You think 60,000 thoughts a day. Don’t waste 59,999 of them on limited, negative, unproductive thinking.
A person does not have to be behind bars to be a prisoner. People can be prisoners of their own concepts, choices and ideas. This is how countless intelligent people waste the majority of their lives. It’s sad, but true.
As life coaches, Marc and I speak with these people every day, and every single day the same thinking traps reveal themselves. And not surprisingly, when we bring these thinking traps to the attention of our clients, most of them can’t see their faults, at least not initially. Because it’s hard to admit that the way you’ve been doing things for the past decade or more has been holding you back.
So that’s what I want to discuss with you today – nine of the most common (and heartbreaking) signs that you’re wasting your life in a mindset that’s keeping you trapped, and some tips to help you take a step forward.
Even if you are generally comfortable with your present life, take a look at the list below. As I’ve said, many of the people we’ve worked with over the years, who came to us because they felt stuck, initially refused to admit that they carried these beliefs and behaviors, even when the evidence stacked against them was undeniable. It’s worth taking a few minutes to see if any of these points are holding you back from your full potential.
1. You’ve spent lots of time recently thinking you aren’t good enough.
Give up your limiting beliefs about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible. From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place.
A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind. Know this. There will NEVER be a perfect time to pursue your dreams and goals. You will never feel 100% ready, because you will never be 100% complete. You’re growing every day. You just have to find faith in yourself right now. Faith means living with uncertainty, feeling your way through life, letting your intuition guide you like a flashlight in the dark.
What if, for today, you choose to believe that you have enough, you are enough, and that you’ve come far enough to be worthy? What if, for today, you choose to believe that you are strong enough, wise enough, kind enough, and loved enough to move forward? What if, as the sun sets on today, you choose to believe that you did a pretty good job? And what if tomorrow morning, you choose to believe it all over again?
2. You’ve been busy trying to satisfy everyone else’s expectations.
Way too many people are living a life that’s not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them… they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them… to what their friends, their enemies, their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice and intuition. They are so busy pleasing everyone else, with living up to other people’s expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need… and eventually they forget about themselves altogether.
You have one life – this one right now. You must live it, own it, and above all, NOT let other people’s opinions distract you from your truth. (Read Choose Yourself!)
3. You catch yourself complaining about things constantly.
Your constant need to complain about those many, many, many things – people, situations, events, etc. – is doing nothing but making you unhappy and depressed.
Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. This may be hard to accept, but it’s the truth. Your life is as YOU see it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking (and positive action).
4. You have a habit of blaming everyone else.
Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving your power away and start taking responsibility for your life.
Either you own your problems, or they will own you. Period.
5. You’ve been more focused on not failing than actually succeeding.
You are comfortable with mediocrity – you choose not to try. Because it’s safer. Because it’s easier to talk about learning that new skill as opposed to actually learning it. Because you think everything is too hard or too complicated so you will just “sit this one out,” or maybe you’ll “do it someday.” Because you hate your job but won’t apply for a new one – because it’s easier to reject the possibility of rejection.
Snap out of it!
While you’re sitting around failing to try, you really need to be out there trying to fail, challenging yourself, learning new things and failing forward as fast as possible. Your desire to succeed must overpower your fear of failure. Because if you are too afraid of failure, you can’t possibly do what needs to be done to be successful. (Read The Up Side of Down.)
6. You are stuck on wanting to be right.
There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong, wanting to always be right, even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain in our personal and professional lives. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the burning desire to jump into a fight over who’s right and who’s wrong, ask yourself these questions:
- “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?”
- “What difference will it make?”
- “Is my ego really that big?”
Bottom line: You are an ever-changing work in progress, and so is everyone else. You don’t have to always be right, you just have to not be too worried about being wrong. Screwing up, for all of us, is part of the growth process. Being wrong and looking like a fool sometimes is the only path forward.
7. You keep letting your fear decide your future.
Fear is a feeling, not a fact. It’s just an illusion that doesn’t exist – you created it. It’s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place.
As Franklin D. Roosevelt so profoundly said, “The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.” Know this. Never let your fear decide your future. Let your dreams be bigger than your fears and your actions louder than your words.
No risk, no reward. No pain, no gain. You’ve heard this before.
Human beings don’t become wise by reading books and thinking about things – they become educated. Living out experiences firsthand in the real world, one day at a time, is what gives birth to wisdom. Ultimately wisdom is what you get when you test out the waters for yourself. This kind of life experience is the most valuable asset you own.
Sometimes on the road to acquiring wisdom life will beat you down, but you have to stand back up. Because nothing is more beautiful and powerful than a soul who has weathered and grown through life’s difficulties. Don’t regret your time, even the moments that were filled with hurt. Smile because you learned from it all and because you gained enough strength to rise above it all. In the end, it’s not what you have been through that matters; it’s how you got through it that defines your life and your legacy. (Marc and I discuss this in detail in the “Adversity” chapter of 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.)
8. You believe the best is behind you.
You have to let the past GO! I know, I know… it’s not easy. Especially when the past looks so much better than the present, and the future looks so uncertain. But you have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have. And the past you are now longing for – the past that you are now dreaming about – was mostly ignored by you when it was present. Don’t do this to yourself again.
Don’t waste your present with a past that has no future.
9. You’ve been actively resisting change.
As Oscar Wilde so profoundly said, “To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all.”
Living a positive life hinges on your ability to accept the fact that everything is constantly moving forward, away from everything that previously existed. Not only do you have to emotionally detach from the past, but you also have to willingly thrust yourself forward into the unknown. You have to open yourself to trying new things, especially those that you may previously never have thought of doing, or had been too hesitant to attempt. This is how you open doors of opportunity for positive growth.
So many people live within the confines of unhappy situations and yet refuse to take the initiative to change their circumstances. They are conditioned to believe that the only choice is the current choice, because it’s the life they know. Their comfort zone blinds them from the truth – that nothing is more damaging to the human spirit than a mind that resists progress and change.
All of your personal growth and much of your joy in life will come from your encounters with new experiences, and hence there is no greater commitment than to embrace an endlessly changing horizon.
The floor is yours…
If you can relate to any of these points, remember, you are not alone. We all struggle with faulty mindsets that sneak up on us sometimes and keep us running in place. The key is awareness – recognizing these thinking traps and stopping them before they stop us.
So, which of the points in this post do you sometimes struggle with? What thoughts, choices and behaviors get in your way of stepping forward? How have you coped? Leave a comment below and share your thoughts and insights.
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Kevin B. says
Great post and is exactly what I was meditating on in my journal this morning. I can’t agree more with your first two points – specifically, not believing in yourself enough to believe you need the approval of others to lead the life you want. My biggest mistake was in believing my life should be run like a democracy, where everyone has a say and a voice, where I have to campaign for what matters for me, where I have been outvoted. Well… that is a thing of the past, never again. I’ve been taking steps forward.
Amandah says
Most people, myself included, at some point fall into the trap of believing “life owes me something,” because of the environment we were raised in as a child. Shaking off the ’stink’ of a crappy childhood isn’t cut and dry or easy. It can takes months or even years of self-reflection and counseling. You must be willing to forgive your parents, grandparents, etc. and have the courage to choose a different path. This may include severing ties with those you call “family.”
Also, there’s no guarantee that because you take action (inspired, or not) you’ll receive (fill in the blank). If you’re chasing a dream that isn’t meant for you, you can waste a lot of time and energy. You have to know when to cut your losses and find something else to do – something that’s right for you.
Being “stuck in your current life situation” is tricky because if you want to move to another city, state, or country, it takes money. If you don’t have the funds to move then you will be “stuck” in your current life situation. However, you CAN always take steps forwards by finding or creating the right work, which will provide you with a means to an end: money so you can move.
What I’ve learned from your blog and book over the past few years is that there is always a small step you can take. I have been taking these small steps every day since, and I’m seeing progress in my life.
Another key takeaway from your work: It’s so vitally important to examine any false belief you have because it may not be yours. You could have picked it up from your parents, grandparents, teachers, friends, siblings, etc. If you discover that a negative belief is not yours, drop it and take a bold step forward.
Dee says
You guys are hitting closer and closer to home with every post I read. Or maybe I’m moving “home”, closer to where it belongs. Either way, I’m appreciative.
alfie says
I actually feel many of the signs you mentioned above, especially as it relates to my job. But I have a problem, I just got a pay increase from my boss recently. I mean like 70% increase from my previous salary. Which I think is because I’m doing well (even if the boss didn’t say I was). Do I need to step forward now or just be content with my job?
Denise says
Oh yes, I’ve definitely done all of those things at some point and still get caught up from time to time, even today. The main thing is to be aware of it – only then can you do something positive about it.
Mark says
I’m ‘old’ now and have seen a lot of myself at different stages in life.
My lesson, above all, love each of yourselves.
Christina says
@Alfie: I recently took a new job for more money and I hate it! I would say, unless you are in dire financial straits, never take or stay in a job you don’t like just for the money. Your happiness is not worth it. I learned this the hard way.
Kay says
OMG….to have it all put into words is so liberating !! Until now the items on this list have been vague yet sharp daggers into my soul. To have these ideas put into words makes them conquerable. Thank you.
Harika says
Hi, I enjoy your posts, and think it offers great advice, so thank you very much! I have a few suggestions to make it even better, I believe it’d be better to summarize (with actual subheadings) to remind and wrap them up in the end and keep the posts a bit shorter (I know it is hard) and digestible for readers having less time to be able to read them all. Thanks a lot!
Dewi says
It’s so easy to let our fears take over our dreams.
I recently pictured one of my biggest fears, getting eaten by a shark, and changed the outcome. My legs were as strong as metal and the shark broke his teeth in the process. I thought about this again and again, with great visual pictures. I felt much more confident the following day and for the first time in a long time the constant pains that I have had in my legs has ceased…I am awestruck by the power of thought. Dreams work the same, as you explain so well, thanks for the post.
Déwi
Julie says
I am here. I do it all. I know this post was from my guides affirming that I am ready and able to live differently. Thank you.
Capri says
I am a caregiver and as much as I love my spouse, I resent the choices (or lack thereof) that he has made in the past that have led us to where we are right now in regards to the forefront status of his health issues. Being a caregiver and managing every aspect of another adult’s life while keeping the family financially afloat is exhausting. And, where is the rest of the family? No where to be seen.
I am guilty of letting his poor past choices dominate our lives. I fear that we may lose everything we have worked for our whole lives just to keep him alive and happy while his mental state causes him to focus on everything he has already lost…the ability to work and provide for his family, the possessions he felt were so important – his truck, our home, his yard (which he took great pride in) – all these things are gone and how I am the breadwinner who just lost her job at the end of last year’s school year.
The burden on caregivers is in.cred.ible and resources for aide when the person needing care is under 65 are non-existent.
–Overwhelmed.
Melissa Wilson says
Such great points here. Our minds can really cause us so much trouble sometimes. It’s so easy to slip into some of these bad habits. When I find myself slipping into an unhealthy mindset I try to become aware of it and stop myself. For instance, if I find myself complaining too much, I try to think about things I am grateful for instead. Sometimes I think it’s better to just be in the moment and not think about things too much. This way your mind can’t betray you.
Dawn says
#3 My current supervisor loves to complain daily and I’m in the same office space with her. I’m trying to take baby steps to make sure I dont fall into that trap by looking at the positives in everything. I’m recently separated and I have found great strength from your blogs and book over the past 6 months. Thank you! It’s a long road ahead, but whenever I get overwhelmed I remind myself of a few things…I cant control others, only myself, and live in the present moment. Some days that is more difficult than others. Your blogs always bring me back to where I need to be…thanks again!
Yvonne says
My boyfriend from time to time states that the past was the best times he had ever had and had done everything he wanted to do in life. If he died tomorrow he would be satisfied. It is so irritating because he talks about his past and high school all the time. I ask about the future and he said he doesn’t really think about the future.
tara dillard says
Realized, years ago, I must ask myself, “What would I do tomorrow if I were not AFRAID?”
Kaboom. Answers that are not fear based.
Changed my life, still does.
Garden & Be Well, XO Tara
David Rapp says
Fear is an emotion, which means there is a thought preceding it. No matter how brief, there is a thought. Outside of physical danger, your thinking creates the fear. It’s the same with anxiety, confusion, etc. I do this all the time, and bi-polar folks like myself are particularly prone to it. If you do it over and over again, it becomes a belief. So I disagree with the difference between a thought and a belief.
But the theme of this post is taking a step forward. So what is the step we are talking about? Is it to recognize and change your thinking traps? Or is that a precursor to taking the next, unidentified, step?
I’d like to adjust the context of taking the a step forward into the unknown. Instead of thinking it as an overcoming fear process, look at it as exploring. If you were on vacation in Hawaii, would you stay in your hotel room for a week? Just go to the pool? NO! You would explore because its fun! So go have some fun and explore!
Sandy says
I now recognize that I am stuck with what is described in point #2 “You’ve been busy trying to satisfy everyone else’s expectations.” Ever since my childhood times that I can remember of, this has been the case. At times, this makes me blame people who imposed their opinions on me. It is really painful to subdue one’s own inner voice and live up to others’ expectations.
Your blog has opened my eyes – I take this moment to resolve firmly that I will put in my efforts to stay positive and lead my life according to my inner calling.
Thanks !!
Tyler says
So I recently got turned onto this blog through my app Zite and have been reading ever since.
Reading this article is something that I needed to read this morning. Currently I am trying to finish up my degree in school and it’s to the point in my college career, where I am constantly being tested on my knowledge. The subject is very challenging and I have been considering whether I should keep going.
Point #5 hit the nail right on the head for me. I have been afraid of failing so much that I am unable to start succeeding. My mind has done this to me whenever things get hard and it wants to give up, throw in the towel. I tend to over analyze and look at the big picture instead of breaking it down to its core where it’s not as scary.
I figure as long as I am consistently seeking improvement and learning to love failure, then I will be successful and win out my own worst enemy.
Thank you to Marc and Angel for this blog post!
Michelle S says
@ Tara. You are freaking awesome!!! I never, ever, thought of thinking like that. I’m one who sticks with the “norm” and take a chance on something new once in a while. I thought of two thing immediately, and smiled because those are the two things I should absolutely do, if for no other reason, than the fact they popped into my head as soon as I read your daily question. Kaboom is right. I’m such a silly girl!! I’m 46, not dead 🙂 Have a fabulous day!!
Dan says
Points 3, 4 and 9 are my areas for improvement! I am struggling through the aftermath of a messy breakup, and am really struggling to move on. I have always resisted change, trying to keep the past going (despite the realisation that what was the past has already changed). And I realise I have been stuck in a rut blaming my ex-partner for making me feel so down, when it is my own thoughts about the situation that are bringing me down. Trying hard to focus on the positives! Your blog helps so much!
Colleen says
I am a recent widow…….I’m caught in all of these.
Sai says
Why is it your posts always come at exactly the right moment? This speaks so loudly to me today, and you are on my gratitude list today for the goodness that you send out every time you hit “Send.”
Marty says
Great post. I am the opposite of #4. I don’t blame others, I blame myself. I know this all relates back to #1….feeling as if you are not good enough. It is something I work on every single day. Most days I succeed at getting my thinking right. Some days, not so well.
@Harika – I disagree. Trying to keep all posts “short and sweet” just doesn’t always work. Frequently, the “point” of each item doesn’t necessarily hit me as something that applies to me. But in reading the examples and explanations, I find that a lot of the time, it DOES apply to me. And many times it will take all the “extra words” to get it to really sink in, at least for me. We all have limits on our time. I often have to just save these to read later, sometimes days later. For me, they are important enough to read that I will make time.
Dr.Mayank says
Motivating and thought-provoking! Keep up the good work, as I usually get a boost from what you share!!!
Shella says
I, too, am guilty of allowing my life to be run by others as in actively seeking, lobbying for & waiting for approval to move forward with what I wanted to. Perhaps this is what happens to women who are raised to be submissive? Well, after 20+ years of not feeling good about how things had been going (including unfinished college, lagging career, hobbies, home improvements, and personal friendships), I chose a different path – one where I am self-empowered to pursue my interests without waiting for the “blessing” of my nearest and dearest. I no longer allow myself to be victimized by questioning statements like “Is what you want to do in the best interest of the family?” If it makes me a better, more fulfilled, more qualified person it is absolutely in the best interest of the family!
Steve says
This is another great and poignant list of ways of thinking and being.
For me, every time I read such a list, it further reinforces my new ways of thinking and being. This is the type of list I will print and refer to again and again. And underlying all of these lists, readings – my new ways of thinking and being – is my willingness and acceptance that I do need to have reinforcement to achieve my new ways of thinking and being, by reading such lists, and other aspirational writings. No one gets to a place where they’re ‘fixed’, I bet even Marc and Angel 🙂 But I can (and everyone who wants to can) put in place reminders of the way I want to be knowing that my new ways of thinking and being is a progression, a journey, that lasts the rest of my life. Once I realized this, I stopped discounting the moments and myself for the times I backslid into my old thoughts. I simply became better at catching myself, reframing my thoughts or actions, and re-continued again forward. Now, backsliding still happens, but less often, and for lesser amounts of time. I am happier with myself every day.
Betsy says
Oh my gosh, #7 & #9 – letting my fear decide my future, and resisting change.
@Colleen, am in the same boat. Keep reading these posts, they really speak to us. The comments from others help so much. One day at a time.
@David Rapp, just “thank you.”
Thank you both for another great post. Am making some changes, baby steps, and one day at a time.
Justine says
Thanks for another amazing post!
You always seem to post just the right thing at just the right time 🙂
Keep up the good work!
Lori says
All great points that I need to start working on. The only problem I have is with #3 where it says no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. I am struggling with the death of a loved one right now. I am sad. A family member’s death is sad. I don’t choose to allow myself to be sad. I just am. It is a sad situation and I don’t know anyone who is not sad when someone they love dies. I guess I don’t agree with that statement as it pertains to death.
Ananya says
The many times I’ve thought it to be the right time to move forward, something or the other has stopped me! And there you are spelling all my problems out and giving me direction as well! I appreciate it!
saurabhlove says
“I am not good enough ” is one of the most damaging thoughts that we could think. When we say that we are incapable of doing something; we undervalue our self-worth and we overvalue our problems. If we want to move forward in life; it is imperative to love and appreciate ourselves. Not being enough is a ” self-image ” and it can be changed by the acts of self forgiveness and not holding yourself responsible for everything that is wrong in your life . We all make mistakes and its OK not be perfect.
Angel, a beautiful article as always.
Halifa Sanin Auwal says
Thank you Marc And Angel.
Vernon says
thank you.
Sherry Nist says
We all make a choice, every moment of each and every day. That choice is attitude towards our world and what is “happening” to us. That choice can be positive or negative; the outcome shall conversely follow. Only “we” control ourselves; life events and other people do NOT control us, UNLESS we choose to let them. When we truly realize this, we are free to live forward despite the often difficult choices we must make in removing toxic people and influences in our lives.
TJ says
@Lori – First of all, so sorry for your loss. What you’re talking about is the natural grieving process we all go through when we lose someone. That is to be expected. I don’t think they intended #3 to apply to that situation but more so to issues and events that we ultimately have no control over and may or may not impact us directly. Take care.
Neha Raj Singh says
Very inspiring blog. I loved every bit of it. I couldn’t agree more with your last point. Most of us don’t utilize our full potential because we don’t want to go out of our comfort zone and challenge ourselves. We should not get petrified with changes.
Deborah Shelby says
This is such a great post, Angel. It could also have been called 9 Lessons We Should All Teach Our Children (or 9 Lessons I Wish My Coworkers Knew, LOL!)
I especially love in #6 “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?” and the reminder in #3 to stop complaining.
All nine lessons are important for all of us. Thank you.
R.A.Burch says
Insightful post! I just wish that I had seen it during my “drift” years (as Napoleon Hill called it). People who are depressed and/or angry-at-the world types think about these 9 things all_the_time! They get beyond their emotional-mental pain only when they (at least subconsciously) begin to make drastic changes in their lives!
Captain Kirk says
Marc and Angel…
You are talented and gifted writers – and life coaches.
After reading this post, the most compelling truth is your BOTTOM LINE:
“All of your personal growth and much of your joy in life will come from your encounters with new experiences, and hence there is no greater commitment than to embrace an endlessly changing horizon.”
Eloquently described and applicable to all of us!
And in return for your affirmation, I offer one for you and your audience:
Live daringly, boldly, fearlessly, and embrace the challenges…so you may feel the exhilaration of VICTORY!
Thank you for stimulating our minds…and moving our hearts.
Becca Britten says
Sometimes we all get stuck. It’s in the moving forward that life seems to count the most. Even when it’s painful to realize we’ve had it backward for a long time. Thank you for posting yet another wonderful and deep piece.
Sebastian Aiden Daniels says
I struggle or have struggled with most of them. I think letting fear decide your future is such a hard one to fight but it is an important to if you want to succeed. I have consciously started to fight my fear and many of my biggest gains have been from being able to do this. As the old saying goes, Fear = False Evidence Appearing Real. It is so true. So much of it is in our heads. Thank you for the reminder to keep taking steps forward.
Janine Hudon says
Some can be overwhelmed with enough tragedies that they question survival and improvements become a luxury. The lottery goes both ways. Love your articles though!
Fayaz Pasha says
Dear M & A, Hi,
You have rightly said it and the sentence below covers almost 79% of the population who live like slaves and the rest 20% are behind bars.
“A person does not have to be behind bars to be a prisoner. People can be prisoners of their own concepts, choices and ideas”.
Joseph Jameson says
It seems all my favorite blog authors are saying the same thing right now, and I’m a big believer that too many things being coincidental is no longer a coincidence. I think you get shown where to go or what to do, but then it’s up to you to keep moving forward, even if you fall on your face. Choice is present in everything, whether you get back up, or decide being knocked down is where you want to be. I think it’s time I took a harder look at my own life.
Jessie says
These tips are good but in reality, you must have the courage to follow this and have backup plans because it is not easy to transition from a stable job to take a step forward and have a freedom to do what you want.
Kathryn Bryant says
Couldn’t have put it better myself! Great article and totally agree with it all. Too many of us live our lives according to other people’s expectations rather than what we actually want for ourselves, but we don’t even realise we’re doing it. It’s all about making the conscious decision to change things for ourselves starting with our thoughts and then our actions. and working through the fear. We have one life so let’s make the most of it.
Angel Chernoff says
@Amandah: As always, inspiring insight. Thank you!
@Alfie: When the high of the higher salary dissipates, will you find yourself in the same exact predicament prior to the pay raise? If so, you may need to step forward in another way.
@Harika: Always open to feedback, thank you!
@Capri: No matter what’s happening, anyone can efficiently fight the battles of just one day. It’s only when you add the battles of those two abysmal eternities, yesterday and tomorrow, that life gets overwhelmingly complicated. Realize that it’s not the experience of today that holds you back and drives you crazy, but the regret and resentment about something that happened yesterday or the fear and dread of what tomorrow might bring. It’s necessary, therefore, to let yourself live just one day at a time – just today – just right here, right now.
@Yvonne: Our entire lifespan is simply composed of ‘right nows.’ The best is not in front of you or behind you. It’s within you always in each moment.
So my challenge to your boyfriend is this: Open your eyes. Wake up. Be attentive. Appreciate this moment for what it is. Regard the present as another chance to enjoy the sights, sounds, smells and sensations life has to offer. Enjoy the big things that we often mistake as little things.
@David Rapp: I like the analogy. The next step can be known or unknown, but most of all it needs to be a positive step forward, out of your comfort zone.
@Shella: If you do not love yourself, you’re not much good to anyone else. Continue to put yourself first.
@Steve: Well said. One bite at a time… you’re an inspiration. =)
@Lori: I am sorry to hear of your loss. You’re right, death is sad, there is no way around it. In the future, you’ll have the choice to focus on the loss or relish in the beautiful memories. Hopefully you can find the strength to choose the latter.
@Captain Kirk: Love it!
@All: The most prolific days of your life won’t likely be easy. It’s not in the serenity of your comfort zone or the inactivity of a lazy day that drives greatness. I challenge you today to own your situation and continue to take positive steps forward. Thank you for sharing your strength and ambition as you move towards better days. You are all an inspiration to us!
ikechi says
Looking at this 9 points, I must say that you are right about them being heartbreaking. I see most people who don’t move forward display these mindsets. Thanks for sharing
Andrew says
Brilliant. Simply brilliant. I have just found your blogs and posts. This is a new journey for me – I just hope my wife joins me. Thank you.