Archives for December 2012

Life is change; it is forever moving.  Staying stuck is a choice.

For it is a choice, not a chance, that determines your destiny.  The road may be long, but it’s wide open.  As Lao Tzu once said, “The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.”  If you don’t like the way your life is at the moment, you have the choice to change it.  Actually, you owe it to yourself to change it.  But you can only shift your current situation one small step at a time.

In other words, to get through even the most difficult times and circumstances you need to take baby steps, and you must keep on stepping.

So if you feel stuck right now, it means you aren’t stepping.  And it’s probably because…

1. You haven’t taken responsibility for your circumstances. – Too many people have a habit of blaming their circumstances or mistakes on bad fate or bad luck.  Too few will admit that their situation is a direct outcome of the choices they’ve made.  In life, this is the foundation you need to correct in order to grow.  You must accept your current situation, take responsibility for it, learn from it, make the necessary changes, and move forward.  Read The Road Less Traveled.
2. You’ve given in to your fears. – If you’re doing big things and pushing for your dreams, you are bound to encounter situations that scare you and make you feel uncomfortable.  So what.  Move forward with gusto.  Remember that the extent to which we sometimes allow fear to rule our lives is truly startling and unnecessary.  Especially when you consider one very important fact about fear: It’s a total figment of your imagination.
3. You continue to ignore your calling. – What you seek, whether you realize it or not, is the actual feeling of being ALIVE and LIVING your life your own way.  You don’t have to satisfy everyone else.  You just have to [Read more…]

Now well into my 30s, there are several good habits I’m thankful I started in my 20s, and several more I wish I had started a decade ago.  If you’re still in your 20s, or even if you’re not, I challenge you to implement the habits below into your daily routine, one at a time, starting today.  A year from now, I guarantee you’ll appreciate the results.

1. Focus on the activities and people that make you happy. – Sometimes we make things complicated when they are really quite simple:  Find what it is that makes you happy and spend more time doing it.  Find who it is that makes you smile and spend more time with them.  Living your dream is really just a state of mind.  It’s feeling comfortable in your own skin, and realizing that where you are at any given moment is exactly where you want to be.  Thus, happiness and success in life is simply the gratifying combination liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking who you do it with.  Read Stumbling on Happiness.
2. Trust your instincts on new opportunities. – Life is too short to wait.  Every new day is another chance to change your life.  Every great accomplishment starts with the decision to try.  Trust that little voice inside your head that says, “What if…” and then GO DO IT.  You would be [Read more…]