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8 Places Happy People Find Peace


8 Places Happy People Find Peace

“Peace comes from within.  Do not seek it without.”
–Buddha

Somewhere between the love in your heart and thoughts in your mind is a happy, peaceful place.  You will find it promptly when you look in the following places:

1.  The Foundation of Acceptance

Life is a series of continuous natural events and changes.  Don’t resist them; doing so only creates unnecessary stress.  Let the reality of these events and changes take place.  Let them flow.  Or as Henry Wadsworth once said, “For after all, the best thing one can do when it is raining is let it rain.”

Acceptance is letting go and allowing things to be the way they truly are.  It doesn’t mean you don’t care about improving the realities of life; it’s just realizing that the only thing you really have control over is yourself.  This simple understanding is the foundation of acceptance, and only with acceptance can there be peace and growth.

2.  A Sincere Inner Space

You have your own way.  For you, this way of living is the absolute right way.  Honor it.

One of the most influential sources of peace is simply being comfortable with who you really are.  Not trading your reality for a role, or your truth for an act.  Not giving up your freedom of thought.  Not putting on a mask.

There cannot be peace in your external life until you are at peace within yourself, being yourself.  It won’t always be easy, but no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning your inner spirit.  Read The Untethered Soul.

3.  The Mindset of Forgiveness

When someone has hurt you, it’s hard to be peaceful.  But you do it anyway because you know peace is the only battle worth waging.  Peace is beautiful; it is the manifestation of your love, and the best resolution for a brighter future.

Being peaceful is hard sometimes; much harder than being angry and vengeful.  It requires you to stay calm and let go of the pain.  It requires you to forgive and move on.  Of course, you don’t do these things just for the person who has hurt you, but for your own wellbeing.

4.  The Land of Appreciation

If you believe you would finally be happy if you had twice the amount of the things you already have – time, money, friends, cars, snazzy dress shoes, etc. – you would be sadly mistaken.  Because if you aren’t happy with what you have, you won’t be any happier when what you have is doubled.

As Socrates once said, “Contentment is natural wealth, luxury is artificial poverty.”  Do not waste all your happiness by overlooking everything you have for everything you wish you had.  If you do, you will never have enough.  Instead, appreciate the goodness that is already yours, and you will instantly find a lot more to smile about.  Read The Happiness Project:.

5.  Moments of Purposeful Solitude

You need to pause at least once a day and spend a few moments breathing silently.  Use these moments to think and consciously separate the past from the present and future.  Responsibilities, obligations, unfinished business, family and friends can all survive without you while you take these moments for yourself.

You deserve this time away.  You deserve to think peacefully, free from external pressure.  No problems to solve, hands to shake, or people to please.  Sometimes you need to make time for yourself, away from the busy world you live in that doesn’t make time for you.

6.  A Mutually Loving Relationship

When you love someone you understand them.  You don’t necessarily understand exactly what they’re thinking, but you understand why.  And they understand the same about you.  This shared understanding is precious because where human beings are understood they are at ease.

Understanding nourishes emotional comfort and belonging.  When those you love truly feel understood, they feel free to release themselves into the trust and shelter of your inner spirit and soul, which is where the real connection is made and true peace is found for the both of you.

7.  A Passionate Endeavor

Passion is powerful.  It rests deep within you and passively drives your feelings, choices, and courses of actions.  It can’t be ignored, and it shouldn’t be ignored.

Your passion will become the sole source of your greatest achievements and your finest moments.  The fevering excitement of love.  The joy of work that moves you.  The clarity of your purpose.  The ecstasy of letting go and being one with the present moment.  This is what passion does to you.  Without it there is no peace of mind, just a hollow existence of unfulfilled dreams – a lifetime left unlived.  Read 1,000 Little Things.

8.  The Muscle of Positive Action

In life, you get what you put in.  Every moment of your life is dynamic, responding exclusively to your inputs.  When you put a positive, productive effort into it you will receive a useful outcome from it.  This is the greatest power you possess – the power you have over your own choices and actions.  Instead of attempting to gain power over others and external situations, exercise the unlimited power you already have over yourself.

Forget about the past, the future, and where others are in their journey.  Put your mind at ease.  Put the worrying and complaining to rest.  Focus on your living, breathing, present self.  What can you do right now to make a difference?  Get positive, get productive, and get busy putting the possibilities of this moment to the test.

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22 Comments

  • A lovely post, beautiful in it’s simplicity. I’d add: A Place of Curiosity. If we can approach life with a spirit of curiosity & passionate growth it all becomes so much easier and more fulfilling.

  • Finding peace is a difficult journey, but once you reach that point of peaceful flow it sure is sweet. I am slowly finding peace in my own ways, but can relate to everything you’ve written here. For me, learning to detach myself from material possessions is a big one. Thanks for the inspiration, as always.

  • I swear, in the first four points you perfectly described the habits I’m working to improve this year. This post is so right on point. Simply spectacular… incredibly perceptive and inspiring.

    Cheers to finding and spreading inner peace.

  • Great post Marc and Angel. As a Personal Development student I am going through these exercises at the moment and find posts like this to be extremely helpful as a cross reference and extra reading. The biggest battle is of course the inner one, as can sometimes be daunting to look in the mirror, so I got a lot from this post. Thank you.

  • Marc and Angel, I relate to all this.
    If you two ever come holidaying in Nairobi Kenya, look me up :)

  • “A Passionate Endeavor” is one of the most important things we can ever find. Passion is at the heart of what it means to live.

    To truly live.

    Our passions are what we are here for. They give us purpose. Calling. They are the driving force of success and achievement.

    It’s absolutely paramount that we don’t ignore the passion that resides in us. It’s easy to get caught up in the day to day grind, only really living 2 days out of every week.

    That never leads to true fulfillment. We need to find ways to live our passion daily. It’s who we are. To ignore it is to ignore ourselves . . . to ignore life.

    Cheers!

  • All of these spoke to me and are so true… but #6 is my favorite. Thanks you.

  • Can we have a print button? I know it’s important not to waste paper, but once in a while it would be nice to print one of these off and ponder with a tangible bit of paper.

    Otherwise, I give you 99½%!! ;-)

    Martin

  • To print this and/or any other articles from the web, use copy & paste on a word document page. The steps make one choose only to print very important articles. I’ve printed 1 article & kept it in my purse to read and ponder when I have pockets of time. Thank you, Marc & Angel, for another well written and insightful post.

  • Excellent post. I find passion and peace elusive with a 5 year old, a 13 year marriage and obligations that do not end. Passion is easy in your 20’s, at 44 its radically changed.

  • Beautiful post, thank you!

  • Excellent reminders. It’s also important to remember that peace of mind is achieved gradually. No pain that we suffer, no trial that we experience is wasted. It ministers to our education, to the development of such qualities as patience, faith, fortitude and humility. All that we suffer and all that we endure, especially when we endure it patiently, builds up our characters, purifies our hearts, expands our souls, and makes us more tender and charitable, more worthy to be at peace.

  • Awesome read, thank you for your ever encouraging words.

  • I feel so blessed, so blessed to have the opportunity read this blog. It touches my core deep down.

    In this instance the words ‘thank you’ just don’t seem to be enough, but I will say it anyway. Thank You!

  • Hi, and thank you for the useful tips. Looking forward to you keeping me updated through email when you have new posts.

    Thank you

    Cheers from rainy Vancouver, Canada

  • Thank goodness I have music; and instrument and an empty room to work on my craft and find myself. Love it…add it!

  • @JJ: You are not alone. It’s a big step to recognize your attachment to material possessions, and something many of us struggle with.

    @Sussane: We’ll be sure to. Thank you! =)

    @Trevor: Right on! Thank you for the additional insight.

    @Martin: Check out Tawni’s comment. Thank you both. =)

    @Ash: You are absolutely right!

    @All: As always, thank you! Your comments and insight make our hearts smile. I’m serious. =)

  • Sound advice, as always. Peace truly is found when you align your inner drive with the right daily actions over the course of many years.

  • Just the inspiration I needed today… to motivate myself to make some time for myself.

  • Thank you!

  • chima-obi Onuigbo
    April 16th, 2013 at 3:39 pm

    Marc, do you know that I use some of your write ups to conduct trainings here in Nigeria! Where information\knowledge is scarce You are a champion. God is happy with you! Thank you.

  • Fantastic post with great insight. Finding things like this makes me feel like I am not alone in searching for “more” out of life.

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