Life is to be enjoyed and appreciated, not endured and tolerated.
In life, unnecessary tolerations can bleed you of energy and make it impossible for you to function effectively. You can’t live a happy, successful, fulfilling life when you’re spending all your energy tolerating things that shouldn’t be tolerated. Sometimes you need to put your foot down.
In our line of work, Angel and I hear from hundreds of coaching clients, book readers and blog subscribers (subscribe here) every month who have been tolerating the wrong things for far too long. If you feel like you have been too, here are some things to stop tolerating in your life:
- A negative attitude – Choose to be unhappy and you will find a million reasons to complain and frown. Choose to be happy and you will find a million reasons to smile.
- Drama circles – Don’t get caught up in judging and gossiping. Don’t give in to the negativity and drama around you. Be positive. Give people a piece of your heart rather than a piece of your mind. Life is too short to be spent talking about people and stirring up trouble that has no substance. Instead, get caught up in being thankful and being way nicer than necessary.
- That nagging thought that you could have been kinder – The smallest act of kindness is worth more than the grandest intention. How you make others feel about themselves, says a whole lot about you. So treat people right. Kindness IS a gift you can afford to give. Be the sweetness in someone’s bitterness and the light in someone’s darkness. Always be kinder than you feel.
- Self-deprecating thoughts – If you feel like others aren’t treating you with love and respect, check your price tag. Perhaps you subconsciously marked yourself down. Because it’s YOU who tells others what you’re worth by showing them what you are willing to accept for your time and attention. So get off the clearance rack. If you don’t value and respect yourself, wholeheartedly, no one else will either.
- A present preoccupied with a painful past – The first step to living the life you want is leaving behind the life you don’t want. Letting go of the past is your first step towards happiness. You are here for a special reason. Stop being a prisoner of your past. Become the architect of your present. Learn from your regrets, but do not punish yourself with them. Live beyond your scars and focus on the profound possibilities that await your immediate attention.
- Being too busy and scattered-brained to appreciate life’s sweetness – It’s so hard to forget pain, but sometimes it’s even harder to remember the sweetness of life. We have no scar to show for happiness. And times of blissful peace are rarely impactful, unless we are mindfully present. Surround yourself with beautiful things, by noticing them. Life has a lot of grey and sadness – you really have to look for that rainbow and frame it. There is beauty in everything; sometimes you just have to look a little harder to see it. (Angel and I discuss this in detail in the “Happiness” chapter of 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.)
- Expectations of perfection – Life will never be perfect, no matter how hard you try. Even if you pour your heart and soul into it, you will never achieve a state of absolute perfection. There will always be moments of uncertainty; there will always be days where nothing goes right. But as time rolls on you will learn that even the most imperfect situations can be made better with a little love and laughter.
- A lack of personal responsibility – In every situation you have ever been in, positive or negative, the one common thread is you. Responsibility means recognizing that regardless of what has happened up to this point in your life, you are capable of making choices to change your situation, or to change the way you think about it.
- An obsession with control – When you’re younger, you exhaust yourself trying to take charge of everything in your life, other people, and all situations. Then one day it dawns on you that you will never gain control until you lose the need to have it – until you can simply let it be OK, to not be perfectly OK. When you’re wearing yourself ragged trying to juggle the outcome of everything happening around you, it’s time to stop, take a breath, and remind yourself that the only things you can truly control, are what choices you will make, and how much control you will give to the fear that you’re feeling.
- Feeling guilty for not being able to do it all – How freeing would it be to not feel guilty about the things you “should” be doing every single second? Yes, it’s healthy to work diligently on meaningful goals, but don’t berate yourself for not doing more than you’re able to. Find your balance between activity and recovery. Learn to let go and relax when you need a break.
- The idea that happiness can only be found in the future – If you’re smiling right now, you’re doing it right. The future is being born every second in your thoughts and actions. Choose to make it the best it can possibly be. Stop waiting for “if only” and start living “no matter what.”
- Not appreciating what you have while you have it – Sometimes we end up cheating on others and ourselves simply because we pay more attention to what we’re missing, rather than what we have. When you get something small, you want more. When you get more, you desire even more. But when you lose everything, you realize the small things were really the big things. So don’t go looking for something better every second. Instead of thinking about what you’re missing, think about what you have that so many others are missing.
- A worry list that’s longer than your gratitude list – What worries you, masters you. Stress thrives when your worry list is longer than your gratitude list. Happiness thrives when your gratitude list is longer than your worry list. So find something to be thankful for. And remember, pretending to be happy when you’re struggling is just a small example of how strong you are as a person.
- Inner resistance to what is – In this moment, surrender to what is, and love it. Know that what is meant to be is already happening – even if it feels difficult or awkward. Experience a miracle simply by shifting your perspective. And know that like all things, this too shall pass. (Read Loving What Is.)
- Letting the situations that didn’t work out define you – Sometimes transitions in life are the perfect opportunity to let go of one situation to embrace something better coming your way. Please don’t ever let life’s uncontrollable circumstances define you or give you an excuse to be nasty. Life is designed to test your commitment to who you say you are. Stand strong. Define yourself. Keep going. Keep growing.
- Social conditioning – Knowing who you are is one thing, but truly believing and living as yourself is another. With all the social conditioning in our society we sometimes forget to stay true to ourselves. Don’t lose yourself out there. You can’t attract the right people into your life when you’re pretending to be someone else. So be yourself, and if you can’t find a group whose values and consciousness matches your own, be the source of one. Others with like values and consciousness will be drawn to you.
- Focusing too much on the wrong people – Wrong things happen when you trust and worry about the wrong people. Embrace this fact. Don’t let the people who do so little for you, control so much of your feelings and emotions. Don’t make too much time for people who rarely make time for you, or who only make time for you when it’s convenient for them. Know your worth. Know the difference between what you’re getting from people and what you deserve, and stand your ground. It’s better to let them walk away from you, rather than all over you.
- Dishonesty – In life and business, our reputation is always more important than our next paycheck, and our integrity is worth more than our next thrill. A cheater’s punishment is to live a life of mistrust and uncertainty. They live in constant fear that the people they cheated on will also cheat on them.
- Insincere apologies – You can’t just say it; you have to show it – you actually have to make a change. Don’t make insincere apologies, and don’t put up with those who do.
- Excessive anger – The one that angers you, controls you. Know this. We sometimes think that hating is a weapon that attacks people we don’t like, but hatred is a curved blade, and the harm we do, we do to ourselves.
- Arguments with antagonistic people – When we slum it around low vibrational, negative people, we’re pulled down. Don’t waste words on people who deserve your silence. Sometimes the most powerful thing you can say is nothing at all. Learning to ignore certain people is one of the great paths to inner peace.
- Grudges and resentments – Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace. Free yourself of the burden of being an eternal victim, and move forward with or without them.
- Old, inefficient habits – Just because you’ve always done it, doesn’t mean you have to continue. Just because you’ve never done it, doesn’t mean you can’t start now.
- Empty complaints – Being annoyed never helps. Letting it go does. Doing something about it does. But just sitting around today complaining about yesterday, won’t make tomorrow any brighter. (Read The How of Happiness.)
- Lingering excuses – It is better to offer no excuse than a bad one over and over again. So forget what you can’t do. Focus on what you will do. Make the commitment to move forward no matter what, and honor this commitment every day.
- A stagnant routine – Remember, the most important currency in life is experience. Money comes and goes, but your experiences stay with you until your very last breath. So don’t be afraid to mix things up and challenge yourself with new life experiences. Sometimes a break from your routine is the very thing you need.
- Too much needless excess – When things aren’t adding up in your life, start subtracting. Life gets easier when you delete the things and people that make it difficult. Get rid of some of life’s complexities so you can spend more time with people you love and do more of the things you love. This means getting rid of the mental and physical clutter, and eliminating all but the essential, so you are left with only that which gives you value.
And remember, life is change, but growth is optional. So choose wisely, starting now. Stop tolerating what shouldn’t be tolerated. Let today be the first day of the rest of your new life.
Your turn…
What do you tolerate too often? Which of the points in this article do you sometimes struggle with? Leave a comment below and share your thoughts.
Photo by: Sara V.
Kev says
Right now 2, 16, and 17, or some variation thereof, is what I struggle with.
What I am learning is that just because a person’s perception of how things are is their reality, doesn’t mean it has to be your realty… and doesn’t necessarily make it your truth. We all experience the same thing differently and that alters our perception. Some of the people who love you will see things much different than you, and that’s OK.
Susan Rae says
I’ve struggled with many of these points, but for me right now it’s all about the first one. My negativity always sneaks up on me. Through your coaching, and other sources of support, I’ve learned that perspective and attitude are key skills in life. It’s how you look at it, how you react or respond and how you continue to grow.
And now, here’s a plug for your 1,000 Little Things book. I love it!!! I encourage everyone here to support Marc and Angel. I was told once that you should financially support that which helps you grow spiritually. Marc and Angel do this every day for everyone out there with their free posts. Please support them by buying their book. I copy small excepts out and share them with my kids and close friends.
Thanks again for all your wonderful posts!
JOHNSON says
Nice article. It helps me a lot. Thanks.
Matt Palka says
When I read this post it honestly felt like you were sitting right here with me, giving me the advice I need to hear right now. So many of the points resonate deeply. Thank you for that. This is one of my favorite posts you have written in the last couple of months – simple reminders that really hit home.
Above all, a variation of your 5th point in this post is what I am desperately struggling with at the moment. It has to do with a broken family relationship. I taking it one day at a time, and trying to me more present and forward thinking.
As you stated in the relationships chapter of your book (which, like Susan, I love and reference almost daily), you have to choose your relationships wisely, because being alone will never cause as much loneliness as the wrong relationships. I have had someone in my life who has been extremely abusive to me, purposely making my life difficult on many levels. I am just beginning to stand up for myself and take my life back.
Michelle says
This post is so accurate I just had to share it! In my opinion, most of these things hold us back so often and it’s hard to determine when and where we became so preoccupied with tolerating them. Great thoughts! Thanks!
Dr. Kuang Ching Hei says
Many thanks for all your uplifting articles and emails. I enjoy reading them over and over again. I also forward them to my friends.
Terrence J. White says
The greatest #power of any living being is the ability to #give and share. Taking is much easier so let’s look at some examples. Say your working at a store and a customer comes in and needs to return a product. The return date has passed but you know you can still process the transaction. It will take 30 minutes of your time. Right now you are thinking about your self – the #time, the effort, the process, what it will take out of you to do it. What is the other person going through or experiencing emotionally..? Let’s look at things from the other persons point of view. What if this person is looking to make this return because it was an #impulse buy and, unknowingly, they over drafted their account and now need the return #money to make rent. What if it’s a young person sent to the store by their parent. Their #family does not have a car and their parent needs the product exchanged for some #health reason. It has taken the young person 20 minutes to walk to your location. There is no denying that we are innately self thinkers. What if for one day we all took the time to think selflessly for one person. To give our undivided attention to someone who cares for us or needs caring. Think of how your actions can spark #change in another.
This is one way to reduce stress and create happiness in the world.
Lowena says
Right now I had to deal with #2 (with friends) and have been avoiding it for a while. Sometimes it is really hard when it is constantly being shoved in your face no matter where I went.
This post really shows a lot of honest points about why we are stressful and I could relate to each and everyone one of them. Thank you for posting it.
Joy says
22. – forgive others. Relationships are a two way street. True forgiveness can only happen with repentance, a sorry and a commitment to amend the poor behavior. Then the relationship can move on and grow. ‘Letting go,’ is the most we can hope for, without an apology. I think forgiveness is often confused with letting go.
Sindhu says
Very useful message for everyone.
Also, I think the fact that we can also share our past struggles with others helps. Sometimes even we are proud that we have overcome certain situations.
Great article!
Heather says
Another wise and wonderful post! In my life I’m struggling with depression and loneliness after several losses. Family relationships have fallen apart and often I ruminate on how it used to be. Your posts help me back on the journey forward. Also, I reference your book a lot. It has become my inspirational read. Thank you.
Nickolas says
Numbers 20 and 27 speak to me in particular today, though all of these are good. It is true, the more angry you get, the more locked in you get. I think anger is normal, but I’m learning to handle it better: merely being aware of it instead of reacting to it immediately. Then I make a healthy escape and consider my next move. I learned that the calmer I remain, even if only on the surface, the quicker the anger subsides. The event that caused the anger doesn’t stick in my mind. I also learned to feel the “jitters” inside me when I get angry, and I tend to do nothing until they’ve gone, which may even take a few days, even if you’ve handled the situation correctly.
Ryan says
Great, comprehensive list. 6, 7, and 10 (scatterbrained, perfection, and guilt for coming up short) are still the sticking points I have to work on. Indeed, I still tolerate these three too much.
However, the coolest thing I got out of today’s read was to realize that I used to be a victim of ALL of these issues, and I really HAVE let go of so many of them that used to run my life. Often, I don’t give myself much credit for progress, until an article like this slaps me in the head and says, “See? You’re doing great! Just keep going!”
Thanks again. =)
Mary Spiegel says
I tolerated people who took my kids away when I was psychotic 20 years ago. I was not taken to the hospital, could not feed my own kids and was left with 3 mortgages and back taxes caused by my husband and I losing 250,000 inheritance and not paying off our little house. I watched everyone have a life but me while I worked at stupid jobs while trying to find out what was wrong with me. I know now and have Jesus to look forward too, but don’t have my family. I needed to pray more for my family. God says he wants us to have a sound mind, the power of the Holy Spirit, and love. I am ready to put my foot down.
Lynne Zendel says
Thank you for your inspirational words. What you have outlined here is simple, yet profound. Working on these skills is part of the work of being human.
saurabhlove says
For me it is expectation of perfection. Planning to do things in a perfect manner is same as signing up for miseries. Perfection is like a ghost which no one has seen. Perfection often forces us to compare ourselves with other people. We need to let go of the illusion of perfection and follow the light inside us. A great post as usual, Marc.
Nistha says
Once again Marc and Angel proved they are the best. This article helped me in various way thank you.
Scarlett says
Thank you for another inspiring article.
I love this blog, it has changed my whole perspective of life and relationships.
I wish you had a version in Spanish so I could send it to my mother who will really appreciate the advice and life-hacks you give to all of us.
Thanks again!!
Matthew Eaton says
Some of these are always the hardest to maintain, especially if you are caught in the fixed mindset. You think things need to be perfect out of the box and that is often so far from the truth.
I had to go through some low valleys in the last two to three years simply because I wasn’t willing to do things from this list until it was too late. I’m better for doing it at all, but it would have helped out far sooner had I just swallowed my pride and went with it.
Thanks for sharing this with us!
David Rapp says
I have given away my health over my job, and have sacrificed my home to similar extent. I am on so much medication that I cannot even take more. We stopped inviting people over because our home is such a wreck. My wife is totally stressed out, it’s affecting our son, and I cannot calm down enough to even know how to start right now.
henry njue says
Wow! That’s superb article! We need give entire attention to only those who add value to our lives. Kudos you for uplifting us all, you are a true leader and we are behind you.
Melissa Wilson says
Excessive anger was something I used to tolerate too often because of unresolved issues from my past. Once I was able to forgive and move on then I was able to let go of the anger. I like #22 because it’s very true that forgiveness isn’t about them, it’s about you.
Sophie says
Incredible material, I love every point discussed here and so grateful that all this knowledge is given to me free of charge. May God bless you. I really need your book too, so please let me know who are the distributes down here in South Africa.
Camille Scielzi says
The biggest struggle continues to be walking in a steadfast faith of abundance, etc. will become a default state of being. My mind still weighs, and values, “success” against physical manifestations.
I’m grateful for all the positivity blogs, like this one, that provide the daily reminder to stay in that head space that places just as high a value on the actual growth phase rather than outcomes.
Thank you for your posts and other resources!
Shella says
#16 … “So be yourself, and if you can’t find a group whose values and consciousness matches your own, be the source of one. Others with like values and consciousness will be drawn to you.” Still looking/trying!!
Kathryn R. says
As usual your article is so timely! I have a bag of anger from the past and now the present,I was always afraid of anger as I grew up with it in my home and then married it and endured that for over 20 years, I have been on my own for some time now but denial which I lived in was far easier than what I have now which is so glaring!! I am a kind, sweet, full of empathy person but I am surrounded by grown children who are blunt,insensitive and harsh.I have loved these children to a fault and their father drank and bullied me so need I say more?? My tolerance level it has been pointed out is/was ‘over the top’ excessive, to the point of causing serious health conditions. I have lost time alright. No. 26, 17 and 4 are pertinent to me and my situation alright. I cannot be mad for the rest of my life but it seems like such a loss of a decent, good person what has gone before and how I coped with life and ‘not very nice’ people!! I am alone now, still attractive so I am told but really ‘does it all have to be so difficult and tough’, this thing called life??? I require some positive and kind reinforcements and a lot of hope and love I`d say!! I should welcome any encouraging thoughts and ideas!! Thank you!
Ruby says
This is a beautiful post. Taking more responsibility for my decisions and actions has been something I’ve had to deal with more over the last few months. It is really hard, but worth it.
Thanks for these great posts!
Carmen says
I resonate with 6,7,9 & 10. Currently working on de-cluttering certain areas in my life and enjoy more of the present. Thanks for the wisdom you share on each of your posts.
Kath says
You guys are awesome… Always just what I need, right when I need it. Thanks so much for all you do.
rEydan says
Thank you for this beautiful post.
Betsy says
#4, yes, I have put myself on the clearance rack – but I know I am worth full price, so I’m not on sale anymore. There are so many other points that resonate with me. The list of 27 is too long to pick them out.
So healthy and happy to hear other people share their comments here.
@David Rapp, I have read many of your comments. Hang in there, and remember, small baby steps, one at a time. Best wishes to you and your family.
Marc, any way to just buy your book 1,000 Little….without the ebooks and all the other things? Is your book available in stores? Thank you. Lots.
sameera says
i love this ….
‘ give people a piece of your heart rather than a piece of your mind’
and
…’ be the sweetness in someone’s bitterness and the light in someone’s darkness’
Alicia says
I stumbled across this site at just the right moment in my life. Reading this article reminds me that I am in the driver seat of my life and that there is real work that I can do to improve the life I have.
#17 is something that I have really been struggling with lately and I know that shifting my focus away from those people who aren’t focused on me will improve my happiness tremendously. Standing up for myself and holding out for what I deserve (being my best self) is worthy work.
Mindy says
2, 6, 16 & 17 (used to be 15 but I’ve overcome that) relate to me.
2 is hard for me to work on. I live in a small town and work in retail there. It’s a very gossipy town and even when I tell people I don’t want to hear the gossip or be involved they don’t listen and tell me anyways. It’s hard to walk away from customers… arg
#6 When I was diagnosed with depression I used to keep myself so busy that I wouldn’t have to think or deal with my emotions, not realizing I was missing out on so much
#16 I’m still in my 20s and believe we all go through a chunk of time when we’re finding out who we are. Unfortunately I couldn’t be myself until the last two years because I honestly didn’t know who I was. Took me 6+ years to find out but I’m getting there more and more everyday
#17 I tried my hardest to hold onto my old high school friends for years, yet I found it was always me doing the work of keeping in contact and planning to get together. I had one day where I looked at my Facebook list of friends and said no more. I haven’t talked to most of them in years proving that I really didn’t need them anymore. I’ve learned if they don’t want the commitment of friendship then I can find someone who can.
Becca Britten says
You know.. I can’t even pinpoint which ones out of that list I’m worst about because at different times in my life or even different days, I do them all. I think that this list encompasses the whole of humanity and our driving need to make ourselves feel bad when we shouldn’t be. I have long made this blog part of my daily routine and though I don’t often comment because I’m content to be a reader, it should be said that reading this blog EVERY morning should be part of anyone’s routine in a mission toward being happier every day and learning self worth. This one place on the net is the only place I found that consistently says exactly the right things, and it’s impossible to have a bad day after waking up to words of wisdom like this. I might have my faults for sure, and though I work to change for the better, I don’t often feel as though I’m carting around the world on my shoulders anymore. Since finding this, the world really seems like a much nicer place to be.
Diana says
Number 21 hit a chord with me. There are people in my life who I cannot just ignore completely; like they say, you can change your friends, but not your relatives.” It is hard for me to listen to their negativity, self-pity, lies, etc. so I usually just make an excuse and walk away from their drama. I don’t think I would use the word “hate” because I usually do have an excess of sympathy for others’ troubles. I just don’t like to share their darkness all the time, especially after having learned from you guys how to change myself. But we really cannot change others who really do not want to see the lights in their lives. I have resorted to becoming a sounding board for them until I can’t take it anymore and then I will leave them to their troubles hoping they will figure it out on their own (I believe everyone has this power). I, like others in this post, also recommend your web site, individual posts, and book, etc. to others. Your posts are an integral part of my life now and I want you to know how much you are appreciated.
Bello Ahmed says
4,6,8,14,15,16,23,25,26,27. May your efforts be crowned with success.
Charyll says
#10: Feeling guilty for not being able to do it all. After about the hundredth time of people telling me I am too hard on myself, it finally sunk in and I am making efforts to find more of a balance but it is something I still struggle with. Thank you for a great article.
l. stiefenhofer says
Loved the mention of giving “a piece of your heart” rather than “a piece of your mind”. Whatever result that may bring, there’s the chance of reversing things blamelessly, and in any case, one feels better doing that.
Sebastian Aiden Daniels says
You are right that having a worry list that is longer than a gratitude list will stress you out big time. I use to be that way and it is not worth it.
Empty complaints is also not an effective action to engage in. It just reinforces the behavior of complaining and you get sucked into a whirlwind of negativity. Take control like you said of your personal responsibility. This can help with stress levels.
kimutai says
Your articles make my mornings… yeah, the price tag analogy in this one is how you carry yourself and that is factor on our others will treat you… be it in family, workplace or in love….good insight there….thanks a lot.
Linda says
Your article couldn’t have come at a better time. I just started medical school and I’ve been struggling with many of these, especially 9, 10, 11 and 13. Thanks for posting this.
Marc Chernoff says
Everyone, as always, thank you so much for the kudos, the added insight, and most importantly for sharing a bit of yourself with us. I’m glad so many of you resonated with this post.
And finally… remember, life is too precious to stress yourself out by worrying about everything. Relax, have fun, and enjoy the learning process.
Hope you all are having a reduced-stress day. 😉
Rebecca_FeltBallRug says
This is a great article. I can only speak fully for myself, but I think most people would agree that they tolerate too many of these stressful things. A good friend of mine and I decided yesterday that each week we were going to decide one things we wanted to work or focus on and I think mine this week is the last one on this list, “getting rid of too much needless excess”. I’m known for adding more and more to my life without subtracting anything, partly because so much excites me. But this clutter because negative at some point. In the same way they recommend the first step for bringing balance to a room in Feng Shui is clearing it out, the same is true in our lives. So that’s where I’ll start this week 🙂
Thanks for the great thoughts!
elizabeth says
15 , 5 , and finally 7…gotta get it right….grrr…relax I know deep down. However knowing and doing two different animals. I have yet to be able to be able to see what next due to stuck in what derailed past/present/future. How do you get of hamster wheel when those you supported abandoned u in u r time of need?
Captain Kirk says
Marc…
My goal in life is to reduce STRESS. What does STRESSED spell when written backwards?
*** DESSERTS ***
Our desserts in life include:
Reduce stress
Increase peace
Discover happiness
Sing and dance with JOY
Admittedly, this new lifestyle is a work-in-progress and requires fire and desire, peseverance, and constant diligence.
Still, I have carved out a strategy that has been successful in my life. I describe this as the Five Fs.
The Five Fs (in this order of priority)
1 Faith
2. Family
3. Friends
4. Finances
5. Fun
These features of life are constantly in motion…..However, my living testimony proves that this strategy is a winning formula.
Enjoy your desserts!
Lynne says
Your post has truly resonated the feelings I have been feeling. Our busy lives have created much stress and causes us negativity. I have been struggling with an obsession with control. I don’t trust easily and prefer to do things on my own and have a hard time delegating work. I need to learn to trust and let go.
felicia says
I tend not to read the comments after your articles but today I felt keen to know more about how this is article relates to my specific and current experiences. I agree and feel exactly the same way as *Ryan, I enjoy these posts because they serve to remind of the progress I’m making. There is so much to be learnt and so much to be improved that I often feel inadequate when I should be praising myself for my achievements. If our best friend criticises us anywhere near as much as we self-criticise we would be none to satisfied. Therefore, we should endeavor to let ourselves reach the tier of a best friend to ourselves. Praise is encouraging and stabilizing.
JR says
Another VERY helpful and wise article….great words of wisdom. Thank you once again Marc and Angel!
I’ve been struggling with #17. Focusing too much on the wrong people, mainly because of loneliness, which is not an acceptable reason for holding on. #17 definitely hit home with me and I need to be stronger and let them walk away. They add more negativity than positivity to my life.
Anonymous says
Thank you!