“There’s a vivid, beautiful, priceless piece of art hanging right in front of you. It’s sophisticated and detailed – a painstaking labor of deep devotion and love. The colors and textures are like no other – they soar and dip, they shine bright and leap right out at you! And yet you choose to fixate your eyes on the tiny, dark housefly that has landed on the edge this masterpiece. Why would you choose to do such a thing?”
She cracked a half smile in my direction and then shifted her gaze down to the ground.
“Look,” I said, “the point here is that there’s no possible way to be 100% certain about anything in this world. Life, like good art, is sophisticated, complex and unpredictable. So you’re left with a choice: either appreciate it and look for the beauty in it, or focus on the worst and dwell on it.”
But if you expect the worst, you’re never disappointed,” she said under her breath.
“Yeah, but who really lives like that?” I replied. “No one – that’s who! People die slowly every day like that, without ever truly living!”
That’s the gist of a Skype conversation I had recently with a new course student, who also attended our 2016 Think Better, Live Better seminar (I’m sharing this with her full permission). She literally started the conversation by telling me that expecting negative things to happen is her way of coping with life’s challenges. If you can relate in any way at all, it’s time to revamp your mindset.
And make no misunderstanding about it, when you are feeling down in the dumps, the battle you are going through isn’t fueled by the words or actions of others, and it isn’t fueled by what did or didn’t happen in the past either. It’s fueled entirely by your mind that gives negativity a voice.
Believing in negative thoughts and acting on them is the single greatest barrier to living a good life.
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, the mind is your battleground. It’s the place where the fiercest and most ruthless conflict resides. It’s where half of the things you feared were going to happen, never actually happened. It’s where your expectations always get the best of you. It’s where you fall victim to your own train of thought time and time again.
And if you allow these self-defeating thoughts to dwell in your mind, they will succeed in robbing you of peace, joy, productivity, meaning, and ultimately your life. You will think yourself into endless disappointment, heartache, and even depression.
Bottom line: You are what you think! And you can’t change anything if you can’t change your thinking.
But are you ready for the silver lining?
YOU CAN change the way you think.
And if you can change the way you think, you can master a new way to be.
In the video clip below, recorded live at our annual Think Better, Live Better seminar, we share five powerful strategies that will adjust your mindset and ultimately allow you to live a better life.
5 Smart Ways to Master Your Mindset
Note: If you’d like attend next year’s Think Better, Live Better 2017 seminar on February 18-19 in South Florida, you can get info and tickets for Think Better, Live Better 2017 here.
Think Better, Live Better!
All details aside, an effective mindset is one that makes the best use of all your available resources – your time, energy, opportunities, etc. – and uses them to support growth and positive change. It’s not about trying to do everything and be everything. And it’s not about living a perfect life. It’s about being present, being accepting, and making the very best of what’s in front of you.
Your mindset is the keystone and bedrock for everything that happens in your life. As you work to adjust your mindset, here’s what you can expect from striking the right balance:
- A strong sense of purpose, confidence, and faith
- Consistent motivation, drive and commitment to meaningful pursuits
- Clear, objective insight into current obstacles and opportunities
- A feeling of peace and contentment from making consistent daily progress
I hope all that sounds like something worth working on. Because it truly is.
What kinds of negative, self-defeating thoughts sometimes dwell in your mind?
What small changes would you like to make to your mindset?
Leave a comment below and share a piece of your story with us.
And finally, please be sure to check out Think Better, Live Better 2017. It’s taking place February 18-19, 2017, and it’s going to be a fun, life-changing experience. You can get info and tickets here, and note that discounted early bird tickets are presently available (while they last).