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30 Lessons to Excel in Life in Your 30s and Beyond


30 Lessons to Excel in Life in Your 30s and Beyond

“The trouble is if you don’t spend your life yourself,
other people spend it for you.”
―Peter Shaffer

Every summer, like clockwork, after high school and college graduation ceremonies send new graduates trotting off into the real world, Angel and I receive a few hundred emails from eager late teen and early 20-something subscribers (subscribe here) that basically ask the same fundamental question:

“What do you suggest I learn or work on now that I’m out of school and on my own?”

Obviously, a comprehensive list of important lessons and life skills could be infinite.  And over the years Angel and I have written several articles like “18 Things I Wish Someone Told Me When I Was 18” and “25 Things I Would Tell My 20-Year-Old Self” geared to give the 18 to 22 crowd something positive to think about.  But every time we write an article like these for the youngsters, we inevitably receive a few hundred more emails that say something like, “I loved the article, but what about an article for my age bracket?”

So today, for graduates, 30-somethings, and beyond, here’s a list of general lessons and life skills Angel and I work on every single day – a list worth growing into and working on for the rest of your adult life:

  1. You have to stand beside yourself, 100%, every day. – Self-respect, self-worth and self-love.  There’s a reason they all start with “self.”  You can’t receive them from anyone else.  You are GOOD enough, SMART enough, ATTRACTIVE enough, and STRONG enough.  Believe it!  Own it!  And never let insecurity and negativity run your life.  There will always be someone who tells you that you can’t do something.  Your mission is to smile and prove them wrong.  One smile at a time.
  2. Nothing great ever comes from a comfort zone.  Period. – If you want to stunt your growth and feel stuck in the same place forever, keep making excuses.  If, on the other hand, you want to stop feeling trapped, you have to start doing things that make you uncomfortable – things you aren’t very good at.  There is no excuse for remaining stuck.  There is no excuse for doing the same exact mundane things over and over again.  Life is too short.  Ask yourself if what you’re doing today is getting you closer to where you want to be tomorrow.  What a disgrace it would be for you to grow old without ever seeing the beauty and strength of your full potential.
  3. Fight for it.  Do what’s right, not what’s easy. – Short-term adversity and failure are two of the surest stepping-stones to life-long success.  Things can change if you want them to, at any age.  As I awoke this morning, I marveled at my life today.  Where once I woke with dread at the thought of a new day, now I wake with excitement to begin – grateful to be doing what I’m doing for a living.  I am so happy I did what I had to do, and struggled through the tough times and the fears, and realigned my life with the things that make me happy.  When friends ask me how I did it, as they sometimes do, I tell them, “Hard work and persistence.  It’s a small price to pay for a changed life.”
  4. Be a beacon of honesty and respect. – Be the type of person you want to meet and be around.  Be the type of person whose actions, words and values always agree with each other.
  5. Neglecting your interests and passions is self-deception. – Doing so is like pretending to be someone you’re not – living a lie.  Don’t do it.  Live a life you are proud of.  Follow your excitement.  When you lose yourself in the things you love, you will find yourself there, too.  (Read The 4-Hour Workweek.)
  6. Challenge yourself to beat your own personal records. – No one can do it for you – you have to choose to use your wings.  Challenge yourself to be who you know you are capable of being.  Challenge yourself to follow through – to live what you preach, to walk your talk.  Don’t worry about how slowly you feel you’re heading towards your goals, or how many roadblocks you find, or how many detours you’re forced to take.  As long as you keep doing your thing, you’re still cruising far ahead of everyone who’s too scared to even try.
  7. Your struggles are really your best growth opportunities. – Know in your heart that there is strength inside you that is greater than the troubles you face.  Stay strong.  Be positive.  We all struggle sometimes.  Life’s about breaking our own limits and outgrowing ourselves to live our best lives.  The more obstacles you overcome, the stronger you become.  The one who falls and gets up is so much stronger than the one who never fell.  You will honestly never know how strong you truly are until being strong is the only choice you have.  Keep going.  Keep growing.
  8. Your alleged flaws will often work for you. – The little things about you that you think are your flaws are often the reasons others fall in love with you.  Accept your flaws.  Admit your mistakes.  Don’t hide and don’t lie.  Deal with the truth, learn the lessons, endure the consequences of reality, and move forward.  Your truth won’t penalize you.  The mistakes won’t hurt you.  The denial and cover-up will.  Flawed and vulnerable people are beautiful and likable.  Liars and phonies are not.  Every beautiful human being is made entirely of flaws, stitched together with good intentions and finished with unique qualities.
  9. Let go and grow.  Embrace change. – Always respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that holds you back and no longer grows you. Thank your past for all the lessons, and move forward.  By leaving behind your old self and taking a leap of faith into the unknown, you find out who you’re truly capable of becoming.  You can’t grow unless you’re willing to change.  You will know you’re on the right track when you become uninterested in looking back.
  10. Work through your fears and take calculated risks. – No matter how long you get to live, life is relatively short.  And before you know it, you’re going to be dust.  And the janitor gets buried next to the doctor.  And all that really matters in the end is how big you showed up and how bold you were.  Because when you’re taking your final breath, what will fill your heart with the greatest regret will not be all the risks you took, and not all the opportunities you chased, and not all the times you fell on your face and looked like a fool.  What will fill your heart with the greatest regret in that final moment is all the risks you never took and all the opportunities you never had the courage to explore.
  11. Balance your time with your priorities. – There will always be more than one option and more than one obligation competing for your time.  You must find the balance that works best for you in your unique situation – the right balance between activity and rest, work and family, passion and money, short-term and long-term goals, getting things done and leaving them undone.  Without balance everything falls out of whack.  For instance, when you let your work life, or social life, or family life consume you, and 100% of your energy is focused in that one area, every other area of your life suffers.  Maybe that’s OK with you.  Maybe not.  But you need to decide and manage your time accordingly.
  12. A small attitude change always makes a BIG difference. – Those who move forward with a positive spirit will find that things always work out.  In any situation, it’s not your specific circumstances that shape you, it’s how you react to your circumstances.  You can’t direct the wind, but you can always adjust your sails.  When it rains look for rainbows, when it’s dark out, look for stars.  Making a habit of this takes time and practice, but the positive effects will change the trajectory of your life.
  13. Stop from time to time and ask yourself, “Is it true?” – It’s funny how humans can wrap their mind around things and fit them into their version of reality.  Thinking something does not make it true.  Wanting something does not make it real.  So watch your thoughts.
  14. Put as much positive energy as you can muster into the present. – Be at peace with what has been.  Doing so enables you to focus your energy into making the best of what can be.  Get beyond your worries about what may or may not happen, or what other people might think of you.  Invest yourself in the real and present actions you can take to make a positive difference.  Your life is too important to waste on things you can’t do anything about.  Put your efforts into present opportunities.  Feel love instead of fear, joy in the place of worry, and focus on your possibilities instead of your resentments.  Imagine your life at its best, and bring the best to your life.
  15. Let needless stress rest in peace. – Would you like to have less stress in your life?  Then quit creating it.  Rather than jumping at the chance to be offended, choose to be amused.  Instead of filling your thoughts with resentment, fill your heart with forgiveness.  If someone is rude to you, let it be that person’s personal problem and not yours.  Quickly grow beyond each disappointment, while savoring and sharing each joy.  Life in general is what it is.  Yet your life in particular, and your experience of it, is the way you choose to live it.
  16. Many of your biggest questions can only be answered through experience. – Regardless of your age or stature, life is always filled with unanswered questions.  It is the courage to ask these questions and adventurously seek the answers that continues to give life meaning.  Have patience with everything that remains unresolved in your heart.  Try to love the unanswered questions themselves.  Do not demand all the answers; they cannot be given to you because you have to live through them.  It is a matter of experiencing everything.  Only when you do will you gradually, perhaps without even noticing it, find yourself arriving at the answers you seek.
  17. Make time every day to be alone. – Sometimes you need to be alone… not to be lonely, but to enjoy some free time just breathing and being YOU.  In order to be one with your relationships and life’s work, you have to turn away from the busyness of the world for a while.  You need to find solitude to refuel.  You must withdraw into your innermost self.  You need to ponder your successes and failures in seclusion; you need the sunshine and the moonlight to illuminate you without others to distract you, without the ongoing banter, face to face with your inner core, with only the sound of your heartbeat for company.
  18. There’s a maintenance cost for everything you own and hold on to. – We can speak in dollars – insurance, taxes and interest.  Or even in time – cleaning, updating and protecting.  But the hardest maintenance cost for most people is simply sentimental value.  We transfer our feelings and memories onto an object and decide we can’t let go because we’ll risk losing the feeling or memory.  Before long, we become surrounded by these visual reminders of our memories and no longer have room to make new ones.  It’s hard to move forward in your life when your past is crowding your present.  Bottom line:  Buy less crap and more new, enlightening experiences.  (Read The Joy of Less.)
  19. True wealth is NOT measured in money. – No matter where life takes you, big cities or small towns, you will inevitably come across others who think they know what’s best for you – people who think they’re better than you – people who think happiness, success and beauty mean the same things to everyone.  They’ll try to measure your worth based on what you have, instead of who you are.  But you know better than that – material things don’t matter.  Don’t chase the money.  Catch up to the ideas and activities that make you come alive.  Go for the things of greater value – the things money can’t buy.  What matters is having strength of character, an honest heart, and a sense of self-worth.  If you’re lucky enough to have any of these things, never sell them.  Never sell yourself short.
  20. Practice being mindful of your blessings. – You honestly never fully grasp how much someone means to you until the reality of their existence becomes an uncertain, immanent matter of life and death.  You never truly appreciate what you have in every little moment until you are faced with the possibility of not having another.  But try your hardest every day to appreciate what you have anyway.  Look around and be thankful for your life.  For your health, your family, your friends and your home.  Many people don’t have these things, and never will.
  21. Don’t hold your love in.  Let it out. – Where you invest your love, you invest your life.  Love without limits.  Love like there’s no tomorrow.  And if tomorrow comes, love again.  It’s this love that makes the impossible possible.
  22. There are right people and wrong people for you. – There are fake people, and those who are true friends.  There are people who take the heart out of you, and those who put it back.  You have a choice of who to spend time with.  True friends have an honest heart, and will go out of their way to help you when you need it most.  Stick with the people who never let you down and keep their promises.  You can’t fake that.
  23. Pay close attention to who really cares. – You have to allow yourself to be loved by the people who really love you, the people who really matter.  Far too often, we are blinded by our own pursuits of people to love us, people that don’t even matter in the grand scheme of things.  We waste our time and the people who truly do love us have to sit on the curb and watch us beg in the streets.  Don’t do this to yourself.  (Angel and I discuss this in detail in the “Relationships” chapter of 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.)
  24. Never be ashamed to speak up. – Don’t hold all your thoughts hostage.  Anything that’s true in your mind – feelings, fears, etc. – is mentionable to a good friend, and anything that’s mentionable can be more manageable.  When you can talk about how you feel, your thoughts become less overwhelming and scary, and more understood.  The good friends you trust with these important talks ultimately help you realize that you’re not alone in this world.
  25. Keep your envy in check. – When you feel flustered because someone has received the very thing you want, force yourself to remember how much you have already been given.  Remember that there’s plenty for everyone, and that everyone gets one dose at a time.  Remember that what happened to someone else has absolutely no bearing on what happens to you.  Your success is unique to you.  Remember that a wonderful thing has happened to this other person, and if you keep working and pushing forward, something wonderful will also happen to you at just the right time.
  26. Be selective in your battles.  Peace is often better than being right. – Sometimes we choose to be wrong, not because we really are wrong, but because we value our relationship more than our pride.  When two people who care about each other fight, both are wrong.  They have put some kind of superficial outcome over love and compromise.  The one who apologizes and makes up first, is the one who is right.
  27. When someone is unpleasant, they may just need your kindness. – Some people are rude as a way of crying for help.  They may not be conscious of it though, so their comments come across as attacks rather than requests.  Show a little love and concern.  Do something nice for them.  Just a simple “Are you okay?” or “Is there anything I can do to help you?” can work wonders in certain situations.  Resist the urge to judge or assume.  It’s hard to offer compassion when you assume you have them figured out.  Let them know they’re not alone.  People overcome the forces of negative emotions, like anger and hatred, when the counter-forces of love and support are in full effect.
  28. Learn who the liars are, and don’t let them affect you more than once. – Don’t lie to people who trust you, and don’t trust people who lie to you.  These negative relationships will never give you a positive life.  And whatever you do, don’t let the same exact people lie to you over and over again.  If someone fools you once, shame on them.  If someone fools you twice, shame on you.  If you catch someone lying to you, speak up.  Some people will lie to you repeatedly in a vicious effort to get you to repeat their lies over and over until they effectively become true.  Don’t partake in their nonsense.  Don’t let their lies be your reality.
  29. Don’t betray yourself by hating someone for betraying you. – Betrayal is a double-edged sword.  Not only do you feel betrayed by someone you trusted, you feel like you betrayed yourself for trusting this person in the first place.  You blame them and then you blame yourself.  If you feel betrayed, it’s important to release any feelings of hate at once.  By doing so the bitterness has no time to take root.  Only then can you begin the process of evaluating the real situation – perhaps a frightening possibility such as:  “My beloved doesn’t love me,” or perhaps a more innocuous realization:  “This was an honest mistake that deserves to be forgiven.”
  30. Keep the reckless expectation of perfection in check. – If you always look for perfection you will always look unhappy, in all walks of life.  And this is especially true for relationships.  So don’t berate people for not being perfect.  Admire them for not being fake.  Even though you probably get confused sometimes, you don’t really want your friends and lovers to be perfect.  What you do want is people you can trust, who treat you right – people you can act silly with, who love being around you as much as you love being around them.

Afterthoughts

If you’re struggling with any of these lessons and life skills, know that you are not alone.  Many of us are right there with you, working hard to feel better, think more clearly, and keep our lives and relationships on track.  This is precisely why Angel and I wrote our book, 1,000 Little Things Happy Successful People Do Differently.”  It’s filled with short, concise tips on how to do just that.  And believe it or not, Angel and I review a lot of our own material on a regular basis too, just to center our minds on these positive principles.

The bottom line is that it’s never too late to take a step in the right direction.  It’s never too late to become the person you are capable of being.  Things can change if you want them to, at any age.  Right now you have the opportunity of a lifetime.

Your turn…

What has life taught you that has helped you excel?

Think about all the things you would love to tell yourself if you could travel back in time to give your younger self some advice about life.

Please leave a comment below and share your insight with the community.

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35 Comments

  • Great advice as always! Thanks so much for this blog post!

    Number 27 is a challenge for me sometimes, especially when the negative / nasty person is giving me grief in a mocking way with a smile on their face. If I ask them “Are you okay?” they simply respond “I am just fine, but it seems like you are in a bad mood (or touchy, sensitive, etc.)”

    I still have not figured out how to deal with people like that, other than avoid them whenever possible.

    Thanks again for all you do here!

  • This could be my new favorite post! I think this is a great high-level summary of many of the core principles you discus in your book (which I love by the way). Simple explanations to a many of life’s biggest complexities. You two always write such uplifting posts. I truly appreciate what you do.

    Something life has taught me again and again: Great judgment comes from experience, and experience comes from lots of bad judgment.

  • Humility is a powerful virtue, but one that’s overlooked and often neglected entirely. This is something life has taught me that I would add to the list.

    The greatest leaders are usually the most humble. I don’t think that’s a coincidence.

    When we check our ego at the door it opens up an entire world of possibilities… because those who already know it all can learn nothing new.

    Thanks for another thought-provoking read.

  • I love your blog so much - the frequency, the content, and although similar themes regularly run through the posts, it’s always a fresh angle…always a great reminder of where to focus my energies. I never tire of it, and recommend it frequently on Facebook and Twitter.

    I think my favorites here were the ones about self-respect and gratitude. This post also reminds me of one of my favorite quotes. “I thought my life was a tragedy until I realized I had a choice.” I don’t even know who to attribute it to - it was on a page-a-day calendar I had many years ago. But it literally changed my life. Thanks again for all the great things you share.

  • Thank you for the lovely post and deep wisdom. Always appreciated!

    If I could tell myself anything a few years back, it would be that a careful consideration of what is important in life would lead to my being present in this now moment, and that as I am more present, things will start to work themselves out, without hassle. Following, my focus should be on enjoying every moment as much as possible, doing more of what I desire/enjoy, and doing less of what I do not regardless of status quo.

  • Awesome advice! I am a great fan of your posts! Content is so on point & truly magical!! Keep them coming!!! Evernoted! :)

  • Points 1 & 3 really resonated with me. It really boils down to self esteem and self love (#1). And much of it depends on the degree you are honest with yourself (#3).

    Check more about it - gameligit.com/self-esteem-foundation-joy-peace/

  • Great life lessons. Many of which I have learned over my 58 years. I will also second the comment about humility - a very important lesson to live by.

  • Great article! Items 2 & 14 really “spoke” to me. One thing that has really changed my life for the better is the decision to focus on what I want, as opposed to fighting what I don’t want. I tried doing the latter for too long and it just left me exhausted and depressed. But once I began doing the former, not only did I regain my sense of peace and joy, but my life began moving forward too.

  • One thing that has freed me from situations, if I care more than the person going through a situation and that person basically doesn’t care then I stop caring. I have learned that I can’t make anyone do anything, so I have to let it go.

  • I would tell myself, “It’s great and fulfilling to help and be there for others, but don’t lose yourself by always putting their needs above your own. Someday you will wonder what you could have accomplished if you had put some effort into yourself.”

  • I am SO glad I found your site! It was at a time when I really needed it most. I struggle with insecurities and low self-esteem from a mentally and verbally abusive mother. I have also recently lost my husband of 27 years. Life has dealt me blow after blow…. but I refuse to give in to it all… and push forward! Sure, I have had my “bad” days, but I am also ready to embrace this new life that’s ahead of me and begin to live again. I want to do things that I have never been able to do… to see places that I have never been able to see… and to be consistently happy and laugh every day (as is my nature). I’m ready to explore this new world!

    I have truly enjoyed your emails. They give me hope that I can really move on with my life. Your words make me happy and realize that I truly am not alone. I feel like I can tackle anything that comes my way!

    Thank you! :)

  • Awesome post!
    #9-Let Go and Grow; Embrace Change,
    #18-There’s a Maintenance Cost for Everything You Own and Hold On To and
    #21-Don’t Hold Your Love in Let it Out!

    This past year I’ve let go of so much crap I owned and also Toxic Relationships. All of which has made it possible to invest my love towards positive investments in my life.
    Thank you!

  • Learn to fight fairly-Do not avoid conflict. Embrace it. Address it. If you don’t like something or how someone is treating you, say so. Their response will tell you everything you need to know.

  • As always, this was a delight. I am trying (really trying!) to get my elderly parents to understand #18. Their house is crammed to overflowing with “crap” but they do not seem to have the energy for new experiences. It is sad - but I am choosing to view it as a cautionary tale.

    Thanks for the well articulated reminder!
    Denise

  • I love these!!! Sometimes we all need reminders. I still wish there was a print button so I could keep some of these close at hand. Thanks!

  • Awesome!! Where was this 25 years ago when I really needed it!

    I guess some other advice I received would be these tidbits:

    Do not get good at any job you do not want to do. If you get caught in this it can be difficult to get out of.

    No job is permanent. It will change, by internal or external forces (or both). Don’t freak out.

    You control the reactions to any situation. Don’t let anyone else tell you otherwise.

    Learn new skills whenever possible.

    Volunteer to help on projects that your are interested in. Offering to take notes is the fastest way into new areas.

    Decide if you are a specialist or a generalist. Both have pluses and minuses. I like to stay a generalist with lots of different skill sets, it makes me handy to have around.

    Get as close to the customers as you can. People who are good with customers are tougher to replace in hard times.

  • I agree with Sara, I’d print them and read at least one a day. Great advice. I lost my home and all my material possessions 5 years ago and ended up in a shelter with my dog. I’m 55 years old and have pulled my life back together using many of those same tips. I learned through my experience and have followed my passion which is writing. Check out my site if you would. Love some feedback.

  • JJ your favorite quote is amazing (i.e. “I thought my life was a tragedy until I realized I had a choice.”).

    After reading that quote, I realized that nearly all of my misery is entirely self created, but I am making changes daily in my thinking.

    Thank you so much for this blog. It is truly a life saver. I am working on a PhD in accounting, and I read this blog to keep myself motivated.

  • #28 and #29 have been hard for me lately. I was lied to repeatedly by my (now ex) partner. After each lie I’d catch him in, he’d tell me that the lie was a “reaction” to my “aggressive” way of communicating. He didn’t want to or mean to lie to me, he was merely responding to the environment I had created. I took this into consideration and altered the way I interacted with him, offering him ample opportunities to be honest to me in his own time and way. Eventually I came to realize that he was shirking any responsibility for the dishonesty and I had to let him go. Still, it continues to nag me and causes me to wonder if there’s something wrong with me. With him, the lies centered around a betrayal, so I have felt the sting of #29, kicking myself for putting my faith in someone who early on showed signs of not being trustworthy.

    Reading these lessons is helping me to understand that I need to stop flogging myself for this. Thank you.

  • I have to admit that I am one of those who have complained about older people being left out. So now, all I can say is Bravo!! This is an awesome list and one that I will read again and again. I don’t want to believe that life is over for me and these words have reminded me that it is still worthwhile in so many ways. Thank you!!

  • Wow great article indeed. I loved it..

  • Thanks. Great post!

  • One question… How come you know how to speak directly to me like you do? Wonderful…

  • I keep turning down jobs that would be good for me maybe 10 years ago, and I could do easily, and am looking for something that is better for me, but having trouble creating the chemistry with the hiring manager so they will hire me for something I have not 100% done, but am 80-90% there. Not enough people seem to take risks anymore, not even calculated ones! It’s frustrating.

  • Yep! I love the one about neglecting your own passions and desires. I used to do that all the time, I’d cover it up by finding a new boyfriend or through drinking and drugs. In the end, I kind of just couldn’t ignore it anymore. It had to happen, I had to finally get happy with being on my own and follow my passion! That’s exactly what I am doing. With that I have found more freedom than you can ever imagine, I write daily on my blog (The Daily Grow) and I help others to live a life of growth, change and freedom. Now that’s what I’ve been waiting for my whole life, yet I never thought I was good enough! Great article. I love stuff like this. Thank you

  • Number 9 is my weak point. Actually, sometimes its difficult to let go, & embrace change. Especially when you feel this is what you really want, but that thing isn’t for you.
    You always know the right combination of words to dole out to your people. Keep up the great job.

  • Such important reminders for all of us. Great life lessons! Thanks.

  • Great post! I love the Rainer Maria Rilke quote from Letters to a Young Poet, which I think fits well with this post.

  • One of my favorite life lessons that I continue to remind myself of is this, “If you argue for your limitations, then they are yours to keep”. There were many times when facing a challenge or a lofty goal that I was quick to say (verbally or non-verbally) “Oh, I could never do or achieve that…”. So, I was arguing for my limitations before I even tried to achieve it, or before I tried to develop a plan of action for making it possible to achieve. With those self limiting beliefs I was holding myself captive from personal achievements. I have since “stopped arguing for my limitations”, and now I have an open mind that considers how something could, or at least “may” be possible to achieve, rather than predetermining that it could not be possible. I now leave the window of possibility wide open because tomorrow may present new insights or solutions to expose, and thus dissolve what was merely self imposed limitations holding me back.

  • I am totally bookmarking this article to read it over and over again.
    We are always so “busy” existing that we forget to live. We have burning dreams that we ignore as if we are going to live forever. Great reminders!

  • @Tom Jenkins: Remember, you can’t take things too personally. Rarely do people do things because of you; they do things because of them.

    @Susan Rae: Exactly what we talk about in our most recent post… experience is what you get when your plans don’t go as planned, and experience is the most valuable commodity you own – it builds strength and character.

    @J.J.: Great quote!

    @P Libby: All these circumstances have helped you press forward, stronger, and with a greater understanding and respect for life. You are an inspiration! =)

    @David Rapp: As always, great additions. Thank you!

    @Juanita Raz: I am looking forward to checking out your site this week. =)

    @Charles: Persistence and dedication… you’re doing GREAT!

    @Person: I am a firm believer that not only are you marketing yourself in interviews, but companies are being interviewed by you at the same exact time. Don’t settle. The more curious you are, the more possibilities you will open throughout your lifetime. What do you want to know more about? (BTW, I love your take.)

    @All: As always, thank you for the encouraging words and support!

  • Thank you for this. It totally resonates to what I have written recently that the best thing in life is knowing we will all die eventually. Puts everything into a certain perspective. Its a way of reminding yourself what is important and what is not.

  • As well said ..”Peace is often better than being right” – Sometimes we choose to be wrong, not because we really are wrong, but because we value our relationship more than our pride. When two people who care about each other fight, both are wrong. They have put some kind of superficial outcome over love and compromise. The one who apologizes and makes up first, is the one who is right.

  • OMG! Breathtaking and profoundly deep post. So helpful. All I can say is Marc and Angel, may God bless you both.

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