In continuing the short series of articles I’m writing to give other “groom’s to be” some wedding advice based on my recent experience, let’s discuss the rehearsal dinner. The parents of the groom are responsible for hosting the rehearsal dinner, but the groom should be assisting with the whole operation. The goal should be converting the rehearsal dinner into more than just a big dinner. Think music, humorous roasts and speeches, and possibly some dancing. No, this isn’t your reception, but it can be an exciting precursor to the festivities that lay ahead. Most people go out to dinner once a week, so forget about a rehearsal dinner and throw a rehearsal party.
If friends and family have already traveled from all different geographic locations, why give them merely a single night of excitement. Instead of limiting access to include only the wedding party, invite all the family from both sides and a few of your closest friends. Rent out the patio area at a local restaurant or country club, bring some tunes, and jazz-up the setting with a few decorations. Host a two hour open bar for your guests, and provide a decent buffet. This doesn’t have to cost a fortune. Three to five thousand dollars should cover a guest list of 60 people.
You can also prearrange some activities, like requesting that a few of your guests roast either you or your “bride to be”. It will get both sides of the family talking and laughing, which will make the following night, your wedding night, a setting filled with familiar faces from everyone’s perspective. If everyone sees familiar faces at your wedding, everyone will feel comfortable, and then everyone will drink, dance, and have an absolute blast. That should be the ultimate goal. It’s just another suggestion on how the groom can help coordinate a little wedding planning that doesn’t involve girly flowers and cake, but garners huge points in everyone’s eyes.
Next week I’ll continue the series of wedding advice for the groom that he might just enjoy.