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9 Things You Will Regret Not Doing Sooner


9 Things You Will Regret Not Doing Sooner

“People always say life is too short for regrets.
But the truth is, it’s too long.”
―Sarah Addison Allen

One of the most difficult things to deal with in life is regret.  Sometimes something will happen, and you will respond in the wrong way, and for a while thereafter you will wish you had done it differently.  But eventually, you accept the experience as a lesson learned and you move on with your life.

This is hardly the worst kind of regret.  What could be worse?

The chances you didn’t take.  The relationships you were afraid to nurture.  The decisions you waited too long to make.  The things you didn’t even try when you had the chance.  Those important words you left unspoken and deeds you left undone.

The good news is, it’s not too late.  You are here breathing, which means you still have a chance to do what you might have done, and be what you might have been.  Right now you have an opportunity to write yourself a future free of regret.

So take this opportunity and…

1.  Take the first step.

The greatest miracle of your success in life will not be that you finished, it will be that you had the courage to begin.

The feeling you get from taking the first step is far better than the feeling you get from sitting around thinking about it.  Get up and get moving.  Take the first step today – just one small step forward on that goal you’ve been meaning to work on.

Even if you don’t feel 100% prepared right now, your worst try will always be 100% more effective than the person who never did.  It is so easy to get caught up in planning and perfecting that before you know it, you have made taking the first step a bigger deal than it is.  Sometimes you just have to go ahead and take things as they come, one step at a time.

So give up the excuses and begin now.  Tomorrow you will be happy you started today.

2.  Get comfortable with feeling of uncomfortable.

…and then take another step.

You were not meant to sit at the edge of your comfort zone.  Not trying for fear of falling.  Not loving for fear of losing love.  Not speaking your truth for fear of what others will think.  Not looking at yourself in the mirror for fear of what you might see.

Try, and then try again with all your might.  Your courage will unfold as your resolve takes hold.  And with each effort you make you will earn a little more confidence which you can use to acquire what no one else can give you: Your self-respect, and the life you were meant to live.  (Read Daring Greatly.)

3.  Work on being the type of person you want to be around.

Focus enough energy inward.  Before befriending others, you have to be your own friend.  Before making others happy, you have to make yourself happy.  It’s not called selfishness; it’s called personal development.

Even when you’re with others, you’re still with yourself.  When you wake up in the morning, you’re with yourself.  Laying in bed at night you’re with yourself.  Walking down the street at noon you’re with yourself.  What kind of person do you want to walk down the street with?  What kind of person do you want to wake up in the morning with?  What kind of person do you want to see at the end of the day before you fall asleep?  It’s your responsibility to be the person you want to be with.

It’s important to nurture your relationships, and it’s important to start with YOU.

4.  Make your own happiness a priority.

For the average person happiness is a choice, yet so many of us are unhappy all the time.  There are many reasons, but it all boils down to one simple principle:  We often choose something else over happiness.  Because it often takes less effort to be unhappy.  For example, instead of seeking happiness we lazily follow the path of least resistance, we refuse to accept change, we aimlessly try to control the uncontrollable, and so on and so forth.  Averting these poor choices and the negative attitudes that accompany them is the first step.

The second step is injecting meaning into your day-to-day life.  Franklin D. Roosevelt once said, “Happiness is not in the mere possession of money; it lies in the joy of achievement, in the thrill of creative effort.”  To find true happiness in life you have to follow your heart and intuition.  You have to be who you are, and design a lifestyle and career that fulfills you – no matter what that entails or what people say about it.  And it is never too late to do so.

Sure you have responsibilities.  And no, you won’t be able to do what you want to do every waking minute of your life.  But you almost always have a choice to do more of what you really want to do – to work on something that matters to you – something that moves you and gives your life meaning.

Bottom line:  Life isn’t about pleasing everyone.  Begin today by taking full responsibility for your own happiness.  (Read 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.)

5.  Practice.

If I were to write a book entitled, “How to Be Amazing at Anything”, it would only contain a single page with one word on it: “Practice!”  Because that’s all it takes to be amazing.

Whether it means learning to write by practicing writing or learning to live by practicing living, the principles are identical.  In each instance, it is the relentless routine of a precise set of actions, physical and intellectual, focused on a desired result.  Practice means to perform, over and over again in the face of all obstacles, some act of vision, faith, or desire.

Practice is a means of inventing an amazing outcome in all walks of life.

6.  Eliminate the negative to make room for more positive.

It’s not what you look at in life that matters; it’s what you choose to see.  The biggest wall you must climb is the one you have built in your mind.  If you don’t control your attitude, then it will control you.

Negative feelings are like weeds; if you don’t fully extract their roots, they will keep coming back.  So take control of your attitude.  Look at what’s right.  Believe in yourself.  Ignore those who try to discourage you.  Avoid negative people, places, things, and habits.  Don’t give up, and don’t give in to consuming the garbage these negative sources are trying to feed you.

Sure, there will always be problems and challenges, but there are always people willing to transform those problems and challenges into great opportunities.  Those who have the courage, commitment and discipline to do so, create a better life for everyone.  Be one of these people.  Focus on positive solutions and work your way eagerly toward a brighter future.

7.  Spend lots of quality time with the people you love.

Spending quality time smiling with family and friends, enjoying the antics of a pet, seeing your child or niece or nephew smile, experiencing intimate and heart-felt moments with your significant other – these times are priceless.

So don’t get so caught up in the rat race, to the point where you are too stressed and exhausted to enjoy your closest relationships.  As we get older, fun with friends and family is often underrated.  With all of our responsibilities, spending time “playing” with the people closest to us seems like an indulgence.  It shouldn’t be.  It should be a requirement.

Remember, we don’t live forever.  You must make an effort to appreciate what you have, who loves you and who cares for you, because you’ll never know how much they mean to you until the day they are no longer beside you.  Spend lots of quality time with the people you love.  Someday you will either regret not doing so, or you will say, “I’m glad I did.”

8.  Appreciate the life you have now.

Pause for a moment.  Breathe in slowly and deeply.  Exhale.  Feel the miracle of your breath.  And say, “Thank you.”  Be as grateful as possible, for small things, not just for big things – for the simple act of breathing, the time together, the conversations, etc.

You probably woke up with a few aches and pains this morning, but you woke up.  You’ve seen better days, but you’ve also seen worse.  You might not have everything you want right now, but you have everything you need to move forward.

Every moment counts.  Every second matters.  Whatever is given is a gift.  Right now life isn’t perfect, but it sure is good.  Acknowledging this is the foundation for all the happiness and abundance you seek.  (Read Buddha’s Brain.)

9.  Let go of what’s behind you as you move ahead.

Sometimes things won’t work out like you plan.  Life has other things in mind.  You need to let these things go.  Learn what you can and move along.  You can’t have a great day today if you’re still thinking and worrying about yesterday.  Whatever could have been or should have been, doesn’t matter.  This moment is here and now for you to live.

It’s okay to not have all the answers yet.  In fact, you’ll never have ALL the answers.  Sometimes being strong and moving on are the only choices you have.  There are some things in life that you may never completely get over.  The best you may be able to do is get through them slowly, and that’s perfectly okay.

Just continue the journey, focus on the present, do your best, and trust the process.  The struggle forward is worth the effort.  There’s still a lot of beauty left to be seen on the road ahead.

Afterthoughts

Your future depends on what you do right now.

Challenge yourself to be who you know you are capable of being.  Challenge yourself to follow through – to live what you preach, to walk your talk.  Don’t worry about how slowly you feel you’re heading towards your goals, or how many roadblocks you find, or how many detours you’re forced to take.  As long as you keep doing your thing, you’re still cruising far ahead of everyone who’s too scared to even try.

Your turn…

What would you add to the list?

What’s something you wish you had done sooner?

Please leave a comment below and share your insights with the community.

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53 Comments

  • Very thought provoking. Hmmm… What is something I wish I had done sooner?

    I wish I had not waited so long to make my passion for music a bigger part of my life. I literally put my passion on hold for nearly a decade, from age 25 until 35 when I picked it up again and turned it into a regular part time job.

  • I celebrated my 51st birthday on September 18th of last year. On September 19th I was declared to be cancer free. On September 27th I decided to go back to school to obtain the remaining six core courses I require to enter a 2-year RN program. I will be 54 when I graduate from nursing school. I don’t know how much life I may have left, but I am going to live whatever time I have and do what makes me happy. All because I started reading ‘Marc and Angel’ and other sources of positivity and was inspired to LIVE my ONE life for myself… for the rest of my life.

    I have promised myself that I will not waste or regret another day of my life.

  • A timely post, like usual. Truthfully, I try not to have regrets. I do my best to reconcile my past. In fact, I wish I learned to do this sooner. It would have saved me a lot of stress in my younger years.

  • Today, at the age of almost 54, I was told that I received a 98 on final exam of the first course of my new career.

    I would never have attempted it without sites like this one; I would never have stopped looking behind me long enough to take one step forward.

    I am far from cured of this terrible habit, but I see life now with hope, and this for me is like waking up to sunshine every day.

  • I wish i undestood sooner that life is in a state of constant flow and that’s just the way it should be. No use thinking about the people who left or even those you wish to show they were wrong about you. It’s all gonna fade into the background. life is probably gonna unfold in the least predictable way. It’s just the way it is and for the first time this thought brings me comfort not fear. I really wish i hadn’t struggled with this so much in the past and beaten myself up about all the stuff that finally is just gonna be an unimportant detail in the long and messy life story.

  • The third point really makes me think about some of the issues I’m currently dealing with. Thank you;)

  • Love it!
    Thank you for bringing lovely warm rays of sunshine to my days whenever I read your posts!

  • Hi, my new motto in life is “Don’t give up.” Too many times I have started something in life and given up at the first hurdle. I have decided to commit myself to the task at hand and not give up. This ultimately is the only way I am going to see any results.

    Doing this I am trying things that I would not have in the past. - Great post.

  • Great list! One of the things that I regret not having done sooner is accepting my body in its natural form instead of trying to make it fit into a box it can only fit by abusing it. It took quite a while to accept that I’m not stick thin, but once I did, I was able to finally live life instead of counting calories and worrying over jeans that don’t fit. :)

  • Take time to simply be. Honor the divinity within. Know we are all interconnected. We are ONE. We are LOVE. Treat others the way you would like to be treated.

    This is the way I avoid regrets.

  • Step 2 is actually an incredibly powerful thing. It’s something that can make it possible to seem confident in any situation, even though you have little to no idea what you are doing or talking about. Although I don’t condone using confidence to mislead people, if you are used to feeling nervous and uncomfortable it becomes less numbing, and so it is easier to perform well in for example job interviews or debates. Definitely wish I had done this sooner.

    Also eliminating the negative can be incredibly powerful. Sometimes bad habits alone can be an overwhelming time waster. Once you you set about fixing that, all of a sudden you find yourself with lots of excess, free time on your hands that you can put to good use. Definitely wish I had realized this sooner, I could be fluent in another language, or be a master at… something.

    The only thing I would add, is challenge your perception. If you think you don’t like something, or someone, but have never really given it an honest try, just try it, get to know her/him. Sometimes your favorite things in life, and people, are left undiscovered because you’ve already dismissed them without just cause.

  • Ema, congratulations!! I’m sure you will do well in your RN school and help a lot of people, Good Luck with that! Your post inspired me so much, I’m 45 and also have been declared cancer free just today, and I am now trying to get into a uni to do a nursing degree… how wonderful to have seen your post!

    I have been putting off my decision for about 20 years, but now something has set in me, I just have to do it, perhaps some day we could meet to exchange notes :)

  • If I could go back in time, I would have made my happiness a priority. Oh well. Hindsight is 20/20.

    Letting go of the past and past mistakes is easier said than done; however, once you let go, you will be free. I wish I would have let go sooner, but better late than never.

    I would add to the list, “Love yourself.” You are the most important person in your life so LOVE you.

  • An amazing post! I appreciate this one a lot.

  • This is a lovely article. Thank you.

  • I wish I would have learned that a realtionship in which the other party has feelings for someone else should NEVER be persued. I wish that I has learned sooner my self worth, value, and cost of happiness. I wish I would have learned to never settle for second best in a realtionship and to have realized that I am worth so much more. If someone can not love you with their all they don’t love you at all.

  • This is a good list of ideas, very common sense and helpful. I especially like the advice to ‘be the person you want to be around’ and ‘weeding out negative in favor of positive’.

    Once, in a bad mood and grumpy, I found myself in a 7-11 and sort of waiting for an opportunity to snap at someone. As I waited in line, the guy in front of me acted like a total bastard toward the cashier.

    For some reason, watching this guy be so rude and insensitive to a kid gave me an epiphany: Who in the world wants to be a negative influence in someone’s life?

    So - as you have surely foreseen the froo froo conclusion - I was nice and pleasant to the cashier and it made me (and him) feel better. Anytime I feel like being negative, I try to get past it and just be nice and I swear it makes me, and others around me, feel better.

    I think that - and as stated in the advice above - is really something to think about.

  • Wow what a timely post- I buried a close friend this weekend and definetely have re-valued and re-assessed how I spend my time. Family and friends are truly important and I want to be able to say “I’m glad I spent time with them” and have no regrets in not spending quality time with them.

    Really value your posts, especially in times like this.

  • As usual your ideas are wonderful. I am one the beneficiaries. Thanks a lot. My problem is I can’t be consistent and disciplined to practice what I learned here, or effectively use the plan and program I made for myself through experience and education. It could it be that I am born lazy and reluctant, because I always stumble and stall. Please, someone, send me your thoughtful advice. Thank you.

  • I know the list is of general ideas, but I would also add some concrete things such as doing something you love, spending time with those you love, and even getting exercise into your schedule.

  • Great post. Maybe a few qualifiers I see:

    Quality time is a marketing tool. I do not know of any timer, clock, watch etc that measures “quality time.” There is only time. 365 days a year, no matter how you slice it. Choose your time wisely.

    Pick a goal and start. No amount of planning will ever bear fruit if you do not start. Keep moving, and expect that changes in the plan are coming. Adjust and keep moving. And slap a big grin on your face as much as possible.

    Start by changing yourself. Once you change, other things must change as a result. If you are fighting with a loved one, try not fighting at all. Keep your mouth shut, no texts, no voicemails, no emails…just let it go. The fight may not end, but it will get quiet really fast when you go silent first. And you will learn that your stress went down, your attitude is better, and all you did was not participate.

    I missed out on a tremendous amount of opportunities in my younger days. From 15-25 I talked myself out of a lot of things that looking back were experiences everyone takes for granted. Yet the truly “crazy” chances I took in moving to South Carolina and then Texas for college shaped my whole life.

    I am staring out my office window, thinking of what I want to do for my next 44 years. We just bought a great new home that I found in a miracle chance of timing. Its my son’s first day of school. Big changes are all around me. And like the Led Zepplin song says “There’s a feeling I get, when I look to the West, and my spirit is crying for leaving.”

  • Another very timely post. Thank you.

    #4 Make your own happiness the priority, is probably the biggest thing on this list I’m working on right now. For way too long, my focus was on other people’s happiness at the expense of my own, thinking it would be reciprocated at some point. It used to make me happy seeing other people happy. I found joy and hope in it. And then it dragged on for so long, it got to where I resented their happiness and felt used because I was stuck in stagnated limbo while they moved forward and upward. Now I realize my own happiness has to be the priority, and if it helps someone else, that’s the bonus.

    Stagnation and limbo while their priorities take precedence just doesn’t work for me anymore, not when it’s to the point of making me miserable and preventing me from moving forward and upward as well.

    So I’m focusing on my own happiness now. I wish I’d set these boundaries sooner.

    The only thing I’d add is to #7. Though it’s important to spend lots of quality time with the people you love, it’s also important to spend lots of quality time with people who return your love. They’re not always the same thing.

  • This is a great list. I would add one thing. Live where you want to retire - don’t wait until you are too old to integrate and have community. Enjoy your favorite place throughout life, not just at the end.

  • Very motivating words. Wish I had found advice like this a bit sooner, would have saved me a lot of pain and confusion.

  • Thank you Marc, I have just been true to myself and admitted that I am lazy, though my intentions are good to become a Chartered Accountant, I am not giving it my best shot, I keep postponing to do my assignments till last minutes and I am not consistent in terms of studying. Though so far my year mark is bad but I’ll change how I do things and let go of bad habits.

  • I have been struggling this week as we all have those moments of self doubt. I am a fine art glassblower, creating installations for galleries and pieces for sale. As said before by Marc and Angel, it is about focusing that driving force but I’ve found that my experience is heavily based on how I function and perform physically and mentally, if i loose concentration for a second a piece shatters, that piece of art held my breath, the shape of my hand, the force of gravity transfixed in a moment. When i stare at the broken shards of glass on the floor I only see my reflection and frustration, so i pick up the pipe and start again with another molten ball of glass.

    To add to the conversation above: there was a little bit mentioned about sitting on discomfort & regret. I’d like to highlight this point because Marc and Angel make the best statement here, this is the most important key to finding your path. It’s all about exposing ourselves to the universe, allowing vulnerability while detaching from our minds for a moment. I believe we should push the moments of feeling out of body, being lost, sitting with pain in the heart, allowing the tears. I think it’s important to acknowledge that they are necessary they will happen it’s inevitable. We are so quick to judge how negative a feeling can be but the boson particle or god particle in science is a prime example: positive and negative space and matter exists as a duality, inherently acting at the same time. See pain as a great thing, it’s the one thing that will force you to see through different eyes.

    Thanks Marc and Angel needed this one today.

  • I really enjoyed this article. It’s so nice to the reminder to keep moving forward. I think we all have fear in our lives that limits us. It good to realize that life is short and simply an experiment in living. There are no right or wrong ways, just possibilities.

  • As always, love your words. Spending time doing what you love is vital. Spending time with people you love is a great gift. Never take these things fro granted, we never know what the future may bring. Thank you!

  • Thanks Marc, this is a great list. It resonates very much with me. I will add a little to point number 7. I would say let the people who you love and appreciate know that you love and appreciate them. I learned this lesson many years ago when I lost my mum to armed robbers. I did not spend a good portion of my first 5 years with my parents I lived with my grandma. When I started living with my mom, I would wish I could hug her and tell her how much I loved her but I never got to do it. I know this may sound strange to some people but that is what happened. You can imagine how I felt when one 5 years after I came back home and my mum was gone. I never really do all that I wanted to do with regards to expressing my love and appreciation. Since then, I try to let people around me know how much I love them and appreciate them.

    One other thing I regret is not starting my current blog one year ago! I am glad that I eventually started.

  • I appreciate every thoughtful article that you post and for the emails that you send me; your words always keep me motivated, it’s like… Actually you are my cyber mentor! I thank you! :)

  • I love this article but #7 jumps right out at me.

    I am originally from Barbados and I now live in Canada. I was raised by the people my community.

    My grandmother raised me but all the elders in the community in some special way influenced me.

    Today I spend time with my 3 grand children. I a 10 years old granddaughter, a 5 year old grandson and a 3 month old granddaughter.

    I believe I am like the community that raised me so I am always available to take my grandchildren to soccer, karate, to attend concerts and award ceremonies, etc.

    The interesting thing is that my grandchildren know that I will be there for them no matter what.

    It is so much fun to have this connection and I feel blest.

    Peace.

  • My biggest regret is that I moved a thousand miles away from my family to marry my husband 38 years ago. I missed so much time with my parents, and their grandkids missed out too. My mother once told me, ‘you don’t owe anybody anything’. She was so supportive. They both passed away two years ago, and I wish I could have spent more time with them. But the time we did spend was quality, more than quantity. You can’t live life without having some regrets, but you can’t be afraid to make choices.

  • One of the things that I regret not doing sooner is taking the world a little less seriously. For the longest time, I was continuously wrapped up in the latest worry and latest aggravation. It wasn’t until recently that I learned how to let go and enjoy my surroundings just a little more. Thank you for reminding all of us to take a deep breath and smell the roses. :)

  • I love your approach of turning around regret to work on not having any regrets in the future.

    The point about making your own happiness a priority really resonates with me. Especially when my children were younger and I had just started my career I didn’t spend any time on myself. I knew something was missing, and I discovered that it was some kind of creative endeavor. That’s when I started playing guitar and spending some alone time just for me. I’m glad it didn’t take me too long to realize that I need to have a creative outlet.

  • I regret not realizing that it is the accumulation of little achievements and changes that make the difference. For too long I was trying to make big changes all at once and it never worked.

  • The word “Fantastic” best describes this article.

  • @J.J.: That’s inspiring. So glad you had the resolve to do it.

    @Ema: Cheers to second chances. Beautiful story. Thank you.

    @Valerie: One step at a time… it’ sounds like you making impressive progress. I’m glad we could be part of your inspiration for positive change.

    @maga: I agree; not trying to control the uncontrollable is a big one.

    @Michael: Excellent motto. I use the same one quite often. =)

    @Anne-Sophie: Inspiring story. Thanks for sharing. I used to struggle with my self-image as well. It’s so nice to grow beyond it.

    @Ragnar: I couldn’t agree more with your point on perception. We must give things a fair chance. First impressions aren’t always correct.

    @Ania: Congrats. And good luck with your new venture.

    @Amandah: As always, thanks for the insight. And yes, loving yourself is key.

    @Michelle: I’m sorry you went through that toxic relationship experience. People will show you their true colors eventually. It’s sounds like you have learned the lessons you need to take a step forward. I hope you are in a better place now.

    @Damien: I try to be as positive as I can be, especially when I’m around people who don’t look happy. I love the way your handled that situation at 7-11. Makes me smile just hearing about it.

    @All: As always, thanks so much for keep the conversation alive. I’m going jump back in here tomorrow and reply to the rest of your comments. I want to make sure I give each of you time and thought you deserve.

  • Inspiring post for those who are confused and fed up with life. Thank you sir.

  • #4 Make your own happiness a priority;
    #7 Spend lots of quality time with the people you love;
    #8 Appreciate the life you have now.

    These are the things I’m focusing on right now. At age 43, I think I went through hell and back - got widowed at age 30, raised my 8 yr old son then on my own, had a job that assigned me to far places. And just recently had a bout with severe migraine brought about by anxiety and depression. This recent experience made me realize that I was living a life that is centered on people around me that I forgot that I have to live my life for myself. I just hope it’s not yet too late for me…

  • @Mirna: I’m sorry to hear about your loss, but it is inspiring to hear how you have decided to carry on. It’s all about spending time with those you love, today, not tomorrow.

    @dereje: It’s all about starting small. Pick one of the principles on this list and work on it slowly. Don’t overwhelm yourself. Just focus on one step at a time.

    @David Rapp: Excellent points, as always. Reminds me of the notion that we can only connect the dots going backwards, not forwards. Therefore, we must do the best with what’s in front of us and leave the rest to the powers above us.

    @Melissa Webster: Good luck on your happiness journey; that’s inspiring to hear. Also, I agree with your final point – love in a relationship needs to be a two-way street.

    @Mary Lee: This is precisely how Angel and I live our lives. We plan for the future diligently, but not at the expense of the present. In other words, we work towards goals, but enjoy and appreciate each step of the journey.

    @Konke: Just get started. =) Good luck. I wish you the very best. Give us a progress update in a future post.

    @Jessica Schimpf: Thanks for sharing your story. I love the visuals of the shattered glass. Also, your remark on the duality of positives and negatives is so important. Thanks for expanding on our points.

    @Mr Wisdom: I’m sorry to hear about the loss of your mom. It is however inspiring to hear how that has changed your perception of how you treat the people you love. And congrats on the blog. Lookin’ good. =)

    @Cecil McIntosh: Sounds like beautiful relationships between you and your grandchildren. Thanks for sharing your story.

    @Joan: You surely have the right mindset. I’ve lost several people I care about as well, and I try to do the same thing. I focus on the quality of the time we spent together, and it usually makes me smile.

    @Amelia Williams: Excellent point. Laugh when you can. Most of the things that annoy us are actually pretty funny if you look at them right.

    @CJ Rising: Glad you found your way to your creative outlet. This is something I discuss with people on a regular basis. So many of us forget that we are all creative creatures that need to let loose sometimes and simply play and create.

    @Barbara: We all struggle with this sometimes. I always say to myself: “One step. Just this one step counts right now, Marc.”

    @binky delfin: It’s not too late. The fact that you realize there is a need for change means you have already taken a huge step in the right direction. Make time for yourself. What do you want going forward? There are plenty of opportunities in front of you. I wish you the best. Please check back in with us on a future post and let us know how things are going.

    @All: Again, thank you! Your stories and insights truly move me. Angel and I love reading your comments together and discussing them. Now I’m off to finish up tonight’s post. :)

  • I have been reading your blog ever since… but this post about 9 things I will regret not having done sooner is kind of a huge bang WAKE UP CALL! Although knowing every single truth already, it hit me and I had to print it out.

    I am now more focused and go tiny little steps forward, better than none. Thanks for the final wake up call!

    Regards from Germany, Tina

  • This is so true!

  • Although all of your posts inspire me, this one will join a few others as bookmarks on my computer. I loved it!

  • All I got to say is, this made my day. Your thoughts here truly addressed a few of my biggest worries one by one… Thanks from the bottom of my heart.

  • This gave me the motivation to do what is best for me. I feel much better after standing up for myself and have noticed that my daughter also feels happier now that I am happier. Thank you.

  • Yes. I totally agree. Let go of your resentment. It’s not easy, but it will make you feel a whole lot better. Life starts NOW. Being in the moment is liberating. It’s always fresh and exciting.

    It’s good know that past issues can be resolved. Ongoing issues can be successfully managed if you work at it. Turn negative events into positive experiences. It mostly has to do with your own emotions and validating the other person’s feelings. Live your life with the attitude that everyone deserves to be happy. Everyone needs to be feel appreciated . . . especially the people you love.

  • Thank you for writing this post. I enjoy reading your blog. I also like reading the comments.

  • People see a “good job” as a job that pays well..But if your job is NOT something you are passionate about Then it is NOT paying you anywhere near enough in the long run.

  • Marc and Angel,

    I have read much and written a lot about happiness, but this list gets right down to the heart of what counts. I’m off to share it.

    I would add to this list, “Read Marc and Angel Hack Life” daily.

  • Very interesting read. I’m only 20 and I’m glad I’m engrossing myself in positivity because it’s the only way we succeed. I wish I understood sooner that being uncomfortable is better than being comfortable. I guess I was brought up in a safe environment where I was never really pushed to face up to my fears, hence I cared so much about what people thought of me, I never really knew who I was. Right now I feel like I’ve been given another chance to shine bright. I suppose every day brings a brand new opportunity to be amazing. Nothing in life is easy, just accept it and be courageous enough to look into the unknown.

  • Waoo, you have up-lifted my spirit here. I felt as if I had lost many opportunities in my life, but after reading this I realized that no opportunity is lost on me till I am dead. Thank a lot, I think my moto is now “never say it’s the end” - keep on pushing.

  • If you read ALL of this (all 9 points completely) then it will be the FIRST thing that you will not regret doing…

    That’s my no.10 for the list.

    I’m glad I read it, I hope I act on it - it covered most of the things that have us ‘not do’ the things we should.

    If I could add one more thing …. That thing we know as ’self criticism’ or for some ’self loathing’ …. it’s not how others see you … no one can make you feel this way unless you give them permission to do so. Give yourself permission to see yourself as others do. When they pay you a compliment, they have taken the time out of their busy thoughts to say those things - they do mean what they say (don’t take that positive remark any other way). You are a significant part of the lives of those around you. How much and how effective you want that to be, is your choice - you are LOVED - learn to LOVE YOURSELF!

  • Most of your posts involve letting go of what you cannot change and leaving people who do not want to be a part of your life. What if that person is your son. How do you do that? It’s been three years since I have heard from my son and he has made sure no one in our family can contact him. I can’t move on even though it is the only choice I have. I have so many other things to be grateful for but I feel like I can never be truly happy again.

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