank you, you’ll never know how much it means to me, and I still have no idea how i stumbled on this link. Guess it was meant to be or whatever, but it was a desperately needed sign.

  • One of the best things I have read online in a long time. Well written and so accurate. It is with our attitude, how our life will be. The choice is ours :) Thank you so much for this! I want to be a better person :)

  • ABSOLUTELY LOVED IT!!!! I feel like you just have me a piece of my life back that I truly needed! There are so many important points in this article that we all tend to not think about on a daily basis; we tend to forget some of the things that we are truly blessed for. THANK YOU! :-)

  • Great Post! Thanks for sharing such a fabulous list!

  • Brilliant! Thank you!

  • Loved this post and used it as inspiration to write on my own blog. I am going to try and let it guide me in successfully completing my resolution for this year : )

  • Thank you for this brilliant article. It helped.

  • I love this. Thank you.

  • This is awesome, the article was like a mirror to me. I was able to see my strengths and weaknesses, I challenged myself to be the best I can using it as a guide. Thanks a great deal.

  • Brilliant list! Thanks for crafting this beautiful post! It really touched my soul.

  • I was looking for thoughts I could share to my school kids and ended up in your site, so I bookmarked it so I can keep coming back and share it with my colleagues. Thanks a lot. Every article is very inspiring and helpful.

  • My first visit to your website has been a major enabler to me. Thank you for the efforts you have been putting forth on writing/producing your website. Very inspiring.

  • Truly brilliant list. Received at a time of me needing to find myself. Thank you

  • Another good one: Stop focusing on your weakness and work hard on your strengths.

    Thanks for these great tips!

  • All these points are helpful and inspiring. Thanks for sharing these tips.

  • What a wonderful list… it will be hard , but I’ll try to follow it. Oh, and it’s not completely true that if you don’t try you can’t fail. The truth is, if you don’t try you have already resigned yourself to failure. Thanks for the great read. And have a wonderful day “trying.”

  • Although most of us know about these things, we still need to be reminded from time to time. Loved every word of this article. Thank you.

  • I have really enjoyed reading this article and look forward to reading more of your work in the future. Keep up the great work!

  • This is one of those rare things I read that actually made a big impact on my life. I had spent far too many years in a perpetual cycle of self-pity and damaging relationships, so after reading this I realize now that the only person preventing me from making any changes in my life is myself.

    Thank you so much for creating this simple yet awakening list - It’s something everyone needs to read.

  • Came across this article while researching happiness. “The Road Less Traveled” was the book that served as the key to unlocking my happiness. I also recommend “The 8th Habit: From Effectiveness to Greatness” by Stephen Covey. Already shared your article with someone who needed this information today. Great connecting with you — and now following you on Twitter!

  • I agree with all the other comments. This is fabulous - and timely. Thanks for sharing your insights!

  • Awesome, straightforward advice! Thanks :)

  • Trishia Young (@trish_jager)
    January 31st, 2012 at 6:52 am

    This is so inspirational. I’ve been looking at life differently all this time. I realized that there’s room for change. Thank you very much, Marc. Your simple advice here is life changing. :)

  • Thank you ♥

  • I really needed to hear this today. Thank you :) You just helped change someone’s life.

  • This article really touched on some issues I’m going through this year. I’m glad I read it and hope that everyone else who needs it reads it. Thank you for helping me see more clearly.

  • Thumbs up! Thank you very much… This is really amazing, useful and real! I will share this useful advice with my friends and beloved ones.

  • Simple and amazing advice. Thank you.

  • This is one of the best articles I’ve read recently. It is written so well and makes perfect sense too…

  • I love this article and this whole website. It is so inspiring. Thank you!

  • @Tshwaneh on Twitter
    February 4th, 2012 at 4:32 pm

    Wow *Tears* - Such a wonderful read.

  • Wow! Thank you so much for succinctly identifying top things to make your life better. Easy to read and understand and possibly even implement.

  • Hefty, heavy and perfect list. The reminder to be true oneself and face problems are soooo true. it’s very easy to sign up for someone else’s life or belief system, and allow them to automate your life (like working for a company you don’t believe in, taking on someone else’s dreams).

    And it’s also easy to run from our problems. Thank you for putting all this wisdom in one easy to read article.

  • This is one of the most concise and uplifting articles I have ever read. Pure and simple.

  • Going through a bit of a hard time right now and reading this really helped. Thank you.

  • I really enjoyed this reading your post here, and it helped me to move myself out of a down moment.

  • Wow, thanks for the post. I relate to way too many of these things and it’s time to do something about it.

  • I see myself every time I re-read every point on this article. I would like to thank you for this post. I relate to many things you discuss.

  • Thank You!!! :)

  • This was much needed, and very well spoken!
    I’ve been going through so much in life and this seemed to help me realize what was wrong. I plan to apply these 30 points to my life as soon as possible. Your writing has been a great inspiration.

    Thank you so much

  • Thank you for this wonderful article! It actually reveals many of the simple secrets of life. I will recommend it to my friends.

  • Oh my gosh! I’m closing my blinds right now. I swear you are looking into my life. :) LOL! Thanks for the article. It was so well written and so necessary.

  • Thank you so much for this article. It helped a lot.

  • I am touched by everything you said here. I really needed to read this for my currently crumbling life. I shall spread this article to my friends, and try picking up the pieces of my life, and learn how to make a new one out of it. Thanks!

  • Simple and poignant. Thank you!

  • This website really helped me. I have been going through a really tough time and looking at this advice made me think, a lot. I shouldn’t spend time worrying about what others think of me, how they look at me, or what they say about me. I am me and God put me on this earth for a reason. I may not have found that reason yet, but when i do i know that it will be the greatest moment of my life. I used to always worry about the past and hold on to things that i should have let go. Hopefully in the future, that will go away…thanks to this website.

  • 4am in the morning staring at the ceiling trying to quiet the noise of my own internal dialogue and mental self sabotage. I stumbled on this article and I instantly feel a great sense of calm and affirmation that I will overcome what I have been forced to deal with. Going through the motions of a bad breakup and finding meaning within myself. Coming to the realization that my sense of happiness, well being, and existence needs to be defined by me and not validated by having another person co-exist with me. You don’t understand how much I needed to read this. I say I stumbled on this article, but this article found me. I’m forever grateful.

  • Thanks for this awesome article! :)

  • Inspiring words! We often do not realize how many good things are going on in our lives. This post was a reminder for me to not stress out about the small things and make the most of our time here.

  • Excellent article! I have resetting various goals in my life, as well as looking back on a difficult few years. Unfortunately, I have also been beating myself up and not letting go of things I should. I am not sure how I came to view this website, but it happened and I am thankful for it. This is just what I needed to help me head into the next chapter in my life. Thank you for sharing.

  • Thank you for this wonderful article! It actually reveals many of the simple secrets of life. I will recommend it to my friends.

  • This article is well-written and filled with positive wisdom that really matters for achieving success and happiness in life. I accidentally came across this article, but fell in love with it. I have bookmarked this site. Thanks!

  • Such practical tips; such terrific writing. I have shared this everywhere and become a subscriber for more! I know that it will be a blessing to all my followers - 30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself. Love it!

  • This explains exactly what I am going through right now. Thanks a million.

  • Great stuff… thanks for sharing. Nice reminders many of us forget all too well.

  • Thank you so much for writing and sharing this. Very inspiring! I really needed to read it today.

  • I am 57 and will start re-making myself with this wise advice. Thanks so much!

  • With all that I am going through, this is exactly what I needed to hear to jumpstart a better me!!!

  • Great read! I really liked and agree with everything you said here.

  • Thank you. I am so happy to have read this.

  • I ’stumbled upon’ this - everything you have written makes sense, and these points are all things that I’d like to do. Thanks.

  • Difficult to add value to such a great post and some excellent comments too.

    The Road Less Travelled is a must read for anyone wanting to discover more about themselves and learn about personal growth. It’s not an easy journey to start but the return on investment is huge in the long run.

    Thanks for reminding me of a few things where I have become unconsciously incompetent.

  • A good reminder like this article is always the right medicine for a positive future. Thank you.

  • Thank you for this article! It really helped me understand a lot about growing up and coping with problems. :)

  • Words of wisdom. Thanks

  • Hey,

    Great, honest post. I read something also very valuable the other day which hit me suddenly. It was, Face one challenge every day. We subconsciously play ostrich to some of the harder realities of our life, and often if they are big, we have to face them. But we can afford to hide from the smaller challenges. However, if we face those head on we’ll feel much more confident about ourselves.

    Thank you for writing a truthful and helpful post


  • Thanks a lot. This really opened my eyes. I am very grateful for finding this post :)

  • Super! I just loved this. Thank you!

  • This makes me realise how we should learn to give and take, forgive and forget and let go of the little, petty things in life. Superb! Simply superb.

  • Your words are really wonderful, and right now I need some help and encouragement. Thanks for this!

  • Thank you for this website, it’s helping me a lot.

  • Admiration and Gratitude for this lovely article. Thank you.

  • Thanks for this list- it is going up on my refrigerator.

  • I love your site. I just LOOOOOOOVE your site. Will now read one entry per day for a positive start.

  • I (literally) stumbled upon this post at the perfect time. There is a lot of advice that made me think. Time for a few changes :)

  • I am grateful to you Marc and Angel. This post has helped guide me out of depression slowly over the last few weeks. Thanks a ton…

  • Simply amazing! Well written and truthful.

  • Spot on with this write-up. I really suppose this web site needs far more consideration. I intend to read your other articles as well.

  • Thank you so much. I wish I could keep this advice in my head. It’s so easy to lapse into despair sometimes.

  • I can’t begin to express my love for this site and how much it helps me through the day at work–especially since I’m going through a breakup that I thought would never happen. I loved her with all that I had, trying to be the best loving boyfriend I’ve ever been in my life. We started to make plans for the future but–she felt that we didn’t “work” and as much as I don’t want to fully believe it there’s a lot of truth to that.

    One of the things that I learned in that relationship is that out of the decades of being betrayed, cheated on, disrespected–I learned that despite those bad experiences I could love again and that even though my recent relationship didn’t work out, I can eventually love again as well.

    There are days I don’t know if I can really make it but these lists that I read over and over again help me to maintain focus on what’s worth my while, and not the things that bring me down.

  • Very wise. I can identify with every single one of the points above, for as they see, it’s BEEN THERE DONE THAT. Yes, all 30 of ‘em. And today, I’m a better person cos of the lessons I learned from ‘em. If I can do it, so can YOU!

  • Thanks for this, so very inspiring and useful. I hope to improve myself as I act on each point.

  • Thank you. You are giving very practical and easy to follow advice here. You’re doing something extraordinary with this post, as it crosses the oceans and touches hearts far and wide, around the globe (posting from Argentina myself).

  • Thank you. This short article helped me and really inspired me. :)

  • I don’t really know how I got to this blog, but I’m sure glad that I did. Thanks.

  • Awesome post! Easily one of the most inspiring things I’ve read online in a long time.

  • I love this article so much. Its mind-blowing. Thanks for the inspiration

  • This is awesome, really helpful. Thanks

  • Food for Thought… thank you.

  • insightful. thank you.

  • Absolutely lovely piece, full of wisdom!

  • This is exactly what i needed to get through what I’ve been going through. Thank you so much. Best article I have ever read online in my life :)

  • Stumbled across your site and am soooo glad I did. An excellent article, beautifully written and very thought provoking … just what I needed to read at the moment. Certainly helps bring everything into perspective. Many thanks for sharing it

  • This is totally outstanding! I love the simplicity in this wisdom! Thank you, Thank You Thank You!!!

  • Thanks for sharing such an important list of ideas! Great job :D

  • Everything mentioned in this post is exactly what most religions call for in their own way. Simply an excellent summary here.


  • Thanks so much. These words are indeed important for everyone, as they were for me today.

  • Thanks for such deep words and inspiration.

  • This is perhaps the most frank and concise self-help advice I have come across.

  • This article is one of the best out there! I saw it on another blog around New Years Eve last year and I’ve never stopped thinking about it. Great Post!

  • Wow! This is like someone out there sending me what I need the most, when I need the most. A fantastic list that I so need right now. It was painful to read at the beginning but I began to smile by the end of it. Maybe I will read it twice everyday to begin with. I am grateful that I bumped into this blog. This is my most ideal medicine and therapy that I require for my inner work right now. Thank you :-) for this great work.

  • I Felt like you were speaking right to me. Since moving to another state, I have experienced such turmoil and abuse and you really reminded me of the insanity of being around a person who is so toxic and evil. Insanity plays a huge roll and I am looking at my part in the situation and I enable the insanity every time I let that poison through my door. Thank you!

  • Raymond Clifford
    May 5th, 2012 at 8:57 pm

    GOOD Stuff! Thank you, forwarded to the usual = Facebook, Twitter, and of course Google+!

  • I must say, this is the BEST thing I’ve EVER read for Myself concerning our conscious/unconscious Minds & thinking patterns all year. Making or Not making such mental adjustments can literally kill us when you think about it. Great stuff!

  • I’m totally inspired! :) Thank You for sharing this :)

  • As a Licensed Professional Counselor and Life Coach I am in AWE of this list. If everyone worked to achieve these 30 things they would find so much Joy in their lives. We control the destiny of our lives. Every moment we have a choice to make when it comes to our peace and joy!!! Live your best life.

    Thanks for sharing!!!!

  • Gees, just getting to the bottom of ALL the comments…I love this article, thank you for these good words. So very true.

  • Wonderful, wonderful post.
    You have covered most of the things but I would like to add one or two more.

    1. Stop talking/making noise and do something. In a world full of people who think the one who shouts the most, knows and does the most, stop trying to increase your vocal range. A lot of people are just busy politicking but they never do anything. They hold meetings, plan a somewhat perfect business plan or such but that is just it, it never takes off. Actions speak louder than words, right?

    2. Stop trying to seek unneeded attention. A lot of people are just trying to catch the attention of others, and in reference to no. 1 of the original list, attention seeking from the wrong crowd of persons, for the wrong reasons. A lot of people want to be famous, that known guy and such. The real question is, and then what? Be comfortable with yourself, be the star first in your own world first and then attention possibly will pay you. Let your work speak for yourself, not the other way round. All that glitters is not gold, and, learn something from nerds, you never knew them in high school, ten years down the line… Bill gates, Mark and Einstein.

  • Great list. Stopping all of these things leads to a happier and more fun life.

  • Best self-help article I have heard in a long time. Kudos!

  • All very good points , it is a good reminder that we are so very responsible for our own choices , our own happiness or peacefulness . I was feeling sorry for myself and this article has helped me stop that way of thinking . thanks …

  • This is one of the best wake up calls I’ve ever stumbled upon online.

  • This blog is amazing! Keep up the great work. Very compelling and life altering stuff

  • Wow, just great. Thanks for the wonderful post. Bookmarking it right now :)

  • I just want to thank you for posting these articles and the other articles on your site. I sometimes get to a point where I am down and in need of sound advice and I turn to your articles. They have truly helped motivate me to be more positive and have a happier outlook on life.

  • I am extremely thankful to you for posting this article. It surely make a positive change in many lives. I would definitely share this with friends too. Thanks once again.

  • Great post. I especially like the book recommendations under certain points. This is a list that should be posted in public places! :)

  • This is a great read. I posted the link on my FB so others may benefit from it. I will visit this story periodically to keep the points strong in my mind.

  • I am too guilty of a lot of these, Marc.

    The trick is to be honest with ourselves and acknowledge when we are actually doing these things. We have a chance then of addressing them. As with everything though it takes conscious efforts to break the habits of a lifetime.

    Great list.

  • I know my comment is just one of many, but I want to take the time to sincerely thank you for writing this list. It came at the most perfect time.. Halfway through, tears were streaming down my cheeks, and they still are. Thank you so much; though you don’t know me, you have helped me greatly.

    Thank you

  • Brilliant. Perfect timing and completely resonated with me. I’ve been reading “personal development” content for over 5 years, and every single bullet struck a nerve with me. Never stop what you’re doing. People like you make people like me better, and so on and so forth… the effect is exponential. :) Thank you.

  • This is a very practical and timeless list that is easy to understand. Following this list and applying it will definitely change one’s life for the better. I have been involved with personal development information since my teens, and it has made all the difference in my life. Our lives are a journey, not a end destination. We need to work on these points in our lives for the rest of our lives.

    Best Regards,


  • Most inspirational article I’ve read this year.

  • This post totally rings true! Looking forward to sharing this with my social circles!

  • Great list. Thank you for taking the time to compose this wonderful advice. This will be printed out and posted on my fridge.

  • Awesome list. It was exactly what a needed. It made my day. Everything looks brighter and more hopeful now. It was the first time i was on this site, and it was by chance too, unplanned actually, and im glad i found this site. it helped me alot. thanks so much!!! <3

  • This is a very good post! the single line that struck me most is “love when you are ready, and not when you are lonely!”. Thanks! It helps

  • This is a fantastic list, there is not one that I disagree with. It is so easy to fall into these traps and bad habits unless you are aware of them.

  • WOW! Perfect advice for really living a life of your dreams. I only wish I had this advice when I was in my early 20’s. I grew up with the constant threat of humiliation and was told I couldn’t do _______ (fill in the blank). Because my parents lived all of the above, I learned all of the above. Many thanks for being blunt and truthful - I hope everyone in the world reads this post!

  • Thank you so much, before I read this I was really upset over some little stupid things that were ruining my day, but this has made me feel really better, Thank you.

  • Just in time. These words and life philosophy are just what I needed. I am thankful for this post.

  • Hey, thanks so much for sharing this. It made sense to me and helped me.

  • I really needed to hear this. Came right on time. I plan to study this everyday.

  • Wow, excellent! Nothing like the bright, scalding, truth to set you free! I love this, and want to live it. I’ll keep it close…

    Thank You!

  • I really love this- each day I wake up with courage and inspiration and admire to spread this info around to all those who need a positive prospective in their lives.

  • Thank you for such a thought provoking post.

  • wow…such a valuable article.

  • After a terribly messy breakup I’ve had a lot of time to reevaluate lessons in my life and it’s refreshing to see many of them so well articulated in this article. Love it. Thanks.

  • As many have said before me, this list has been incredibly insightful and thought-provoking. Something we should all keep close by and read often, to keep ourselves on track to becoming the best version possible of who we really are. Thank you, truly, for your inspiring words.

  • Oh, I just stumbled upon your site. I love it! What wisdom lies within it’s pages. What wonderful, quality thinking you have done, and then articulated those thoughts so beautifully for the rest of the world to benefit from. It is my new bible for living. From practical everyday ideas to thought-provoking challenges to reminders of what’s important in life…I love them all. As a committed list-maker myself, your lists will now provide me with prompts to keep things in perspective. Oh, I’m excited about this site! Thank you, thank you, thank you.

  • This is a fantastic website, and this article in particular is very inspiring. It is beautifully written and gives advice about issues that everyone struggles with. Thank you for making my day brighter.

  • This post is very inspiring. It tackles tough situations in our daily lives with grace and keen wisdom. Thank you.

  • Marc n Angel

    I really love the question from #16..

    “What’s something I have that everyone wants?”

    When I post this question on my Facebook, many respond from my friends telling me what I have that they want.. That make me realize “Who am I..”

    Thanks so much for this awesome post..

  • Stop Taking on too Many Projects! - that’s a Biggie in my life.

  • Wow! This list is amazing. I honestly thought you were talking to me for a moment. The first step is identifying where you fall short and trying to work on those things. This is a post that should be read by everyone at least once and ideally more than once. It’s great food for the soul.

  • Thank you Marc for such an insightful post. Although there are quite a few points in the post, they are all individually very important in themselves. I especially love the first point about spending time with the wrong people as I have had plenty of personal experience of this.

  • The wisdom you share lights the path for the rest of us. You are a trailblazer indeed. Cheers!

  • This list is great. Of course, it’s some common sense as well. For me, anyway, it’ll take time to work on these things. I know I shouldn’t linger on past mistakes or beat my self up when I make a mistake, but those things can’t be fixed over night. Putting myself last has always been my norm. That won’t go away over night either, but I’m working on it. These things take time.

  • “You are not your mistakes.” I have repeated this again and again to myself and revisited this post since the first time I read it over 6 months ago. Thank you.

  • I need to print and frame this.

  • Loved your article!

  • Needed this, great timing! Thanks!

  • Great article! I love it.

  • I really appreciated this. I’ll keep this in my “Don’t worry too much”. Thanks!

  • Loved this article! Helped a lot.
    Thank you! :)

  • Oh, the energy we spend on these things… imagine how much greater a mark on the world we could make if we re-channeled it to productive things.

    Fantastic post.

  • Thank you so much, today I woke up at 4 a.m.

    This article is totally brightening my day!

    Good morning from Thailand :)

  • Thank you for posting this, first time on the site… inspirational.

  • Stand out. Straight to the point and so true regardless of sex, age, race or orientation. Thank you for this piece

  • I’m reading this and passing this on. I have a lot of friends, myself included, going through difficult times. This, I think, will help. :)

  • This was a great read. Thank you for taking your time to put this together and sharing it with us. :)

  • This is strong and powerful, very inspirational.

  • Pure and timeless wisdom!!! Thanks Marc!!!

  • Thank you for the words of wisdom, its easy to forget the simple and important things in life as your too wrapped up in work or other situations.

  • Thank you for this article. I found it quite a while ago and re-read it each time I start to doubt everything I am and do. It is a great help.

  • The list is a very helpful and timely set of reminders – I’m going to print it out. The quote at the very beginning is not one that I’d seen before and I love how it sets up and balances your post. “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” Inspirational words to live by. Thanks so much for sharing.

  • This list should be posted on people’s refrigerators as resolutions. Very inspiring! Thanks for sharing!

  • Reading this page really helped me calm down, I realize I need to stop over thinking everything because it’s not good for my health or overall well being. The only thing in my life that contradicts this page was that I looked for love because I was lonely, my friend set me up with one of her friends and since then I’ve been with the love of my life. Thanks for sharing! I’m going to show this to my friend and see if it helps her as much as it helped me.

  • Well stated and I agree. Especial with the thought that you need to abandon your fears.

  • Inspiring and practical at the same time.

  • I needed this. Thank you so much!

  • Dear Marc & Angel,

    I bookmarked this page and come back often. Inspiring thoughts! One of these points always speaks for me! Thanks so much! By the way, I watched your video. You guys are lovely and adorable!

  • Thank you. This is beautifully written…and it’s everything I know and believe. I would like to print it off and put in our hallway in a frame, so everyday my four children and myself can constantly affirm all of it to our subconscious…just with a glance xo

    Love all that you are!

    Kerry x

  • I normally don’t comment on this kinds of things but this article is hands down AMAZING. Thank you so much for such a well written, well thought article. It literally made my day.

  • Amazingly insightful…

  • This is exactly what I needed to read right now! This couldn’t come to a better time. Thanks A LOT for this nice article!

  • Wonderful article. Keeping these in mind will make life more positive. Definitely need this in print.


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