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15 Ways to Be Irresistibly Attractive


15 Ways to Be Irresistibly Attractive

Be true to your values.  Be honest.  Do your best.  Do things that bring you closer to your dreams.  Take care of yourself, your family, and your friends.  Treat people with respect.  Be the person that makes others feel special.  Be known for your kindness and honesty.

In other words, invest love into your life.  Because when you love life, life will love you back.  And there’s no attraction greater than love.  People will notice the goodness surrounding you, and they will be naturally attracted to you.

  1. Do the right thing. – Never be afraid to do what you know in your heart is right, especially if the well being of another person’s feelings is at stake. There is no punishment in the world more severe than the wounds we inflict on our soul when we do what we know is wrong.
  2. Stop the gossip and superficial judgments. – Great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, and small minds gossip about people.  Life is much too short to be lived talking about people, gossiping, and stirring up trouble that has no substance.  If you don’t understand someone, ask questions.  If you don’t agree with them, tell them.  But don’t judge them behind their back to everyone else.  Read The Mastery of Love.
  3. Lift others up. – If you want to lift yourself up, lift someone else up.  To be happy and free is not merely to cast off one’s chains, but to live in a way that respects and enhances the happiness and freedom of others.  When you put faith, hope, and love together, you can nurture positive ideas, relationships, and dreams in a negative world.
  4. Give words of encouragement to those in need. – A word of encouragement during a failure is worth more than an hour of praise after success.  We all hit a time when we lose hope and need someone to put their arms around us and say, “I’ve got you right now.  You are not facing this alone.”  Be that person when you can.
  5. Be positive. – Think positively; speak properly; apologize rapidly; forgive quickly.  Evolve your being and inspire yourself and others.  Say it out loud, “I am sorry negativity, I have no time for you.  I have far too many positive things to do.”
  6. Embrace your uniqueness. – If you don’t embrace your uniqueness, you will spend your entire life striving to conform to the impossibility of being someone else.  By celebrating what makes you different, rather than wasting time trying to be the same, you will discover your unique gifts that nobody else in the world has.
  7. Do things for fun and passion. – When you stop doing things for fun and passion, you stop living and you start merely existing.  If you truly want to change your life, you must first change your mind and your actions.  Once you are ready to truly devote your time and energy to what calls to your soul, you will find your life unimaginably enriched.  Read The 4-Hour Workweek.
  8. Be gentle. – When you least expect it, something great will come along – something better than you ever planned for.  Mother Nature opens millions of flowers every day without forcing the buds.  Let this be a reminder not to force anything, but to simply give beautiful things enough love and an opportunity to grow naturally.
  9. Drop the need to always be right. – Someone else doesn’t have to be wrong for you to be right.  There are many roads to what’s right.  You cannot judge others by your own past.  They are living a different life than you.  Express your opinions freely and politely, remembering that if your purpose is to ridicule or prove others are wrong, it will only bring bitterness into the world.  Respecting the opinion of others, without judging, always carries more weight than simply being right.
  10. Be loyal.  Be honest. – You can’t promise to love someone for the rest of their life, but you can sincerely love them for the rest of yours.  When it comes to relationships, remaining faithful is never an option, but a priority.  Loyalty and honest affection mean everything.
  11. Be flexible and keep an open mind. – What looks like an obstacle or road block is oftentimes just life steering you in a better direction.  Be flexible and keep an open mind to all the changes that are forcing you to grow, and helping you better align yourself with your vibration and purpose.
  12. Believe in yourself and all that you are. – Know in your heart that there is strength inside you that is greater than the challenges you face.  No one can do it for you – you have to choose to use your wings.
  13. Believe in your dreams. – Who you hope to be someday is already a big part of who you are now.  Your dreams are real.  They do not exist in the past; they live in the present, and when you stay committed to doing what needs to be done, you carry them closer to reality as you walk through the gates of tomorrow.
  14. Walk the talk. – You can make whatever you want out of your life, but first you have to not be afraid to try.  We all have to start with ourselves.  It is time to walk the talk.  Take the journey of making the difficult decisions and taking action.  Start removing things from your life that are taking away your happiness, and start adding things that bring joy in to your life.  Read Psycho-Cybernetics.
  15. Embrace the possibilities of tomorrow. – Don’t let your past dictate who you are, but let it be part of who you will become.  No regrets.  No looking back.  Just hold onto life and move forward.  We have no way of knowing what lies ahead, but that’s what makes the journey even more exciting – that’s what makes life worth living.

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44 Comments

  • “Who you hope to be someday is already a big part of who you are now. ”

    Wow to #13. Simply inspiring.

  • Loved this. Many of your points reminded me of one of my favorite quotes:

    “After the verb “to love,” “to give” is the most beautiful verb in the world.” –Bertha von Suttner

  • I’m loving the simplicity of this post. So many ideas I already know, but so often forget to implement. These are great reminders for all of us.

  • Wonderful. Simple and practical ideas to be followed by everybody to make life beautiful and positive.

  • Great post… several ideas here I am starting to implement in my life.

  • I love this site! And I love this post. Thanks for continuing to inspire.

  • Another great post to inspire and encourage. I love the reminder about our ability to love someone for the rest of our lives. Thanks!

  • Don’t let your past dictate who you are, but let it be part of who you will become.  No regrets.  No looking back.  Just hold onto life and move forward. 

    Simply beautiful. I’m working on this area of my life and constantly. This post flows so nicely and I’ll make sure to revisit it often as a reminder….thank you.

  • LOVE this!!

  • Loved this one…<3 :) You’ve made my day by this awesome post… Will try to possibly implement all these points in my life ^_^

  • #1. Do the right thing. Why is this even rare anymore? It’s a reminder many of us need, often.

  • Marc, you continue to make my day. n\Not sure how you know what I need to hear, and the reminder to “Embrace your uniqueness” is what I needed today.
    Thank you!

  • Wonderful article! Really touched a chord. Thank you!

  • This is a lovely reminder to be who we are at all times. Because true happiness lies in the confidence of who we believe we are.

  • This is another superb masterpiece of your writing. I love every word of your writing. I love Marc and Angel

  • Love this. Totally untraditional things you would think of but superficial beauty only goes so far. Having self confidence is the one thing I think that should be listed but wasn’t, but it goes hand in hand with so many of them.

  • Thank you for all these beautiful words. I love & look forward everyday to these new posts!

  • Very inspiring ideas for living a productive life. I want to receive all your mails

  • akbar y.khorakiwala
    August 10th, 2012 at 1:27 pm

    excellent article !!!

  • I recognized well known, important concepts within nearly each of these 15 points… Nice list. Thank you for putting it out there & I hope many people are touched & enlightened. Namaste

  • It’s amazing how much the simple act of being positive can improve your life. I’ve experienced this quite heavily in the last few years. Negativity, I have no place for you. Great post Marc.

  • The timing of these blogs always seem to be so serendipitous. Thank you.

  • I love all your articles. They are all food for the soul!

    Please continue lifting our spirits through your ideas and wisdom.

  • “I am sorry negativity, I have no time for you. I have far too many positive things to do.” - I just LOVE that! I put it on a post it note on my mirror :)

  • I really like second point you mentioned here. ” Great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, and small minds gossip about people. ” . You are absolutely right, when we discuss about others, it actually doesn’t help us anyway. It is much better to think what better we can do about our life all the time without thinking about what others are doing. I guess that this is the right way of success. Always judging others doesn’t help. But judging yourself always helps.

  • Thank you so much.
    Its a great blog.
    I love it.

  • Your number 1 is a big part of my blog. We need people interaction, but once we are in a group, we lose some identity. Keep the courage of your convictions and faith in humanity…people are thinking the same things as you. If we all do the right thing, we will change society, from Wall Street to Main Street.
    Also, your number 9…my number 9 is stated, “Connect, don’t convince.” It’s been a hard road going from expert on everything to listener, but it’s been worth the effort. I’m definitely more attractive because of it, because one of the two things people want is to feel appreciated by others.
    This list is great, but if I can be superficial, given the title of the article, I would suggest a big, teeth showing, sincere smile.
    :D

  • You just get better and better all the time, and never cease to inspire me and so many others. Thank you.

  • I love this!

  • What a wonderful post filled with gold nuggets! Thank you for sharing your uplifting messages with the world.

  • Great words of wisdom.

  • Very good! Thanks.

  • i love the 6th one: Embrace your uniqueness..

  • Hey Marc,

    I’m not a regular around here so I don’t even know how I got here in the first place but this was an AMAZING article dude.

    I’ve bought Psycho-Cybernetics and I recently got Tim Ferriss’ as well, the famous 4HWW so I can’t wait to start reading them.

    Awesome pointers, insanely cool job here, thank you!

    Sergio

  • 1-”Never be afraid to do what you know in your heart is right, especially if the well being of another person’s feelings is at stake. There is no punishment in the world more severe than the wounds we inflict on our soul when we do what we know is wrong.”

    True to an extent, but I think there is something as severe than inflicting wounds on our OWN soul. Inflicting wounds in the soul of someone that loves you is also severe. So please if you’re going to follow your heart, try to think just a little beat on the others person heart too.

  • Point 2. Stop the superficial judgements. Thats the problem with the world. People always judging others. Thanks.

  • 16. Lift others up.

  • Really love the tips. They are all positive and true!

  • This left me with a huge smile and a feeling that i really can and i really need to start bettering myself for my futures sake. #13 is the most inspiring words I’ve ever read.

  • thank you for the wonderful article, made me feel that i was touched by an angel. Am going through something at the moment and all that was mentioned here reminded me that I am a beautiful person inside out…
    please continue to enlighten millions with your encouraging words.

  • This is so true. I live my life the way described in this posting and people absolutely love me. They crave my friendship. I get compliments all the time. Etc. It feels good.

  • Hi,

    I have always done things to please other people while deep inside me I know that what I am doing is wrong.

    After reading these tips, as from now I will do things my own way taking into consideration that it is not hurting others, my family and myself.

  • You’re really awesome! Thanks for doing what you do, everything you write has helped me in some way or another to become better and thinking differently.

    From the deepest of my heart, thanks really. You’re a sunshine, a light in a tunnel, you’re inspiring and a ray of hope for so many people.

    Lots of love from Costa Rica

  • It all works with what’s within…as you get congruent with that, your energy is irresistibly attractive : )

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