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10 Things You Must Give Up to Move Forward


10 Things You Must Give Up to Move Forward

If you want to fly and move on to better things, you have to give up the things that weigh you down – which is not always as obvious and easy as it sounds.

Starting today, give up…

  1. Letting the opinions of others control your life. – People know your name, not your story.  They’ve heard what you’ve done, but not what you’ve been through.  So take their opinions of you with a grain of salt.  In the end, it’s not what others think, it’s what you think about yourself that counts.  Sometimes you have to do exactly what’s best for you and your life, not what’s best for everyone else.
  2. The shame of past failures. – You will fail sometimes, and that’s okay.  The faster you accept this, the faster you can get on with being brilliant.  Your past does not equal your future.  Just because you failed yesterday; or all day today; or a moment ago; or for the last six months; or for the last sixteen years, doesn’t have any impact on the current moment.  All that matters is what you do right now.  Read Awaken the Giant Within.
  3. Being indecisive about what you want. – You will never leave where you are until you decide where you would rather be.  It’s all about finding and pursuing your passion.  Neglecting passion blocks creative flow.  When you’re passionate, you’re energized.  Likewise, when you lack passion, your energy is low and unproductive.  Energy is everything when it comes to being successful.  Make a decision to figure out what you want, and then pursue it passionately.
  4. Procrastinating on the goals that matter to you. – There are two primary choices in life: to accept conditions as they exist, or accept the responsibility for changing them.  Follow your intuition.  Don’t give up trying to do what you really want to do.  When there is love and inspiration, you can’t go wrong.  And whatever it is you want to do, do it now.  There are only so many tomorrows.  Trust me, in a year from now, you will wish you had started today.
  5. Choosing to do nothing. – You don’t get to choose how you are going to die, or when.  You can only decide how you are going to live, right now.  Every day is a new chance to choose.  Choose to change your perspective.  Choose to flip the switch in your mind from negative to positive.  Choose to turn on the light and stop fretting about with insecurity and doubt.  Choose to do work that you are proud of.  Choose to see the best in others, and to show your best to others.  Choose to truly LIVE, right now.
  6. Your need to be right. – If you keep on saying you’re right, even if you are right now, eventually you will be wrong.  Aim for success, but never give up your right to be wrong.  Because when you do, you will also lose your ability to learn new things and move forward with your life.  Read The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.
  7. Running from problems that should be fixed. – We make life harder than it has to be.  The difficulties started when… conversations became texting, feelings became subliminal, sex became a game, the word ‘love’ fell out of context, trust faded as honesty waned, insecurities became a way of living, jealously became a habit, being hurt started to feel natural, and running away from it all became our solution.  Stop running!  Face these issues, fix the problems, communicate, appreciate, forgive and LOVE the people in your life who deserve it.
  8. Making excuses rather than decisions. – Life is a continuous exercise in creative problem solving.  A mistake doesn’t become a failure until you refuse to correct it. Thus, most long-term failures are the outcome of people who make excuses instead of decisions.
  9. Overlooking the positive points in your life. – What you see often depends entirely on what you’re looking for.  Do your best and surrender the rest.  When you stay stuck in regret of the life you think you should have had, you end up missing the beauty of what you do have.  You will have a hard time ever being happy if you aren’t thankful for the good things in your life right now.  Read The Happiness Project.
  10. Not appreciating the present moment. – We do not remember days, we remember moments.  Too often we try to accomplish something big without realizing that the greatest part of life is made up of the little things.  Live authentically and cherish each precious moment of your journey.  Because when you finally arrive at your desired destination, I guarantee you, another journey will begin.

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65 Comments

  • This post is just what I needed to get back on track today! Thank you so much, Marc!

  • Nothing but the truth in this post. Seriously, it’s awesome.

  • #7 is so freakin’ awesome! Love love love it!!

    Thank you for putting this advice out there.

  • Must agree with Sushi, Karel and Priscilla. This is a great way to kick off a new week. I’ll be very tired in the morning, but I’ll re-read this, and appreciate the moment even more. :-)

  • Priyanka paryani
    August 20th, 2012 at 5:30 am

    Dear marc and angel you people are amazing writers…
    Hats off to your wonderful efforts…
    Love and regards..
    Priyanka :)

  • Hats off to you guys ..

  • Thank you so much.
    his post reminds me of some decisions I need to make in my life, and some actions I need to take.

  • This is perfect for me today!! - I have spent two days stressing about which direction to move in for my new business and this was spot on!
    Thank you so much - I get something from each and everyone of your posts - always!

  • This came at the time when I really arrive at a crossroad. Thanks for giving me the courage to choose which direction to turn.

  • Definitely needed to hear these today.

  • Just what I needed to hear right when I needed to hear it. Thank you!

  • I’m going to print these out and carry them with me. I need to remember all of these in my life. Thank you for this and everything else that you guys do.

  • Thanks for such a great post. All apply.

  • This is great!! Especially the post #7, until I read this post this made me think that, I’m running through somewhat same situation… Thanks a lot!!
    I’m happy that I’ve subscribe to this blog.. It’s life changing, and very inspiring..

  • Great list and so true!
    Pursue your passion and go after your dreams with full energy - these are the keys in living a happy, fulfilling life! :)

  • It is a very wonderful essay to read especially in these days. Sometimes you need to have something to push you pursuing through life, with strong faith that you can change.
    Thank you so much,,,

  • This is EXACTLY what I needed to read today. Thank you so much!

  • Marc and Angel, This Post Is One Of Your Best,But #7 Really Is So True, So True Thank You So Much For SHARING.

  • As and addict lover of your write-ups I always read in between the lines ‘cos there’s something that always inspires me- No 6 brings back some memory of my messy breakup wt my ex.

    BW Marc n Angel, other articles you’ve written have been my strength for the past 1 yr plus since I first stumbled on this blog, thank u!

  • This post could not be more appropriate for my life today. This is definitely one I will share in my blog and will keep to reread. Thank you for posting such great material!

  • Boy, #6 is so huge. We often don’t have any clue how many times we operate from the mindset of “needing to be right.”

    I remember Wayne Dyer telling a story of a parking lot gate operator running out in front of moving cars that were by-passing the toll gate. The guy was so invested in “being right” that he risked his life to prove his point.

    It’s so very limited in our growth and adventure to be so stuck in our single belief - defending our position.

  • Thanks for another wonderful post. Marc and Angel, you two are such positive forces in our world. You are both wise beyond your years. I have recommended your site to everyone I know and I hope you never go away. Thanks, again!

  • Number 5 is the main one for me to conquer!!

  • Just what I needed to read as a motivational speaker and author. I love this site, it is so rich..

  • I absolutely enjoy all the the great content that you guys put out! Without fail each & every day I’m hoping that I receive a new email from your Marc & Angel site. It’s always such a great blog to read before my feet hit the floor and I get my day started.
    Much Appreciation…

  • Love this! great points here.

  • Thank you for posting these uplifting words, it helps me and i apply it in my life. The past is gone, its buried, the future we don’t know yet. The present moment is all we can count on, why not focus on being happy and saying uplifting words to others. I remember someone told me monica you are number one. focus on you, and take negative comments as a grain of salt.

  • Thank you, this could not have happened at a better time. I’m about to implement huge changes in my life and have already implemented some of your advise, thank you Mark and Angel 😃

  • Kudos to you Marc for listing these things here. Isnt it true that all the things that we need to give up to move forward are things that are within us. These are our attitudes, opinions, world-view, perspective, philosophy of life if you may say so. The change has to come from inside-out. To move further in the right direction, we need the change from within which can propel us forward.

  • Just like the beasite boys said: “I Took Control Of My Life, Just As Anyone Can. I Want Everyone To See It’s In The Palm Of Your Hand”

    This is one of my favorite quotes. I try and live by it. And this post reminded me of it.

  • Definitely one of the best lists I’ve seen in a long while. Thanks.

  • Great and inspiring read. Just what I needed in this very moment. Thanks, Marc. :)

  • Your lists reframe my perspective all the time. Thank you!

    I do have one suggestion, though, based on experience:
    “Give up letting YOUR opinion of others control your feelings and life.”

    I’ve often noticed that I get bogged down by my judgments and assumptions about other people and their intentions, and it’s just not worth it.

  • Good tips. As always with lists such as these, I become aware of the things I need to work on.

  • Great blog, Marc and Angel!
    I’m going to add NEGATIVE SELF TALK to your list.

    All too often we believe the negative thoughts that swirl through our minds. Learning how to change, eliminate, or release these thoughts can help people move themselves to action MUCH FASTER.

  • I truly needed this right now! You are an angel! :D

  • Well put. The power of now, as Eckhart Tolle’s book is titled, is really the power that will drive our lives. So much of worry is living in the past or future. Cut out worry, and suddenly life blooms before you. Plan, but don’t worry. Planning requires decision-making, worry is circular mind chatter. The power of now is what I remind myself whenever I get overwhelmed or when I start leaving tasks unfinished because of all the things I want to do.
    Cheers to now.

  • Brilliant post!

    Point #1, “Letting the opinions of others control your life,” is a major killer spirit. If you live, breathe, and seek approval from others, you’re not really living.

    By the way…What’s not discussed is how your family can control and manipulate you with their opinions. There isn’t enough information on ‘how to’ stand in your power when it comes to family because we’re taught that ‘blood’ ties are the be all and end all. This isn’t true. Have the courage to let go of the opinions your family has about you. If you lose contact with them, so be it. You can make your own family by choosing to surround yourself with people who love, respect and support you, no matter what.

  • Thank you for the words of wisdom. I finally figured out what is “holding me back”. These reminders nailed it!

  • #7 is something I’ve been thinking about lately pretty much all put into one….. amazing, really!

  • Thank You
    I really got inspired

  • Great post! I always look forward to these inspirational (but not too preachy!) lists. #3, #4, and #5 are right up my ally when it comes to wanting to change my job situation. I know I’m unhappy with it, but I’m extremely INDECISIVE about what I want to do next. I’m a huge PROCRASTINATOR too! And I know I need to CHOOSE to change things for myself to live the life I want! (career-wise, since everything else I’m very content with and grateful for in my life). I’m printing this out and maybe hiding snippets of it around my cubicle tomorrow!

  • The essence and wisdom in all your messages are not possible without the inspiration from God. You both are blessed. Inculcating these wisdom that brings growth from within is what prayer is all about. I allot more time reading your messages than for prayer. It has helped me grow.

  • I’ve read quite a few of your posts and lists over the last six months and they have asked me some very thought provoking questions. You have also helped to lift me up when the world has been dragging me down. So it is a big thank you from me to both of you. Keep on inspiring people I/we need all the help we can get. It is just a shame some times we don’t ask or we don’t listen.
    Many thanks
    God Bless You
    Nige

  • Hey Marc, Thanks a lot for the share;
    I liked this one “A mistake doesn’t become a failure until you refuse to correct it.”
    Made my day. Cheers.

  • I swear, in the first 3 points, you just described me. And this post is so right about everything. Thanks so much.

  • Spectacular. So incredibly inspirational. Exactly what I needed. Thank you both so much.

  • I found your article via a friend’s Facebook page and felt so inspired. #1 really hit home with me. I am so thankful for you sharing this that I am going to do a series of blog posts about it on my website. Thank you for sharing, I will link back to here in each post. Thanks again, Bec

  • Nice. I’m gonna share this with my brother. I know he’ll like it.

  • I love this site, it always lifts me up when I feel down, thanks for making me think outside the box, and also for making me see the positives far outweigh the negatives.

  • My first time to your site and it won’t be the last. Thanks for your article its exactly what i needed to read and hear. I’m going to print this list and put it on my fridge. Thanks

  • Bless you so much for this good advice. I love it, and you.

  • Just want to say that I’ve had a miserable past few years and it’s still really bad but I stay focused on my goals and am willing to turn it all around. I’ve failed so many times but I’m willing to put it all on the line to change my life and follow my dreams. You should know that its never easy but you can do it. It takes a combination of many small steps just to finally see any result. Stay up, stay positive, wake up with a smile and love those who you have relationships with….much love

  • I LOVE THOSE REALITIES.

  • Thank you so much guys, these word are awesome.

  • Definitely what I needed to hear today. Thanks.

  • Thank you guys, I was looking for something to kick my family reunion start and this is it. Thanks.

  • This is the truth, the whole truth and by the way…It ain’t nuttin but the wholesome truth.

  • I am completely messed up right now. But the things written here are absolutely correct, I just need to focus on things that matters most rather than being devoured by negative thoughts.

  • This post really touched my heart today.

  • Susan Glenn Sheby
    October 30th, 2013 at 7:06 am

    Loved these “life tips”. I believe in these and think I live them, but when find yourself in a rut and see your life “code” in print a little different, maybe simply because it is when you can get a different view or the words are not in the same order, or it is simply the first time for the new year and its contents, anyway Thank You so very much for your “blog” on how to move forward, for me; Divine intervention… Amen.

  • Wow! This article tells it like it is…. So true and found at a time when it was much needed. Here’s to happy times x

  • Marc and Angel, you have no idea how this article moved me today. You know my name, but you don’t know my story. Yet, you continue sharing something worth reading to the world and touched many others like me, who googled ”How to Move On With Life”. I can’t move on without saying my gratitude, ”Thank you so much!”.

  • “Yes I can…” is my mindset from now on…

  • I love this! Just what I needed to move on with my life. Thanks so much!

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